HurtandLost Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I just basically need to vent and need some advice from some of you'll. My ex girlfriend is emailing me telling me all she wants is me.... but at the same time is living with a guy across the country. She hasn't told me what she plans to do, but is telling me she hopes I wait until she figures it out. Please tell me what I should do.... I don't even think I'm going to write her back, but I feel like it might not let me complete my closure.... I hope you guys can help me....Thanks...
Chinook Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 No one can really tell you what to do, but if it was me.... Until she leaves him and is banging my door down, I wouldn't respond. You're her back up plan, her get out of jail free card etc.
EmperorR Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 No one can really tell you what to do, but if it was me.... Until she leaves him and is banging my door down, I wouldn't respond. You're her back up plan, her get out of jail free card etc. I agree, to me it just seems the grass wasn't greener, she thought she could do better and it was nice and dandy in the honeymoon period, but once the true colors of this gentelman were showed, the nice guy she had across the country looks like gold to her. Again like chinook said until she's banging at my door apologizing and willing to go to couple's counselling I would look the other way.
nature Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I would just write back: "You need help. Get a therapist" Don't get in to a dialogue with her, or even mention the new guy or anything. Stay clear away from any of that emotional BS. Keep your reply succinct, clean and simple. Basically letting her know that you won't be a pawn in her game of life. And that you are not waiting on baited breath for her. It'll give her a wake up call. Believe me.
BillClam Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 I pretty much agree with what's been said. Why the hell should you put your life on hold for a girl who's on the other side of the country? You've got things you should be doing, places you should be going, and you know what? People you should be meeting. Though while it most likely wasn't her intention, she's dealing unwanted mental blows here. Balls in your court, you don't have to pass it back.
carhill Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I don't even think I'm going to write her back, but I feel like it might not let me complete my closure. That's very good advice
pushforward Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Your closure isn't contingent upon responding to her. Ultimately, it's up to your own choice on what you want to do. Keep in mind that things will never be the same between you two because the choices she and you have made. Truly somebody who knew of your worth, would never hurt you in the manner she did. You have to see it for what it is, the grass isn't greener. She is still LIVING with the guy and e-mailing you about how much she wants you, can you see the red flags? I would recommend focus on your healing and learn from this setback. Stick to NC until this is water under the bridge and not an emotional drain on you.
sotired Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Typical...wants you to "wait" while she's banging another dude. Don't give her the satisfaction of a reply. You have your closure...She is with someone else...but wants you as a back up plan in case this doesn't work out. I'm willing to bet she and her new man got into a spat and she's just exploring her options.
PinkRibbon Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Ugh just ignore her. Wait??? She had the nerve to ask that? That should tell you what she thinks of you. I mean we all deserve someone who loves us and treats us with respect. I mean we move heaven and earth for the ones we love shouldn't the one who love us do that also?
Author HurtandLost Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 Thanks for all the replies **** this girl... What the hell am I even thinking....she used me then moved on.... All of you guys are right on everything you said.... Thanks for all the replies, I appreciate the support.
vessv6l Posted April 29, 2009 Posted April 29, 2009 wait for her? thats a joke Reply back "Why would i wait for a scrag like you?" Mmmm second thoughts probably not. Would be funny though. Jk's aside a good woman wouldnt ask you to wait for her, shes not a good woman. You dont want anything but a good woman in your life
Author HurtandLost Posted April 29, 2009 Author Posted April 29, 2009 How long has it been since the break up??? It actually has been almost about 2 months since the break-up, or not really a break-up but her just not ever calling me again....... I'm feeling ALOT better this week and feel like I'm going to turn over a new leaf. I've started hitting the gym again and already can feel the difference in my moods. I just can't believe I let some heartless bit** to run my life like that. For everyone out there that is going through the same shi*, I wish you the best of luck and know that time does heal all. Thanks everyone!
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