Cherished Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I said "thank you for dinner" at the restaurant but it was very loud and I'm not sure he heard me. He spent a lot for dinner drinks (I offered to pay.) Is this going to be a dealbreaker for a guy? Also it was awkward when I was at the car and going home....no kiss or anything and it was just awkward, but during dinner, he was making eye contact with me. He said he'd send me some "alt country"to my workplace CD burns, because I hadn't heard of this and this was part of our dinner conversation (when we were practically shouting over the live music. So this is a good sign, right? Or did I blow it by possibly saying "Thank you for dinner" but he did not hear me? He probably paid $70. Oh I did remember to say I had a good time at the car....so could that make up for not saying "thank you for dinner?" After I said 'I had a good time' that is when he said he'd send me the burned CDs at work.... so good sign/bad sign that there was no kiss, just a really awkward moment?
Lauriebell82 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I said "thank you for dinner" at the restaurant but it was very loud and I'm not sure he heard me. He spent a lot for dinner drinks (I offered to pay.) Is this going to be a dealbreaker for a guy? Also it was awkward when I was at the car and going home....no kiss or anything and it was just awkward, but during dinner, he was making eye contact with me. He said he'd send me some "alt country"to my workplace CD burns, because I hadn't heard of this and this was part of our dinner conversation (when we were practically shouting over the live music. So this is a good sign, right? Or did I blow it by possibly saying "Thank you for dinner" but he did not hear me? He probably paid $70. Oh I did remember to say I had a good time at the car....so could that make up for not saying "thank you for dinner?" After I said 'I had a good time' that is when he said he'd send me the burned CDs at work.... so good sign/bad sign that there was no kiss, just a really awkward moment? You said "thank you" and he didn't hear you. I think you may be questioning a deeper issue here, not just about the "thank you." I had this happen before, I went out with a guy who paid massive amounts of money on me and would not let me treat him to anything, even something little. He dumped me after like a month of this telling me we were moving "too fast." Whatever. Not saying that will happen to you, but it doesn't sound like there was a lot of chemistry and that is important on a first date. It's probably not about the "thank you" it's probably his own crap. See if he asks you out on another date and go to see what happens. If something similar happens this guy probably just isn't right for you.
Author Cherished Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 Yes I'm not sure if I am that interested, maybe he sensed my own awkwardness.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Regardless, I would send him an email thanking him for a nice evening. He did pay $70, which is a good sum of money. It's the polite thing to do.
justme2781 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 most men pay for at least the first date, my bf always pays but i have taken him out to and made a point of saying that prior to going out. its always proper to offer, but if a guy is into you he will pay for your first couple of dates at least but i like to sneak and pay some times if my date goes to the bathroom.
Author Cherished Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 I disagree with that. I already thanked him (whether he heard me or not, but I'm sure he could tell from my facial expression I was thanking him), and also told him I had a good time. He can email me and thank me for a nice evening, too! Emailing a guy after a date is like calling him. He did make the statement to send me the burned CDs to my workplace so I'll just see if he follows through with that. Regardless, I would send him an email thanking him for a nice evening. He did pay $70, which is a good sum of money. It's the polite thing to do.
dancehead Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 LOL @ you girls doing the 'don't call a guy after a date' rule! He might be wondering why you don't call him!
You'reasian Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 LOL @ you girls doing the 'don't call a guy after a date' rule! He might be wondering why you don't call him! No he's not lol She's not taking it serious and neither is he - and the two end up nowhere
Author Cherished Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 No he's not lol She's not taking it serious and neither is he - and the two end up nowhere You don't know how seriously he's taking it. He may have thought that I wasn't interested or doesn't have a shot with someone like me. (12 years younger)
Author Cherished Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 No he's not lol She's not taking it serious and neither is he - and the two end up nowhere You have no idea how seriously he's taking it. I think he's just trying to feel things out, as to if I'm interested in him in "that" way or not.
alphamale Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 So this is a good sign, right? yes, i usually pay unless the date went bad then i ask her to put in something even if its just the tip He probably paid $70. now a days that isn't much for dinner + drinks for two people. if you go to a nice place you can easily spend $70 just on drinks alone, for two
MissConduct Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Did you not thank him again in the car then if you were unsure he heard you? Or what about at the end of the night before you left? I always tend to thank the guy again for a great night and for paying for dinner or whatever he paid for during the night, right before I say goodnight. Did you thank him at the end of the night if you were unsure if he heard?
BlueEyedGirl Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 It does not sound like he is interested, sorry. He offered to send you CDs at work while he could have said that he would bring them when he sees you next.Obviously he does not plan to see you again and trust me it is not because he thinks you are out of his legue (how delusional can you get?)
justme2781 Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 if you are iterested in seeing him again call him if not dont he may think you didnt have chemistry. or maybe you dont, game playing is no fun in adult relationsips.
Die Hard Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I said "thank you for dinner" at the restaurant but it was very loud and I'm not sure he heard me. He spent a lot for dinner drinks (I offered to pay.) Is this going to be a dealbreaker for a guy? I disagree with that. I already thanked him (whether he heard me or not, but I'm sure he could tell from my facial expression I was thanking him) Then what's the point of this thread again? If by chance he didn't hear you(and didn't interpret a bold signal like a facial expression) you seem to not be open the rectifying the situation anyway, so i don't see the point in asking us about this. FWIW, lack of manners is usually frowned upon by both genders and not MAKING SURE someone is thanked for a $70 dinner shows a lack of manners and is usually a deal breaker for a person, regardless of gender.
justme2781 Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 how old are you?? you sound young. he may think so as well.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 You offered to pay??!?!? Wow Where have you been all my life? :love::love::love::love: You know what that means for a man, that a woman that offers to pay! Wow.
Author Cherished Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 I always offer to pay. I did thank him, and then said at the end of the date "I had a good time." Also, if there wasn't SOME interest, he wouldn't have offered to make the CDs at all. Duh. I do think he was afraid I wasn't interested. That is not delusional.
Author Cherished Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 It does not sound like he is interested, sorry. He offered to send you CDs at work while he could have said that he would bring them when he sees you next.Obviously he does not plan to see you again and trust me it is not because he thinks you are out of his legue (how delusional can you get?) That isn't delusional. I am more attractive than he is. Just a fact. Plus with his age, he is probably wondering if I'm really that interested. I could understand that. You're the one whose delusional, we all know you're story.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 That's wussup, she offered to pay. An offer goes a long way instead of sitting there with a twisted face expecting to be pampered like a pw-pw-pwincesssss! Kudos to you Cherished. I dunno if duke is interested but if he isn't he's passing up a good opportunity.
Author Cherished Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 Thanks! I always do that! But I graciously accept if the guy insists on paying, like this guy did.
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