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[optima90]

Hi There,

I have been going out with a girl for the last two months and half,I'm 43 and she's 36, we getting on really well,we go dinner,lunch have coffe, we even travel together, but stay in different rooms, I started falling in love with her and I told her, but, her answer was she likes me like a friend and I'm dear to her, and that she's not prepaired yet for relationship.

I often kiss her and hug her but I don't get the same response from her, she's a bit cold doing these things.

I wonder what kind of relation is this and can it proceed any further to be a love relationship, I'm quite confused.

Thank in advance for the help.

[yeex]

In my opinion I would not have professed your love to her or whatever within two months of dating. Sounds like you are falling into the taking things too fast trap, which can scare women away. I would back off a bit and keep it casual and just approach it as dating. Don't call her as much and see if she seeks you out and that will help determine how to proceed.

[TaraMaiden]

She said no.

She stated right from the start that there is no possibility in her heart of becoming more than simply a friend to you.

Take the no as no.

I agree that you should cool your approach towards her and not be so affectionate, because this is perpetuating hope in your heart.

if she still responds, there may be a chance, yes?

no.

She enjoys the attention, I am sure.

But she has no intention of either stopping you (because she enjoys the attention ) or going any further (because she may not be taken with you romantically).

 

Try to detach, and find other ladies more receptive to your affections and overtures.

With this lady, you are getting nowhere.

[optima90]

Thank's for the advice,

 

But my question is why she keeps going out and travelling with me if she has no intention to develop This relation?

Might as well she should go and find somebody else.