Passionate69 Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 How do you react if your husband told you that women are just sex object? and how do you feel about it?
Kamille Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I would be really disturbed. In what context did he tell you this?
TaraMaiden Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I think - if I was married, and my husband told me this - it would be a shock. it would almost mean me having to re-evaluate my relationship, but also my perception of him. If he truly believed this, I would want to know what the difference is between me and other women, then....?
mopar crazy Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I think - if I was married, and my husband told me this - it would be a shock. it would almost mean me having to re-evaluate my relationship, but also my perception of him. If he truly believed this, I would want to know what the difference is between me and other women, then....? I agree! If that is all my H thought of me he would be out the door with my foot up his ass!
headlesschicken Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 depends if he said women are ONLY sex objects, or just if they ARE. men are, among everything else they represent to me, sex objects. but not ONLY.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 If a hypothetical H told me this, I'd assume he was having an affair, thought he was on the cusp of being found out, and was priming the pump for the "it meant nothing" talk.
tami-chan Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 LOL...my H used to say this about his OWs "they mean nothing, they are just for sex"... This is what I thought at that time " but..but..but.. I want to be YOUR "just-for-sex" too!-while being your wife and mother of your child. I can be a your sex object! I am a sex kitten, goddamit!!!!"...of course, I never did tell him that...I just said this "Oh"...and cried and cried...seemed like I cried for eternity...
Author Passionate69 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 We were watching porn at that time; and he commented all women should do whatever men want them to do. and said for him "women are sex object" I was speechless but I know it isn't right for him to tell me about it. it is kinda disrespectful though.
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Do you know your husband at all Passionate69? You're already having problems with his low sex-drive and now, he comes out with this idiotic statement!
Author Passionate69 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 How long have you been married Passionate69? We have been married for 6 years
Author Passionate69 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 Do you know your husband at all Passionate69? You're already having problems with his low sex-drive and now, he comes out with this idiotic statement! he was having a low testosterone and the doctor gave him something to increase his testosterone and he injected it into his body every month; and he has now a normal sex drive.
LonelyTiger Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I don't know the full history of this but I've flicked through your other posts and it seems that sex is an issue between you and your husband. If you've been married 6 years that's a reasonable length of time to have communicated your needs to each other and, hopefully, be doing your best to fulfill each others needs. The longer you are married (or live with someone) the more you get to know about them and how they think. If he's never made a comment like this before and you think it's out of character, I'd suspect he said it to get a reaction out of you. The only way to find out what he means by it is to ask him! If this is a fairly standard comment for him then, if I were you, I'd question what I was still doing in the marriage - an unsatisfactory sex life with a man who has, apparently, no respect for women? It's not something I'd put up with.
Author Passionate69 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 I know I might be stupid for still staying in this marriage. but I want to make it sure before I decide to kick his ass out of my life. I know some people it is easy for them to say " drop him like a hot potato" but is not that easy.
LonelyTiger Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I know I might be stupid for still staying in this marriage. but I want to make it sure before I decide to kick his ass out of my life. I know some people it is easy for them to say " drop him like a hot potato" but is not that easy. Sorry Passionate69, I didn't mean to imply you should 'drop him like a hot potato" and I certainly don't think you are 'stupid' for staying in the marriage. I was just offering my thoughts in case they might help you to see the situation differently. Nobody but you knows exactly what is going on in your relationship, so only you can decide what's right for you. Most marriages have problems at some time or other and we all deal with those problems differently. My husband and I decided to go 'long distance' to save our marriage - most people think that's a mad idea - but it isn't their marriage and it's working for us. I would just like to stress again that you need to ask him what he meant by this comment, or anything similar he's ever said. Only then can you understand what his attitude to women really is and only then can you decide whether you are prepared to accept that kind of attitude from your husband.
Author Passionate69 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 LonelyTiger, Sorry you misunderstood my post. I never said you were implying that I am stupid and I should drop him like a hot potato. It was just my opinion. anyway... he was somehow "drunk" I'm not sure if he still remember what he was telling me if I'm going to ask him about it. my feeling is, he will deny it or will tell me to "forget about it" thanks all for your opinions. I know it is normal for marriage people to have problems. but we know that there is limitation, what is accepted and when is enough. happy weekend to all.
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 We were watching porn at that time; and he commented all women should do whatever men want them to do. and said for him "women are sex object" In that context I can see his point and honestly, that's why so many don't like porn because women ARE protrayed as sexual objects.. Does your husband feel women are beneath him out in the real world? Does he feel superior to them and think they should be home looking after kids doing housework, not working outside of the home? Is he old fashioned? Or does he have genuine respect for women? It sounds like he was just talking about the porn industry.
HsMomma Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Even though I'm new to this community, I'd like to chime in on this subject. I don't know your background (other than the things people here have alluded to), but before I made any decisions about leaving the marriage, I would definitely find out not only what he meant, but why he felt he had to say that to you. I've been married over 10 years and if my husband ever said something like that to me, I might be too taken aback to ask about it at the time, but you can bet your bippy I'd be asking later. But then again, we don't watch porn, so I can't address whether it has something to do with that or not. I'm just saying I'd want some major clarification before making any lasting decisions. Good luck to you!
Author Passionate69 Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 I am waiting for him to be drunk again so I can ask the clarification about it. maybe he will tell the truth what he meant by that.
rainbowbrite Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 How do you react if your husband told you that women are just sex object? and how do you feel about it? furious isnt even the word to describe how upset id be. that is disturbing. he needs help
Author Passionate69 Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 He respect her sister but he don't respect his mother because his mother treated him bad when he was a little kid. In my opinion he is not conservative type. he do not care if the woman work outside home or stay home and doing everything in the house.
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