loser101 Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 One of carhill's posts in this section made me wonder. He asked a poster what kind of men approached her and I thought, good question... wonder how many people would be able to respond without thinking hard? I am conscious of the type of men I am attracted to and want to form a relationship with but I never really thought of describing the type of man that gets attracted to ME. There is some overlap between the two groups (when there is mutual interest) but not always. Any thoughts? Do you know what kind of person looks at you and thinks 'mmm I want a piece of that'?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Well to be honest gutter trash bad boys if its in the young category say 20s to 30s ether that or older men much older. Never nice decent clean men around my age I don't know why I'm not a trashy kinda girl I don't scream welfare check or bengay lol..
Author loser101 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 Well to be honest gutter trash bad boys if its in the young category say 20s to 30s ether that or older men much older. Never nice decent clean men around my age I don't know why I'm not a trashy kinda girl I don't scream welfare check or bengay lol.. what sort of circles do you move in? what kind of friends do you have? I'm sure they are not the trashy kind
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 what sort of circles do you move in? what kind of friends do you have? I'm sure they are not the trashy kind Thats just it I keep to myself I have a few acquaintances but no real friends since I moved here. I was just talking about like say if a man was to just approach me in public if he was youngish then its the lower class which to be honest has no chance in hell. Id rather be alone then go down that road or its much older men there nice but at the end of the day id like to find some one who I could have a LTR with. And as men die younger then women why set myself up for heart ake loneliness in my 40s 50s...
Author loser101 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 what about the place where you lived before? The common theme for me I think is brain. I think it's true that the men that approach me and I actually end up having a conversation with are the brighter/wittier types. In terms of age they range from 21 to 40, different nationality, colour, background, class, etc but the conversation will quickly turn to banter. So I guess I attract confident men I think. That has to be a good thing.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 what about the place where you lived before? The common theme for me I think is brain. I think it's true that the men that approach me and I actually end up having a conversation with are the brighter/wittier types. In terms of age they range from 21 to 40, different nationality, colour, background, class, etc but the conversation will quickly turn to banter. So I guess I attract confident men I think. That has to be a good thing. Yea confident is nice no was the same back home for me I will be truly surprised if I end up with any one who I randomly meet off the street I just wouldn't bet the farm but I'm OK with that.
Kamille Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I don't think the men who approach me have much of a common denominator. I'm in grad school, so I do meet a lot of educated, confident, well-spoken men. They're always fun. I'm from a small town and when i go there I seem to attract many kinds of men, from musician to accountants. I get to know each for who they are. The men I am attracted to tend to be easy-going, have a good sense of humor, and be good conversationalists.
Author loser101 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 I see my male friends going for certain girls rather than just blindly walking up to anyone. They look at them, judge from the way they dress, look and talk before deciding whether they would have a chance - or whether they would want to have that chance. The one mate who is a complete animal and a player, will definitely go for girls he perceives as slightly vulnerable or maybe not too hot because it's easier for him to pull those - since he is in the numbers game. So I suppose there is the quality/quantity argument as well. What that guy wants from you.
Trialbyfire Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 I agree that it has much to do with environment AND how you portray yourself. If you have no exposure to the types of men you prefer, how can you attract them? Also, if you dress overly-sexual or are a complete slob, how do you expect to attract relationship-style men or men who aren't beer guzzling couch potatoes? Keep in mind that all "yous" are generic and extreme examples of such.
Author loser101 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 but then I suppose the questions are: why don't you have exposure to the sort of men you prefer (ie why do get drawn to places/activities/lifestyle that excludes them) and why do you dress overly sexual or like a slob thus jeopardizing your chances?
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Unfortunately, the ones who approach me tend to be the ones I don't want to date.
sotired Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Spanks...I get the same ones. When I am single I always get some slime ball trying to talk to me. They don't get the hint that I'm totally ignoring them or being incredibly sarcastic....I think they are the same guys that would hit on anyone though. I'm kind of a b*tch though. I don't really put myself out there and all of my relationships have been people I saw on a regular basis through work or school...I've never approached random guys.
Author loser101 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 Unfortunately, the ones who approach me tend to be the ones I don't want to date. but that's natural, isn't it? I mean you would end up dating only a small percentage of them due to lack of interest, bad timing, time of the month, whatever
Author loser101 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 I'm kind of a b*tch though. I don't really put myself out there and all of my relationships have been people I saw on a regular basis through work or school...I've never approached random guys. I used to be like that then went travelling for a couple of years so my habits had to change and I would meet new people constantly (get tired of that after a while of course, that's why travelling is tiring). It's amazing what being taken out of your comfort zone does to you.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 but then I suppose the questions are: why don't you have exposure to the sort of men you prefer (ie why do get drawn to places/activities/lifestyle that excludes them) and why do you dress overly sexual or like a slob thus jeopardizing your chances? I dress to be comfortable I wear normal clothing just nice jeans/clean tees nothing out of the ordinary. I guess its girl next door look I always make sure I'm clean/smell well my hair is kept nice presentable. Admittedly I do have days when I feel like **** and just don't care to put any effort in if I know I'm just going out for a little while. Like to pick up a few small quick things but really isn't every women like that some days have there fev sweats and sneakers and to hell with the world Ive never been one to like wearing overly sexual clothing my tits are my business I don't feel the need to advertise them like a sexual billboard just to get a date lol...
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