Trialbyfire Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20090424/sc_livescience/denialcanbringmaritalbliss For some reason, I love this article. It cracks me up because it's so true and yet, who cares?
Touche Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Interesting article...very interesting. But what stood out to me was this: On the other hand, surely there are couples who see exactly who is in front of them, and reality actually matches perception. Those lucky couples are not in a state of continual denial, but a state of continual bliss./QUOTE] Really seeing one another's faults but loving and accepting each other anyway IS something. There's a lot to be said for that because one can only remain in denial for so long. Or maybe some can remain in denial forever? Not sure. I guess as long as the bottom line is that people are happy and satisfied, it doesn't really matter does it? This kind of reminds me of some threads I've seen on here. The threads dealt with people being in denial about this, that and some other thing...so what? If the individual is happy and not hurting others why should anyone else care about what they perceive the person is in denial about? I'm for whatever it takes for people to be happy without hurting themselves or others. If it makes some people happy to live in a fantasy land, so be it. Me...I like to think I am grounded in reality. MY reality, thank you very much. All that said, I do consider my H and I one of those "lucky couples" described above. We're very "real" with one another when it comes to acknowledging our faults and getting past them or accepting them. It's been key for us.
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