Author samspade Posted April 30, 2009 Author Posted April 30, 2009 For my fiance, he gains a decent cook, someone who enjoys a clean house and regular sex. A man can have all of those things without getting married. He can also be assured that any progeny will be his, therefore his line is safe. I'm not saying this applies to you, but I'd be interested in seeing what percentage of children born within a marriage are sired by another man. A lot of men are 'assured' and wind up paying for child support after a divorce without a paternity test. However, I do believe that raising children in a stable environment is the one plus you can enjoy within a marriage better than outside of one. Everything else can be found in unmarried life. I think people are just looking to rationalize cheating, or rationalize their paranoia of the opposite sex. I don't believe in rationalizing any of these things (and am not paranoid), but it cannot hurt to understand them. It is far better to grasp the universe as it is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying or reassuring (to quote Carl Sagan). Of course you cannot discount social and moral influences on sexual behavior. One example is the brutal and unjust penalties against women who cheated or sought out abortions in Western culture until very recently. The risk of these consequences was generally enough to keep some women from risking acting on their impulses. Evolution alone doesn't govern our behaviors, but it can explain a lot behind the impulses some choose to ignore, and others choose to act on.
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