branded17 Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I am a 17 year od senior in high school I am pretty attractive, athletic with a nice shape. I never really had a serious gf until now. She was new to my school and I met her and we started dating ever since. It has been three months since we have been 2gether. I am so in love with her. Trust me when I say I am the definition of a great guy. I buy her flowers just bcause i think about her when I go shopping so I will pick her up a polo or something. I treat her right. complement her, etc. I am not soft lol I just am a good guy far from soft. Anyway I am so in love with her that I decided to get her tattoo on my chest. I no it proably was stupid but its small and I always can get a new tat over it so I am not worried about that. She is going to get mine soon. 4 the past month I have been thinking that I am not as happy as I once was. When ever I want to hang out with her she doesn't want to. If I want to come over her house just 2 chill she says I cant because of whatever reason.I have only hung out with her twice. since our 3 month pd. We have arguements about it but nothing changes. She always fuss about how she pleases me and her family. But she doesn't do anything for me. Not 1 thing. I really love her but I dont like the fact I never can c her bsides 3 times in the hallway at school. This is not what I want. What should I do. Am I wrong for wanting to hang out with her more. I mean I do everything that I believe a man should do 4 a women he loves. Prom is comming up and at times I want to just call it quits. I dont feel as though she is using me or anything because she sometimes gives me money and even offered to give me her whole pay check. What should I do. I dont feel happy anymore. I want a girl that wants to hang out and I can come see her more than 5 min a week. Females what are your opinions
lance.dark Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 OK, even I can see that you're smothering her. You just need to back the **** off for a little while. Too much neediness is not attractive.
IrishCarBomb Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 tattoo of girl you've known for 3 months = Fatal Attraction
Kaii Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 OK, even I can see that you're smothering her. You just need to back the **** off for a little while. Too much neediness is not attractive. I don't think he is smothering her, I'm not sure where you got that from. He said he is only seeing her at school for the past month and is unhappy about that because she doesn't seem interested in making time for him. Not sure why you think that is smothering???? Granted, I do think the tattoo thing was a little premature considering you've only been going out for a few months. Anyway, I think you should do one of 2 things...either sit her down and have a serious talk about how you're feeling -OR- move on. You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you, don't spend your time being stuck with someone that makes you unhappy.
Author branded17 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 tattoo of girl you've known for 3 months = Fatal Attraction yes sadly i know this:sick: I just want 2 now am I to needy. Is she just not 4 me, shsould I look 4 sumelse?? need answers:mad: (Thank you kaii you gave me the first real answer) I will do that. any more suggestions
TigerCub Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I just think that you're definitely coming on too strong. You're not exactly smothering, but you are coming on too strong. I think its great when a guy likes to spoil his girl and get her flowers and gifts and stuff, so there's nothing wrong with that - the tattoo thing is a bit much, but its too late now, so that's all I'm gonna say about that. I'm guessing that she's pulling away because it seems like your feelings for her are extreme and now on top of all that, she's promising to get a tattoo of you - I'm guessing thats the main reason she's pulling back. I'm sure she volunteered to do it, because you did it for her, but now she's rethinking the whole thing and doesn't want to go through with it, and doesn't want to admit to it either.
Author branded17 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 ok I understand but it you and kaii answers both contradict each other. So I am still not sure yet. But at least I got 2 things established. I was stupid 4 getting the tattoo and I am going to let off a little.
carhill Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 The main reason I said "date her best friend" was to impress upon you two things: 1. You're young and relationships are transitory anyway 2. Asking her best friend out would likely piss her off. This is the best way to understand women. You never have to worry about the friendzone or them feeling too smothered when they're annoyed by you
thegoodlife Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I personally don't think you are coming on too strong (aside from the whole tattoo thing), but if she doesn't want to spend time with you, then it would be best for now to back off a little. The more you push the more she will pull away. If this keeps up though, then you definitely need to sit her down and ask her what's up and if she doesn't want to play an active role in this relationship anymore just end it.
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