Khabarak Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 Here is my situation: A couple weeks back I started talking to this girl in between two of my classes at school. I was interested in trying to get a date, but I found out that she had a boyfriend when I added her as a friend on Facebook. That's fine.... no big deal. I would still like to be her friend though. I'm confident that she is not annoyed by me because she could easily avoid me if she wanted. She certainly wouldn't wave emphatically at me or start conversations with me if I bothered her, right? The problem is that after May 7th (the end of the semester) I'll probably never see her in person again and I've found that most people aren't very interested in actually building a friendship on Facebook/Myspace. In the amount of time I have left, I don't know how to pursue a real friendship with this girl without seeming like I have an ulterior motive. Any advice on how I might go about this?
Isolde Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I hate to say it, but I would set my sights elsewhere. If she's single again at some point, you can facebook message her or something. Meanwhile, pursue girls that are single and that you think you'll see again after this semester...
Author Khabarak Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 Even if I'm really just pursuing a friendship? That is honestly all I am after. Believe me, or don't, but it's the truth. She's a nice girl and I'd like to know her. Are you basically saying that there is really no way I can do this without making her think I'm trying to steal her away from her guy? Please understand that I'm not trying to do that -- that is the whole point of my post. To be honest, I've done that (tried to silently steal the girl) before, and I know better. For an dating type relationship I certainly will pursue the single girls... don't worry.
Isolde Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 You sound like a great guy If it's that important to you, I'd just continue talking to her and invite her to hang out with you and your friends, she can even bring her BF along if she wants. If you have classes or extracurrics in common, even better.
Author Khabarak Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 Thanks for the compliment, and thanks for the advice. Unfortunately, we don't have any classes together and most likely never will. She's a freshman and is a Psychology major.... I'm a senior and I'm Computer Science major. I have a little bit of gen-ed left, so its possible, but not likely.
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