MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Can I ask you MissConduct.. Do you drink heavily ? Not to the point of having split personality, and most cetainly not to the point where I act any different than I would being sober. Especially on dates. I sort of outgrew that 15 yrs ago. I have fun but drinking excessively on a date or is just tacky, to me.
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 MissConduct.. You haven't answered my question Yes I have.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Not to the point of having split personality, and most cetainly not to the point where I act any different than I would being sober. Especially on dates. I sort of outgrew that 15 yrs ago. I have fun but drinking excessively on a date or is just tacky, to me. Thanks.. I was just wondering..
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 So having said that, seeing as Alpha calls bullshet on the fact that women place a great deal on character as forming part of the chemistry spark that happens on dates, I am trying to understand what his criteria is when he himself discerns character in a woman and why he thinks women don't place any value on character. Maybe we just have different definitions on what a person's character entails.
fishtaco Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 No no, no fighting here just trying to rationalize why Alpha is hung up on the intentions of someone who ultimtely seems like they didn't have much to offer to begin with. He claims she is a psycho drunk but he knew this going in so how could he not expect her to turn out as she did. Ok, although it did seem to me you're gearing up for an internet fight, but I'm going to believe you that it wasn't your intention. The only thing wrong Alpha did was he erred on the side of too nice and gave her a second chance. I don't see anything evil about it. Plus it was just a 2nd date. I wouldn't use "hung up". 2nd date is more like "why not". If Alpha keeps going back to her, then I would ask why is he "hung up" on this chick.
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 . I don't see anything evil about it. And neither do I. I never said the word or implied "evil" Naive yes, evil is a totally different adjective that should be reserved for an entirely different type of conversation. Does not apply here.
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 jesus, seems like i've opened pandoras box here i'll have to digest all these latest replies and post back later tonite,
Author alphamale Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 and worse... while you two are out at YOUR friends party... a little call before hand to say 'hey alpha, i like you- as a friend- and if you still wanna hang out- as friends, that would be cool' then you would say "hell's no! i do not need more female friends" from the time of meeting she had 3 weeks to tell me she just wants "friends"... Exactly?!?!? Where does it state here they met at a singles dinner or in the link attached? Unless there was a 3rd thread before this one that explained how they first met, but it was not mentioned in this thread. So I am going by the information here and the link attached. I don't read minds, I read posts. Anyway Alpha I understand your frustration because you liked her and she did not reciprocate and on top of it used a lame excuse. But something made her change her mind along the way, or is it stipulated somewhere that just because you accept a date with someone YOU MUST fall in love with them? She used a lame excuse about wanting friends, which you should have called her on it face to face, but she is allowed to change her mind as you are. That is what dating is for, to determine if someone is a good fit. Still haven't answered if you would have overlooked her drinking and dual personality problem if she was all over you? everything is well documented - the main problem was her change in personality when drinking, when sober she was normal but a bit on the quiet & introverted side. yes, she changed her mind but so did I... They know they are leading guys on, but they just don't care. Women like that are pretty selfish. Quite, if you're not interested then don't accept a date just cause you don't want to spend another sat nite on the couch watching tv and eating bon bons Alpha is the one who made the date and banked his heavy interrest in a "sloppy drunk" to begin with. That's my point. Where was the "sloppy drunk" consideration when she was all over him last time? she wasn't a sloppy drunk, she changed personalities after drinking. there is a difference. going from shy and quiet to dancing around and talking to anyone that would listen. thats not "sloppy". she wasn't hitting on other guys or falling down or any of that... I read all the posts in this thread and all the posts in the thread that he linked to in the opening post. That's it. That was enough for anyone to see that he knew going into this situation that this woman was less than ideal. He saw her issues first hand. the first date was good enough to ask her out on a second date, there were no major problems. i asked advice on my 1st thread and most said take her out again which was what i was gonna do anyways. The only thing wrong Alpha did was he erred on the side of too nice and gave her a second chance. I don't see anything evil about it. Plus it was just a 2nd date. I wouldn't use "hung up". 2nd date is more like "why not". If Alpha keeps going back to her, then I would ask why is he "hung up" on this chick. yea so it took 2 dates to find out she's a bit off. thank god. it could have been 10 dates or 20, phew i dodged a bullet. Drama is its own train wreck indeed
MissConduct Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 everything is well documented - the main problem was her change in personality when drinking, when sober she was normal but a bit on the quiet & introverted side. yes, she changed her mind but so did I... Which you saw this after the first time you met her or second (whatever time that was at the restaurant). she wasn't a sloppy drunk, she changed personalities after drinking. there is a difference. going from shy and quiet to dancing around and talking to anyone that would listen. thats not "sloppy". she wasn't hitting on other guys or falling down or any of that... "Sloppy drunk" were Art Critic's words, not mine. I never called her that I only used the words in response to what he has said when he chose to respond on your behalf when I asked why you chose to overlook her drinking patterns before when you asked her out. His response was: Who would ?...A pretty drunk or a horny drunk is still a drunk.. Not all men use women in that way.. in fact if you took a poll I would hazard a guess that 99+ percent of men wouldn't take advantage of a sloppy drunk. you do know that in some states having sex with a sloppy drunk woman constitutes rape and puts the man is a very disadvantaged position ? So maybe you should take that point up with him since that response had little to do with my question to you, whatever he went off on there....it actually sounds like he is agreeing with the fact that you did overlook her drunken problems because she was pretty enough. Thanks for your response, fair enough it took a few dates to suss her out. You did dodge a bullet indeed!
Art_Critic Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 "Sloppy drunk" were Art Critic's words, not mine. I never called her that I only used the words in response to what he has said when he chose to respond on your behalf when I asked why you chose to overlook her drinking patterns before when you asked her out. no because on the 1st date she was too hammered and i was getting mixed vibes from her Being an Alcoholic myself I have always used the word hammered in conjunction with way to drunk.. as in sloppy drunk.. I fail to see why your debating these silly little details here ??
Author alphamale Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 I fail to see why your debating these silly little details here ?? me too, lets put Lisa behind us, shall we? on to the next broad *alpha strolls briskly out of teh building*
Art_Critic Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 me too, lets put Lisa behind us, shall we? Done ..... ...
laRubiaBonita Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 gals.... put on ONLY your stiletto heels- Alpha is back in!
sfsassy Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 Based on my experiences with similar situations, it sounds like a self-medicating bi-polar. Armchair dx for sure and without prejudice. Imagine loving someone like that and dealing with it.... So you met my ex? I love him, but that was just too much after awhile. Alpha, I think you did well,and have nothing to add. I am glad you are clling her weird, instead of psycho now.
Cherished Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I don't do that, but you are a jerk. He sees you as an Amazon woman, dragging your male prey off into the jungle to feed on them So, no such thing as a spinster anymore? Good to hear. Whatever Lisa becomes, it doesn't sound like it's going to be pleasant for the males of the world...
Author alphamale Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 thanks for reviving this thread so i can relive the nightmare that was last sat nite
Cherished Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 HE JUST CALLED ME AN AMAZON. I AM A SIZE 6 AND 5'7", HARDLY AN AMAZON SIZE. I am sorry you were treated badly on a date and I would never treat a man who was my date in that way. Also I was a bit upset because you think she is weird because she has never been married. I am 38 and have been married once for a few years but I do not feel that makes me more desirable than she for that reason only. So....I took offense to that! Good luck in the dating world, ALPHA! Cheer up!
whichwayisup Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Alpha, I'm late seeing your (why didn't you alert me here?) thread..Well, just read the first few posts, it's 8 pages so I guess I have some reading to do..
Author alphamale Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 Alpha, I'm late seeing your (why didn't you alert me here?) thread cause you're not around that much...anyways i'm going down to see BTDT memorial day wknd ..Well, just read the first few posts, it's 8 pages so I guess I have some reading to do.. its only 3 pgs if you have you view set at 40 posts/page. So change your setting and you'll have less to read giggity
Land Shark Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 Have you lined up another hot night with the Lisa-nator yet?
Author alphamale Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 Have you lined up another hot night with the Lisa-nator yet? surely you jest
Citizen Erased Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 surely you jest Perhaps he just wishes you two kids would sort it out.
Author alphamale Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 Perhaps he just wishes you two kids would sort it out. no, i met someone else tonite, a polish girl who's only been in the states 15 years. giggity
Jake Barnes Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 no, i met someone else tonite, a polish girl who's only been in the states 15 years. giggity blonde with blue eyes? .........................
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