incision Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Right i`ll give the whole story even though i`ve posted before. My wife of 7 years (together for 12) told me she loved me but wasn`t in love with me and after a long chat she broke up with me. The next day she said it didn`t come out right and she wanted to get the excitement back into our marriage and she told me some time apart would do us good but we would get back together in 3 to 6 months, like a fool i believed this and moved out 1 week later. We still had to see each other as we have 3 children together. Anyway she was friendly with a guy from work but never fancied him even though 1 night he kissed her but she pulled away and said she didn`t like him that way, of course i was very jealous cause i thought we would get back together but the following weekend she said it was over and didn`t know if she wanted to get back together at all, i was devastated as you could imagine. We still spoke about the kids and a few days she invited me for dinner with her and the kids so i went round and it was nice we both put the kids to bed and chatted, i ended up staying the night with her which i know now was a bad thing but at the time i thought it was a good thing. This carried on for a week or so and i was thinking its gonna work even though she said nothing of the sort, then she said it was too hard and we should slow things down so we did. About 2 weeks after that i went round and ended up staying round there for 5 weeks in her bed and sleeping with her most nights, things were looking good she was going out with friends but no guys on the scene. Then on tuesday she told me she had been asked out by a friend of her cousin and she had said yes, so i asked her if it was completly over to which she replied she thinks so i wasn`t happy with that and needed a yes or no so she said yes but didn`t want a divorce. She asked me to stay over as she was scared i`d do something stupid and we ended up having sex again. So now i`m sitting here knowing she is out with this guy and i`m going out of my mind, i can`t get it out my head, i have no job so i have no money to go out a meet new people. But i`m worried i might do something stupid because eventually she will be together with this guy and i`ve got to see her with him cuase i have children so need to go round there. Advice from anyone that has been in a similar situation would be grateful because i`m going mad and have no idea how to cope at all. thanks in advance.
BW007 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 The next day she said it didn`t come out right and she wanted to get the excitement back into our marriage Anyway she was friendly with a guy from work but never fancied him even though 1 night he kissed her but she pulled away and said she didn`t like him that way, she said it was over she said it was over she said it was over she said it was over she is out with this guy Man I feel your pain man. I tried to fix one that was going to hell just as bad as yours and you are in a terrible position. Gather up all your strength, and say "Screw you and how you think you can treat me like this." You and I both deserve better respect. It is hard when they have your heart, but she is treating you like crap my friend. Let her go. Make her go. I am having a terrible day about missing my ex too and had a really vivid dream last night where I lost track of where my daughter was during an argument with her. Very important message there for me. Put all of your focus on the kids and the broken relationship doesn't mean anything in comparison. Hang in there.
EmperorR Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I feel it for you man, I tihnk your wife is in what people call the "fog"
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