jthomas7706 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I met this absolutely amazing girl on a cattle ranch in Arkansas where I used to work. She and her mother are friends of the ranch owner who hired them to come and do some painting (which they both do for a living). They came to Arkansas twice to work. The first time they came, I didn't think much of it...at first. Sure she was cute, but there are a bunch of cute gals out there. Anyway, after I had been around her for a while, I started to realize how sweet a girl she was, not to mention she had an accent that would bring any southern boy to his knees in half a heartbeat. Despite all this, I didn't allow myself to become too attached because I knew she would be leaving and I would probably never see her again. A few months later the ranch manager came up to me and told me that they would be coming back to do some more work, and when the ranch owner spoke to them (bear in mind that this girl and her mother are both friends with this man) the first thing she wanted to know was how I had been. So the second time she came, we went out a few times, and ended up in a long distance relationship (which was fine with both of us). I went to see her once a month for four days for the next few months and thing were just great. We texted each other throughout the day on most days, spoke on the phone every night and were really starting to like each other. Long story short, I started to become posessive and ran her off. It really got bad when I moved to her area (which is also my home area that I was planning to move back to anyway) and fooled myself into thinking that I could see her whenever I wanted. I feel like a total A** for the way I acted and I want to tell her that but I don't know if she wants anything to do with me anymore. Moreover, I'm scared to death of what she might say if I try to apologise and or ask for a second chance. This has really got me torn up. I have never met a girl who ignited such deep feelings in me, even ones that i've dated for longer periods of time I'm a young guy so I don't have alot of experience to draw on here. All I do know is that I want to make amends and get her back. Any advice anyone can give will be appreciated.
Els Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 How long has it been since then? It certainly wouldn't hurt to apologize, at any rate. It wouldn't be a bad idea either to ask her for a second chance assuming you really think the relationship is right for you (ask yourself if she gave you any reasons to be insecure about, etc?), and you think you've resolved the issues so that things can be different the next time. But if she says no, you must make sure you're up to being able to handle it.
Author jthomas7706 Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 It's been almost two weeks since we last spoke. I've tried to initiate contact once but to no avail. I figured that since constantly bugging her is what caused this problem, I needn't further the problem by leaving her a million voicemails/texts so I've been sure to give her plenty of space. At this point I don't know if the relationship is right for me or not. What I do know is that when we were together we both greatly enjoyed each other's company both through the phone and especially when we actually got to see each other... until I started acting like a jerk. There really weren't any issues that caused me to act that way other than the fact that I've just never felt that strongly about anyone before so my heart overloaded my head which caused me to act like a fool. I'll handle what she says one way or another. I've never been the type of person to let a problem, however big, bring me down for long. But that doesn't keep me from fearing what she might say. Thanks for the insight.
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