georgejungle Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 My Gal loves me, we've been together a LONG TIME... But she can be SO suspicious of me, even when i haven't done anything. She tends to be more on the self-concious, insecure side of things with herself. But i do everything i can to assure her that i love her, i do a lot for her, i'm always there for her, etc. She NEVER suspects that i'm cheating ever (i never would nor have I ever thought about it) but she ocassionally thinks that i keep things from her. If i'm in the next room or if i'm on the computer, she always wants to know what i'm doing. "Waht were you looking up?" kinda questions. "What were you doing in the next room?"... and it's like i feel i'm a kid and my Mom is asking me what i was doing, as if i was doing something bad. That and she never feels 100% confident in my answers for stuff. I can't get flustered otherwise she won't believe me. But i get flustered because i get kinda ticked, she makes me feel uncomfortable UGH
Juniper22 Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 I don't think its JUST women...Men can be that way too. I can honestly say, I haven't ever been in a relationship where I was really suspicious of the guy I was seeing. BUT, I have been in a relationship where the GUY was suspicious of me and had no reason to be. I later on, years later, found out he was like that with most of the women he was involved with.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 My Gal loves me, we've been together a LONG TIME... But she can be SO suspicious of me, even when i haven't done anything. probably because she has been with some of our jackass brethren who cheated, treated them like crap...what have you. alot of men make it hard on the rest of us.
Lostgurl Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 probably because she has been with some of our jackass brethren who cheated, treated them like crap...what have you. alot of men make it hard on the rest of us. That is usually the case. Or that the suspicious person is that way because he/she cheated on you or an ex. They think "If i've done it, who's to say they aren't?" Its always one or the other the majority of the time.
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 I'd like to add that I think suspicion is quite necessary. We tend to go into relationships wide-eyed and bushy tailed, and slowly our trust is broken or our expectations let down, and we begin to become less naive, and either cynical or more realistic. We open our eyes a little wider and we are a little more careful. She may have been hurt in the past by a ****, or by a **** masquerading as a nice guy. She may have trusted a guy fully and been let down, or just been let down in general. You may have done something in the past to hurt her that has affected how she trusts you know. Also I think we live in a world where sleaze, dishonesty, lying, cheating is so mainstream and so common, its almost more expected than a happy ending. We almost SEEK it out because for a lot of us its all we ever really know, watch or read about. If she is young she may be insecure and worried. All in all I don't think suspicion is a bad thing, just not if it begins to take you over.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 That is usually the case. Or that the suspicious person is that way because he/she cheated on you or an ex. I was thinking that as well. I was accused of cheating by my x-wife when there was no basis for it whatsoever, come to find out it was because she was cheating.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 I'd like to add that I think suspicion is quite necessary. I agree with this. Trust....just don't trust blindly.
Lostgurl Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 I was thinking that as well. I was accused of cheating by my x-wife when there was no basis for it whatsoever, come to find out it was because she was cheating. That sucks Not only to be cheated on, but having to pay for it as well!
Dexter Morgan Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 That sucks Not only to be cheated on, but having to pay for it as well! Well now if ever accused of cheating when it should be apparant that I am not, this will throw up a big red flag to me regarding my SO's motives for accusing me.
Author georgejungle Posted April 24, 2009 Author Posted April 24, 2009 Want to rephrase and say, i don't mean only WOMEN do this. Just in my case, i've known women like this and don't know many men who do. Didn't meant to be ignorant. Just to clarify, My wife is great, always tells me she's lucky to have me, that i'm a great guy, best husband, etc. I give the same vocal support and love. We're very respectful towards each other...I love her very much, we've had lots of fun and joy the past 10 years. Just in some situations, she'll just get kinda "Parental" on me and I never understand where it's coming from. She always wants to know "what i'm doing" or if i'm 5-10 minutes late getting home, "Why are you late?" "Where were you?" not necessarily in a scolding way, but in a calm serious tone. No biggie, she worries, i don't mind. It's just that most of the time no matter what i say, it's never "Oh, O.k. Hunny"...It's more just a plain faced "oh, i see", like she doesn't believe me or something. I don't get it.
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