these_issues Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Its driving me insane. In a weird way, i honestly think if he read this- he would feel like he's winning. Cuz hes causing me issues. but srsly.. Read my other post please.. I'm really in the need for some advice. I dont know What to do, or how to do it.
Ronni_W Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I dont know What to do, or how to do it. Why not use a "journaling technique" to help you release from your system what you want to tell him? Write it all down -- on real paper, in your own hand. Keep it in present day, as far as possible. "Today I think that..." Now, currently, I still believe, etc. Hopefully your first draft will be at least 8 or 10 pages -- include ALL your thoughts, words, beliefs, perceptions -- ALL the drama and ALL the other crap, too -- EXACTLY the way you are still seeing and thinking about things. Next draft, rewrite the whole thing but in 2 less pages. (If the first was 20 or 40 pages, maybe you'd want to reduce by 5 or 10 -- there are no hard and fast rules.) Keep doing that until you've got ALL of it on one single, one-sided page. Then decide if you want/need to send it. Then rewrite it neatly and mail it...IF that is what you want/need to do at that time.
Author these_issues Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 lol... its funny.. Because usually I'm the one giving relationship advice.. and I tell people, more often than not, to write. Funny how I never really thought to do the same. and I'm a big fan of writing. lol. It.. is great advice. Looks like I'll be curled up in a chair for like 10hrs. BAWLING and smiling and *sighing* a lot.. ugghh. It's gonna be a lot of writing. But I really do think it will help. and in its own way help with the closure I need. So thank you VERY much.
playlislay Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 These_Issues, You really do have to explain the story properly instead of in dribs and drabs. When you read stories, you like to know the full detail. The commone questions we would ask to get more background info: How old are you? Him? How long ago did you meet/start the relationship? Who dumped who? (I know youve asnwered that) why? Did you go NC? Did he try to get you back? How long have you been seperated? Was it on good terms? How long have you been with the new bf? Rebound? Erm......I think thats it? Any one else want to add an extra question for These issues to answer so we can help them out?
Ronni_W Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Looks like I'll be curled up in a chair for like 10hrs. BAWLING and smiling and *sighing* a lot.. Well, nothing inappropriate about ANY of that...when you are doing it in an emotionally safe environment and with positive intentions. (It is weird, though, how we can temporarily forget our own wisdom and knowledge, when we get into a "mood" -- I do that, too.) Any case, the *smiling* parts will get you, er, smiling You are VERY welcome...I do hope it works as it is intended to work.
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