Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 i mean why the hell do some women agree to go out with a guy when they aren't even interested. is it for a free meal? attention? dry spell? just something to do as nothing better came up? wft??!! if you're not interested just decline the date offer or say "yeah we can go out as friends" and then let the guy decide if he's still interested. if this psycho broad would have to me up front its just a friends thing i would have told her thanks but no thanks. i mean wtf is wrong with these women. are they dealing mostly with doormat guys so now they think they can get away with anything? i'm really pissed off right now
carhill Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Well, see, to me, this means you care. Give yourself another couple decades of the same and you'll even develop a sense of humor about it, as I have. Just give what you will, freely and without expectation. That way, what they do with it carries appropriate weight within your psyche. With this philosophy, when you meet (not mean LOL) a compatible and generous woman, you'll be going "whoa"...
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 i mean why the hell do some women agree to go out with a guy when they aren't even interested. is it for a free meal? attention? dry spell? just something to do as nothing better came up? wft??!! Because it is obvious that she was interested in you the last time you met her once the booze kicked in. Her recollection of you was while she was drunk out of her mind and her inhibitions were completely out the window. Then she sees you again in a more controlled state and she doesn't feel the same way because she is not completely smashed. Then she starts to drink again on the date and the truth of how she is feeling then and there comes out, but this time in a negative way. What do you expect when you meet someone completely smashed out of their mind at a bar? She clearly has an alcohol problem and her decisions while drunk are different than they would be while sober. Why even waste another moment on this woman, she sounds like a complete loser and I am surprised she is even worth discussing at this point considering you deem yourself a good judge of character when it comest to dating women? Next time, use the same judgement you profess women should use for qualifying men's great character.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 i mean why the hell do some women agree to go out with a guy when they aren't even interested. is it for a free meal? attention? dry spell? just something to do as nothing better came up? wft??!! I do think some women do it for a free meal. I think some wome ndo it because they honestly want to give the guy a chance. And some even more do it because they really are interested. And yet others do it because they are nut cases that have nothing to do with you. Hey Alpha, just so you know. It happens to girls to. I was recently to go out with a man that pursued me, called me regularly, set up going out quickly. The day came to go out and a few hours before our date he cancelled on me with a text message and no explanation.
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 What do you expect when you meet someone completely smashed out of their mind at a bar? . we didn't meet at a bar. see the link in the OP about our first date, this was our 2nd "date"... Hey Alpha, just so you know. It happens to girls to. I was recently to go out with a man that pursued me, called me regularly, set up going out quickly. The day came to go out and a few hours before our date he cancelled on me with a text message and no explanation. well being cancelled on is better than going out on the date and being treated in a rude fashion.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 i would have left her arse there too....... although i would have told the host, and maybe thrown in a warning about kicking her out before she drank them dry.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 and added that she was not your friend or date.... of course you do not want to seem like a POS for ditching a boozer ath someone's house- but oh well
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 we didn't meet at a bar. see the link in the OP about our first date, this was our 2nd "date"... I know where you met her, you met her at a Peruvian restaurant, that wasn't my point the point was that she was drunk as a skunk when you met her. You were already questioning her character then, yet you proceeded to go out with her anyway because you put more weight on other things. How about your responsibility in choosing this woman? You question why she did what she did to you, but I question why you chose to ask out on a date a woman who was already showing very weak character traits? Furthermore if she would have been into you on this date then the excessive drinking at 38 and dual personality would not have been issue with her/you?
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 I know where you met her, you met her at a Peruvian restaurant, that wasn't my point the point was that she was drunk as a skunk when you met her. no, i met her at a singles dinner and asked her out. our first date was at the peruvian place. at all meetings she was fine until she started drinking. that is why i posted that first thread cause i wanted to get some opinions cause i knew somehting wasn't right. the consensus from that first thread was to give her another chance. so i did
laRubiaBonita Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 no, i met her at a singles dinner and asked her out. our first date was at the peruvian place. at all meetings she was fine until she started drinking. that is why i posted that first thread cause i wanted to get some opinions cause i knew somehting wasn't right. the consensus from that first thread was to give her another chance. so i did exactly! a SINGLES dinner.... don't people Normally do singles stuff to date and not just to make new friends, MissConduct?
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 exactly! a SINGLES dinner.... don't people Normally do singles stuff to date and not just to make new friends, MissConduct? exactly! and i gave her a number of chances to back out or cancel the "dates" so why the hell is she accepting them just to be "friends"?!? wtf man? either say you're not interested anymore or that you're not feeling the love. don't give me the whole "friends" routine especially when she never mentioned it before and had a few chances.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 My GF's sister did something like this. She met this guy, went out a bunch of times to the movies, dinner, clubs with him, he payed for everything. Made out with him. Then when he tried to move things further she stopped him and said that she just wants to be friends. Lmao. Now I know its my GF's sister but damn, what a bitch...
laRubiaBonita Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 exactly! and i gave her a number of chances to back out or cancel the "dates" so why the hell is she accepting them just to be "friends"?!? wtf man? either say you're not interested anymore or that you're not feeling the love. don't give me the whole "friends" routine especially when she never mentioned it before and had a few chances. and worse... while you two are out at YOUR friends party... a little call before hand to say 'hey alpha, i like you- as a friend- and if you still wanna hang out- as friends, that would be cool' then you would say "hell's no! i do not need more female friends"
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 exactly! a SINGLES dinner.... don't people Normally do singles stuff to date and not just to make new friends, MissConduct? Exactly?!?!? Where does it state here they met at a singles dinner or in the link attached? Unless there was a 3rd thread before this one that explained how they first met, but it was not mentioned in this thread. So I am going by the information here and the link attached. I don't read minds, I read posts. Anyway Alpha I understand your frustration because you liked her and she did not reciprocate and on top of it used a lame excuse. But something made her change her mind along the way, or is it stipulated somewhere that just because you accept a date with someone YOU MUST fall in love with them? She used a lame excuse about wanting friends, which you should have called her on it face to face, but she is allowed to change her mind as you are. That is what dating is for, to determine if someone is a good fit. Still haven't answered if you would have overlooked her drinking and dual personality problem if she was all over you?
Chicago_Guy Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 What is wrong with these women who want all of this "platonic" male attention? When I was single I kept my male friends at arms length because I didn't want them to get the wrong idea. Why invite that kind of confusion? Glad you left her there too. What a rude b*tch. I've met women like this is the past, although they were never as bad as the one that the OP met. They know they are leading guys on, but they just don't care. Women like that are pretty selfish.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Still haven't answered if you would have overlooked her drinking and dual personality problem if she was all over you? Who would ?...A pretty drunk or a horny drunk is still a drunk.. Not all men use women in that way.. in fact if you took a poll I would hazard a guess that 99+ percent of men wouldn't take advantage of a sloppy drunk. you do know that in some states having sex with a sloppy drunk woman constitutes rape and puts the man is a very disadvantaged position ?
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Who would ?...A pretty drunk or a horny drunk is still a drunk.. Not all men use women in that way.. in fact if you took a poll I would hazard a guess that 99+ percent of men wouldn't take advantage of a sloppy drunk. you do know that in some states having sex with a sloppy drunk woman constitutes rape and puts the man is a very disadvantaged position ? Well I asked Alpha not you, but seeing as you took the liberty of answering for him then, if no one in their right mind would bother with a pretty "sloppy drunk" then why did he even make a date with her? Alpha is the one who made the date and banked his heavy interrest in a "sloppy drunk" to begin with. That's my point. Where was the "sloppy drunk" consideration when she was all over him last time?
fishtaco Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Still haven't answered if you would have overlooked her drinking and dual personality problem if she was all over you? Wow... Let the fight begin!!! Where's my popcorn.
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 @ARtcritic Seems he was more than willing to ovelook it so long as she was still interested in him, which is why the question was asked. Wow... Let the fight begin!!! Where's my popcorn. No no, no fighting here just trying to rationalize why Alpha is hung up on the intentions of someone who ultimtely seems like they didn't have much to offer to begin with. He claims she is a psycho drunk but he knew this going in so how could he not expect her to turn out as she did.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Well I asked Alpha not you, but seeing as you took the liberty of answering for him then, if no one in their right mind would bother with a pretty "sloppy drunk" then why did he even make a date with her? Alpha is the one who made the date and banked his heavy interrest in a "sloppy drunk" to begin with. That's my point. Where was the "sloppy drunk" consideration when she was all over him last time? I didn't specifically answer for Alpha..This is his thread I'm sure he will answer your question when he can... I answered because your question seems like you are trying to paint men/alpha in a bad light and I don't think you can do that in this case.. It also seems you haven't read all of his posts in this thread or the others.. he did post that he met her at a singles mixer and he also posted that when he met her she wasn't drunk.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 He claims she is a psycho drunk but he knew this going in so how could he not expect her to turn out as she did. He also has backed off of his statement about using the word psycho and said it was a bit harsh and said she was just weird... Can I ask you MissConduct.. Do you drink heavily ?
mr.dream merchant Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Yeah, she sips from the same bottle of feminism Jersey Shortie does.
MissConduct Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I I answered because your question seems like you are trying to paint men/alpha in a bad light and I don't think you can do that in this case.. Again, the question was for him. I am trying to rationalize his decisions and conclusions. Trying to understand what his part in the situation was. That doesn't change that she is indeed nuts, but he had an incling going in. He knew going into it this woman had character flaws, he saw them first hand, he even questioned them and dedicated an entire thread to her alcohol use and split personality. Yet now he is somewhat shocked that she indeed had major character flaws? I am not painting him in any light, sorry that is what you see. I don't even know the guy. I am offering him another perspective to the way he is looking at things. It also seems you haven't read all of his posts in this thread or the others.. he did post that he met her at a singles mixer and he also posted that when he met her she wasn't drunk. I read all the posts in this thread and all the posts in the thread that he linked to in the opening post. That's it. That was enough for anyone to see that he knew going into this situation that this woman was less than ideal. He saw her issues first hand.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Can I ask you MissConduct.. Do you drink heavily ? MissConduct.. You haven't answered my question
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