FlipFlop26 Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 My boyfriend was the kinds who never trusts people. he started flirting with me at workplace. we went out for dinners after office. it continued for 2 months. But the first real date was at his place and we ended up making out a lot. he started to think am not a virgin since tht day. altho i was. he and I got drunk and he had sex with me on the fourth date. it was my first time. all we would do is meet up at his place for the first few months. I started to ask him to meet me out and he would insist on having sex each time we met. he would chat with me from different IDs. not use his own. somehow he didnt trust me after 4 months of relationship ? i dont knw why. 6 months into the relation i asked him; if he sees this going sumwhere since we were sleeping together and getting involved very much. He said No - altho he loved me; he would not get married to anyone other than a girl from his religion. he is a muslim and am a hindu. but we continued sleeping together. it was a joint decision. I fell for it bcoz i was madly in love with him by then. Now i wanna know - did this guy love me ? or did he not trust me for marriage bcoz he thought i was too available ??
Sonic_chaos Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Does sound like abit of both to be honest. I wasnt a virgin when i made love to my ex but my first time was in a very weird situation so even thought theoricially it wasnt, emotionally it was for me. I think she felt something towards you. He must have, even if it was just physical attraction. I fully respect religious beliefs but its not allways the case in some relationships. Guess it depends how strong there beliefs run both in the family and in the person. For me it wouldnt matter at all. Thats just another obstical in the way of happiness. I also made love to my ex around 2-3 dates in. Even though it felt absolutely right, my ex said after that it looked like she was really despreate and abit of a easy one to get in bed. And in reality from speaking to her brother *both very close at times* it was totally opposite. We just felt it was right, that was the foundations to the start the relationship as it was. Great start i thought I guess only you can tell if you felt used for sex as he had no intentions of taking it any further due to his beliefs or for what ever reasons. But its my belief thats what he was doing, using you till he found someone of his own religon he was attracted to then drop you like a hot potato. I really dont see the point in FWB type statuses. but that is my own personal view on it. A relationship needs to have meaning, emotions and love that i would want to continue till i push up daisies. My younger brother is doing this at the moment and all i can see happening is someone getting hurt. He has told his girlfriend that he doesnt want a proper relationship and she is ok with that. Just dont understand at times!
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