wierdmunky Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Me and boyfriend broke up. We were going out a year, and we just didn't have that connection anymore. We still really like eachother, but he says it's not enough and says he knows I'm not ok with just the status quo. He says he still wants me in his life, and still wants me to come to his birthday dinner. I said I probably wont be able to go to that, and I could tell he was bummed so I said but if you really want me there I'll go. He said ok. He said he just feels like he doesn't have the time, and I had brought up before that I would rather know if things aren't going to work out early instead of just going with the flow and wasting time for who knows how long, it would be painful and not fair, and he agreed. So we decided to call it off. I don't know if he's over me or if he knows how bad I feel. But I'm really bummed. I didn't think it would hurt even more cutting it off early. I don't know if I could find another person like that again.
Cherished Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 My best advice is to not attend his birthday party and to have as little contact with him as possible to get him out of your system. You will be OK and eventually find the right man. Take care.
lovelinefan Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I don't know if I could find another person like that again This resonates with me. I have been having this feeling intensely almost every day - I don't really know how to get rid of it.
EmperorR Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Me and boyfriend broke up. We were going out a year, and we just didn't have that connection anymore. We still really like eachother, but he says it's not enough and says he knows I'm not ok with just the status quo. He says he still wants me in his life, and still wants me to come to his birthday dinner. I said I probably wont be able to go to that, and I could tell he was bummed so I said but if you really want me there I'll go. He said ok. He said he just feels like he doesn't have the time, and I had brought up before that I would rather know if things aren't going to work out early instead of just going with the flow and wasting time for who knows how long, it would be painful and not fair, and he agreed. So we decided to call it off. I don't know if he's over me or if he knows how bad I feel. But I'm really bummed. I didn't think it would hurt even more cutting it off early. I don't know if I could find another person like that again. Actually its not that hard to find a person who tosses you to the side like a coffee cup. You want to find someone who loves you the way you love them, I'd advice you to say thanks but no thanks to his bday party, and go No contact quickest way to heal knock him off the pedastool and get on with your life. Never be friends with a ex so quickly, and ah the typical "I still want you in my life " crap,
yadungon Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 My best advice is to not attend his birthday party and to have as little contact with him as possible to get him out of your system. You will be OK and eventually find the right man. Take care. 100% agree i sure you a beautiful girl, there many guy out there waiting for you. i think you ex-bf is a hypocrite. He said he still like you but he have to leave you. That bs. If he want to dump a girl just said it, now he want you to be around him. wtf is he a playboy? After you 2 break up did he get another gf?
andy2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 do not attend bd party and go strict NC for atleast 2 months
Author wierdmunky Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 Well thanks for all the reply's. I know I probably shouldn't. I just can't stop remembering the look on his face when I said no. After the party I would go full NC. He says it doesn't bother me when I text him. He basically says he doesn't see long term with me, but still wants to be friends. Yadungon: No he is not with anyone else. He made clear he doesn't have the time or the energy for a girlfriend let a lone someone else including that. I texted him if I could know if he was over me yet at least, and he said it would be a long time before that might happen.
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