PWSX3 Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 PWSX3... oooo, almost forgot..how was 'the weekend'?... sure you had a FABULOUS TIME! take care.......... Thanks for asking, it was awesome, she had a great time. The waiter was really good & that always helps...We joked & laughed with the waiter & had a good time... Adult time after wards was pretty darn good as well!!!!!:lmao: I am lucky because she is a year farther down the road then I am so she is able to help me out when I still have my ups & downs.......That damn roller coaster ride doesn't go away for a while, but you are able to understand it better & those big drops seem to smooth out some....
Author delajoonal Posted April 28, 2009 Author Posted April 28, 2009 PWSX3... sounds like you got yourself a really nice gal... especially with her being in the divorce recovery situation as well... and that is so great that she can understand, and not get weird about your rollercoaster emotions/tears, etc. issues about the X... glad to hear you had a such a great time out to dinner too... ah, i am jealous..LOL...but happy for you too! i just miss dating my dh...i was just telling him that too.. we are at a point where we can chat for a while now ...just a while..LOL but we agreed to get along to get thru the 'negotiations', etc. anyway, i was telling him that after we got married, he just stopped dating me...boy he was a winer and diner too...even bought the new dresses for me to wear out on our dates...then we got married...and floomp! NOTHING...LOL...no more..he said that i traded dates for a house and security etc..LOL ..OK! what a ding dong..right? geesh..LOL date night turned into saturday nights at Target..LOL well...glad to hear you are well ...me, i am taking ONE HOUR at a time.. sometimes i hate stbxh, others i am OK and just want this over and to move on, sometimes i think i will die without him, like last night, cried literally ALL Night with NO sleep:o....but of course i am NOT going to die without stbx, i will actually be much better off...right..LOL BUT, like you said, always a rollercoaster, right... take care:love:
PWSX3 Posted April 28, 2009 Posted April 28, 2009 You will have those emotions for a while....Like they say; you never forget about your spouse but you can learn to live without them. It is funny how one day you can still want the person & then the next you realize the truth & feel the opposite...It is all part of the recovery I guess. I got married pretty much right out of high school so I didn't experience anything different. That is one thing I am going to pass onto my son, date around, learn what you want & what you like...... But just like everyone says here; be happy & confident with yourself first. No one should have that much control over you that if they leave you just fall apart. Sure it will hurt & sure you miss them but you should be able to move on. Like Henry Cloud says; when you meet someone you should be mad that they are wrecking your single life. :D Keep up the good work....No contact also helps a lot, just speak to him when you need to on the divorce or anything to do with it & that's all.... As for you trading dates for house, car, etc. I feel for a lot of guys that is important. They believe giving you a house, car, food on the table, etc is what there "job" is in a marriage. I also feel the hunt for getting the woman is part of the excitement for a guy & once they have them they don't feel like they have to try to keep them if that makes since.... I know reading books has really helped me understand better.....In my case my G/F never got that kind of stuff & the first time I gave her a dozen roses she asked; why did you do that????? I guess her Ex never bought her flowers or did nice things for her just because he wanted to..... Then on the other hand I did it for the former wife & she saw it as me showing off to my friends; see what I did for my wife so I guess you can't win sometimes.....
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