kentuckknob Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We have done long distance when I was away for a year at School and the next semester he was away for Studying Abroad. We moved in together last fall and everything has been going well for the last year or so. We took a break about 2 years ago after being apart and I just found out last year that he slept with another guy while we were on this break. He told me nothing had happened after we got back together from the break. He also had been unfaithful to me after we were dating for about 8 months but blamed the happening on alcohol. I have also heard from someone else that he was kissing another guy while we were dating. I had told myself that if anything ever happens again I would leave him. He is always studying now and is going for 3 majors at college and I feel like were moving apart. I just found out that he was on a website with nude photos of himself and am at a loss of what to do. I find it hard to trust him anymore, but I still love him. He said that he was an idiot and took blame for what he did on the website. He always tells me that I don't give him enough attention and that I need to try harder to be in his life. If you didn't realize yet we are gay and I have made him part of my Dad's family and also my Mothers family (my parents are divorced. ) Although he has not made me part of his yet saying that his parents are not ready to have a gay sons boyfriend in the family. I almost broke up with him last week but he begged for another chance and says that it will get better. Its just that I've heard it before and yet here we are again. I still love him and want to trust him but am at a loss for what to do. Any advice???
Ronni_W Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 At some point, it is in our self-responsibility to hold our partners accountable for their actions, and not just keep pacifying ourselves with their words. You are worthy of, and do deserve, a partner who is trustworthy, as well as who fulfills your other 'basic relationship needs', too. Insofar as his parents' (lack of) acceptance, he doesn't have any control over their beliefs and perceptions -- that part is not a reflection of things between the two of you. Hugs, and best of luck.
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