Land Shark Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Oh. My Father was dating a woman who recently asked to borrow his car and she ended up driving it from Arizona to Florida and never brought it back. He went to get it back, and she turned around and called the police on him. He met her in a supermarket though, lol. I'm guessing she was GREAT in bed. Same for Lisa. She's probably a rocket.
BubblyPopcorn Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I'm guessing she was GREAT in bed. Same for Lisa. She's probably a rocket. Well that I wouldn't know, thank god.
AlektraClementine Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 OK I am very confused. Let me ask a couple of questions if you don't mind. Did you ask her out on a date? Explicitly? Like, when you met at that dinner or something on your part to indicate your intentions? I'm only asking because I can almost see why she might not have thought the same as you. I went back and read your previous thread. You said that both of you were getting hammered. Does that make you an alcoholic too? I loosen up with a few glasses of wine too. A lot of people do but that doesn't make them lushes. Did you take her to this cocktail party? Were you her transportation? And you left her? Even if you weren't, I'd have to say that walking out on someone with no explanation is way more weird than someone being direct about not wanting to date you. I hope I've read this all right, I don't want to insult you but it seems like people are jumping a lot to agree that this woman is weird and that you are to be commended for ditching this girl. Again, sorry if I have my facts incorrect.
CommitmentPhobe Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 well lets see: she's late 30s never been marriedaccording to her one serious relatioinshp in her lifehas a number of men friendsnever wanted kids, doesn't like kidshates her job and refused to talk about worksaid that guys rarely ask her outbecomes a different person after drinking thats a psycho And she friendzoned you too, you must honk Only joking, good job getting out of there
Jake Barnes Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Too bad you don't live in Germany Alpha The girls there are perfect, they discuss world history, pay their own way, have sex with you and let you drink fresh honey-weizzen straight from their nipples
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 The "we" that went to brunch did not include the spinster, I assume. "we" was me and my brother and his gf Did you ask her out on a date? Explicitly? Like, when you met at that dinner or something on your part to indicate your intentions? i asked for her number and said we should get together sometime. she gave me her # with no hesitation whatsoever... I went back and read your previous thread. You said that both of you were getting hammered. Does that make you an alcoholic too? I loosen up with a few glasses of wine too. A lot of people do but that doesn't make them lushes. when drinking some people pretty much keep their personality (like me) and some people totally become different people. everyone changes to some extent when drinking but drastic changes signal something is wrong with said person... Did you take her to this cocktail party? Were you her transportation? yes i picked her up and drove... And you left her? Even if you weren't, I'd have to say that walking out on someone with no explanation is way more weird than someone being direct about not wanting to date you. after the exchange i don't think she expected a ride home, and i wouldn't have given her one anyways. she specifically stated that i was "hanging around with her too much" and i barely spent 20 minutes talking to her over 3 hours...she actually insulted me 3 or 4 times after she had a few wines. she was fine before she started drinking.
Cherished Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 That's 30 years away, you nut. What decade are you in? Or maybe you're from the land of the Amazons! where did you get the Amazons? I was referring to the 1940's, duh.
carhill Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 He sees you as an Amazon woman, dragging your male prey off into the jungle to feed on them So, no such thing as a spinster anymore? Good to hear. Whatever Lisa becomes, it doesn't sound like it's going to be pleasant for the males of the world...
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 Whatever Lisa becomes, it doesn't sound like it's going to be pleasant for the males of the world... indeed, did i mention she has 3 cats?
monkey00 Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Ah, well it happens dude. Doesn't sound much like a psycho, just a weird girl she deserved to be left there by you. I had a very similar experience a few weeks ago with a girl I met at a friend's bday thing at a bar. Needless to say she had major baggage also as all divorcee's do. Women that have baggage majorly suck. Otherwise she was gorgeous and tall.
Joker77 Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Some women never cease to amaze me with the friend garbage. The minute a woman I have a liking for puts me in the friendzone, I'm gone.
Jake Barnes Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Well i think I see part of the misunderstanding She may have known that Alpha was new in town and thought this was a good opportunity to introduce him to some other people and therefore didn't consider it a date, but he was under the wrong impression
blind_otter Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Alcoholics are the ones whose personalities change drastically when under the influence. I think she sounded pretty heinous, and I would have left her at the party as well.
serial muse Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Too bad you don't live in Germany Alpha The girls there are perfect, they discuss world history, pay their own way, have sex with you and let you drink fresh honey-weizzen straight from their nipples :lmao::lmao: I adore you. (But you know we're just friends, right?) Re: topic - not sure I have enough info to jump on the "she's psycho" train, but at the very least she's definitely a flake and not worth any more effort. Fortunately, alpha's a pro at moving on and not looking back.
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 Some women never cease to amaze me with the friend garbage. The minute a woman I have a liking for puts me in the friendzone, I'm gone. indeed She may have known that Alpha was new in town and thought this was a good opportunity to introduce him to some other people and therefore didn't consider it a date, but he was under the wrong impression actually I was the one who knew the host of the party...she knew no one there Alcoholics are the ones whose personalities change drastically when under the influence. I think she sounded pretty heinous, and I would have left her at the party as well. yea, after 4 or 5 drinks this woman went from being a wallflower to wearing a lampshade on her head (figuratively speaking of course) Re: topic - not sure I have enough info to jump on the "she's psycho" train, but at the very least she's definitely a flake and not worth any more effort. Fortunately, alpha's a pro at moving on and not looking back. yea "psycho" may have been too harsh, she doesn't seem like the stalker type. but there was definitely something wrong with her.
carhill Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 yea "psycho" may have been too harsh, she doesn't seem like the stalker type. but there was definitely something wrong with her. Based on my experiences with similar situations, it sounds like a self-medicating bi-polar. Armchair dx for sure and without prejudice. Imagine loving someone like that and dealing with it....
Lucky_One Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 well lets see: she's late 30s never been marriedaccording to her one serious relatioinshp in her lifehas a number of men friendsnever wanted kids, doesn't like kidshates her job and refused to talk about worksaid that guys rarely ask her outbecomes a different person after drinking thats a psycho My first thought? That's not a psycho. That's a long-term OW. She is unhappy with her boss MM not leaving his marriage like he promised to do 6 years ago when his youngest left high school, and she is now waiting for the last grandchild to be born in October. But to punish her MM, she is going on a date with you to piss him off and force his hand on leaving. She won't discuss her job with you becaues she doesn't want you to know she is screwing the boss. And she drinks to take her mind off the fact that her MM doesn't really want her enough to "take her off the market".
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 Based on my experiences with similar situations, it sounds like a self-medicating bi-polar. Armchair dx for sure and without prejudice. Imagine loving someone like that and dealing with it.... no, i think her problems were more psychological than psychiatric. she could have used some of WWIU's CBT
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 It doesn't sound like she was a very nice person, so can't blame you for not wanting to go out with her again. But leaving her there without telling her ..not so cool. Guys, usually toss around the "physco" word too easily. Diminishes the use of the word. Too bad you don't live in Germany Alpha The girls there are perfect, they discuss world history, pay their own way, have sex with you and let you drink fresh honey-weizzen straight from their nipples Holy Crap
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 It doesn't sound like she was a very nice person, so can't blame you for not wanting to go out with her again. But leaving her there without telling her ..not so cool. dude, the chick offended me straight to my face at least 3 or 4 times. she didn't even want to converse and stayed on the other side of the room most of the time. then she gives me the whole "friends" thing and not in a nice way. you really expect me to give her a ride home after that? come on...only "mr. nice guy" would have stuck around after that
carhill Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Yeah, TBH, and I've been a sponge for women's venom over the years, I'd have been "out of there" too, even back in the day of being a doormat. Too many bad vibes.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 dude, the chick offended me straight to my face at least 3 or 4 times. she didn't even want to converse and stayed on the other side of the room most of the time. then she gives me the whole "friends" thing and not in a nice way. you really expect me to give her a ride home after that? come on...only "mr. nice guy" would have stuck around after that Yeah all that **** she did was very crappy and if it was me in your spot, I wouldn't have wanted to give him a ride home either but I guess I still get caught on just leaving the person there thing. But I can't really blame you for doing what you did. I just might have told the person I was leaving and that they need to find their own way home. I really thought that first date you went out with her on was a fluke. Obviously she was a bit of a douche.
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I just might have told the person I was leaving and that they need to find their own way home. I might have done the same but I am also a confrontational person at times and confronting them with consequences of their actions during the party is just asking for more confrontation and fanning the flames I get from Alpha that he isn't a very confrontational person IRL and doesn't go looking for a face to face with people and would sometimes just go off in another direction when treated like crap.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Okay, well that makse more sense explained that way Art Critic. I tend to be confrontaional as well so I was thinking it on those terms I guess. If I am not being treated right, I will let that person know that I don't think I am being treated right.
Author alphamale Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 I just might have told the person I was leaving and that they need to find their own way home. . she didn't even deserve that and in her state may have caused a scene in front of 50 people and ruined the party. for the record i'd like to state the is the first time ever that i have dumped a date who i drove somewhere.... I get from Alpha that he isn't a very confrontational person IRL and doesn't go looking for a face to face with people and would sometimes just go off in another direction when treated like crap. oh no, i was confrontational with her. i told her to her face we won't be friends and this is the last time i'll see her. i won't start confrontations but if someone else starts it and wants to go at it verbally or physically then i will most definiately end it. If I am not being treated right, I will let that person know that I don't think I am being treated right. oh i let her know i wasn't a happy camper...why the **** would she even agree to do out with me if she's going to behave like that? just decline the date and save everyone some time and grief. you know?? this chick was mental, i'm telling you
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