My sorry tale!

[Chrome Barracuda]

I could have told you she was trying to bait you into arguments by leaving her journal and phone out so tempting you to read it. Women are stupid like that playing little games while their cheating. It really unbecomes them. Show's you their true nature. If you detach and show her your moving on, then she's gonna cry about it.

 

Your giving her the power by arguing and crying. Let her go, make her leave, live again for you.

 

It'll get better and deep down inside this OM wont last long because if she's doing this to you, just imagine when the time comes what she'll do to him.

 

So just laugh because KARMA is a bitch.

[hopesndreams]

I'm a fool!

I'm a fool!

I'm a fool!

I'm a fool!

I'm a fool!

I'm a fool!

I'm a fool!

 

And who hasn't felt this way? OK, you've read the texts but you knew they weren't playing cards and baking cakes, right? The only thing between these nasty two is the sex, fun times, mindless banter, no stress----just little games, secrets, hehe's and really not much else. Their relationship is built on lies and there is no foundation for them to flourish. Do not concern yourself with them anymore. Do not think about what they are doing, EVER.

 

please arrange to move as soon as possible, the delay is killing me a bit each day.

If you could stay with your mum that would be great.

You want him not me, so go get him, he's welcome to you.

If you really like yourself after what you have done then I don't want you back.

 

Stop telling her how you really feel. She has read that text as still an option for her to stay and to keep treating you like sh*t if she so desires because you have not told her, actually tell her....GET OUT OF MY LIFE, NOW!!!

 

No small talk, no glances her way, distance yourself completely. When she is around, leave the house, do not subject yourself to anymore of this. I see her throwing a few breadcrumbs your way very shortly......she knows your weakness, she sees it right now. Accept nothing from her--this is very important. You are worth 10 of this guy she's cheating on you with, she will see it one day but by then it will be too late. You will have moved on and left her in the dust.

[KTMRider33]

So the response I got from my txt this morning....I know it was an emotional reaction.

I'm sure you think I deserved it otherwise you wouldn't have said it.

So she doesn't think she deserves it?

I suppose not, not going to get sucked in, no more texts, unless it's about the kids.

Well when I got home she said she'd got paperwork for a flat to rent and should be out in about a week, until then she'll stay out of my way WOOOOOHOOOOO only a week and she'll be gone. So now I'm in the armchair watching TV and she's hiding in the spare room......the worm has turned.

I would also like to say a big thank you to all that have offered support and advice.

In this modern age it is easy to be cynical about the human condition, but this forum has renewed my faith that there are good people in this world, who take the time to write a few words that make a difference, thank you have made a difference , when I needed it most.

[LovieDove24]

I enjoy living by the quote "Don't just get older...get better." It is a sad, sad day when people chose to do a complete 180 not for the better, but for the worse.

 

It will be a lovely day however when you can see the situation for what it truly is: a crossroads where your wife had the decision to take one path or another. Instead of spicing up the dullness of her life through a new hobby or activity, she chose sex. Which from experience we all know is one of the most fleeting forms of gratification. Sex does not equal happiness. Sex does not equal wholeness. Most importantly, sex does not equal love. In fact, sex when done out of pure lust brings quite the opposite in the end.

 

Please recognize it for what it is: your wife is unhappy somewhere deep inside. She is making poor decisions from where to seek life's pleasures. This is going to be a learning experience for her as well...

[KTMRider33]

I got a text message from her best mate.

She was my friend before she met my wife, but I know where her loyalties lie and that she will be feeding it all back to my wife.

 

Hi.....I hope things feel a little better this morning......Your anger is peaking methinks......Hopefully the light is getting clearer X

 

My reply:

Yes it is clearer, I don't want her back anymore. In her words she has acted despicably, and I have to agree.

Why would I want to be with somebody who treats the one they are supposed to love that way? I deserve better.

Their relationship is founded on deceit and the pain of others, I'll let Karma sort that one out.

The woman I loved has left the building.

 

So did I do right knowing she would get to see it?

Or should I just have ignored it?

 

I just want her GONE......

She's messing with my head, asking me what I'm doing at the weekend so she can go out while I babysit WTF

She must go soon.

[webmuse]

games, games. you already know exactly who that text was from.. good reply but I wouldn't go back & forth with either of them

[Gowithflow]

As hard as it is, you really need to "ignore and delete". If you feel like responding to a text, just wait it out. After a few hours you will be so glad you did.

 

You did not want her to cheat. You did not want her to leave. You did not want a divorce. You did not want to wind up a single dad. All of this is a direct result of HER actions, not yours. The ball is in HER court, not yours.

 

The ONLY way to get the ball in your court is to ignore her completely. Do not show her any emotion. When you feel the anger you will really need to manage it without outbursts or text or anything. She will do what she wants to do regardless.

 

Trust me and others on this. getting mad only fuels her fire. Learn to remain calm and let the anger pass. It will become easy. Getting mad will only create more problems for you, not her. Use the time you have to stay 100 percent in tune with the kids. Forget about her for a while. It's not easy, but it does get easier.

 

Be patient. Time will start to fly by. You will soon be getting laid elsewhere too and that will help out as well. But, don't be quick to give up your single status. It feels good to be single for a while!

 

Step 1, get her the F out of the house.

[KTMRider33]

Step 1, get her the F out of the house.

 

You got it, I hope that will happen really soon.

 

I posted on Facebook (I need to block her) that I'd had a good day, and when I got home she asked me why...I refused to tell her citing that she didn't want to tell me anything about her life.

I wish she just wouldn't talk to me, I must not get angry, and let her do her s**t and I'll do mine.....why is it that when you withdraw they suddenly want to talk?

F*****n bitch is cheating on me why should I have civil conversation.

[hopesndreams]

You got it, I hope that will happen really soon.

 

I have my fingers and toes crossed for you that she follows through.

 

I posted on Facebook (I need to block her) that I'd had a good day, and when I got home she asked me why...I refused to tell her citing that she didn't want to tell me anything about her life.

 

You don't want to know anything about her life, remember? Besides, you already know what she's up to...she's digging a hole for herself.

 

I wish she just wouldn't talk to me, I must not get angry, and let her do her s**t and I'll do mine.....why is it that when you withdraw they suddenly want to talk?

 

They want to talk to you more, especially when you withdraw, because they are curious, needy and inconsiderate of your feelings.

 

F*****n bitch is cheating on me why should I have civil conversation.

 

Nothing wrong with being civil, just don't get personal. Don't give her ammunition for her false belief that she is leaving you for the right reasons.

[seibert253]

I got a text message from her best mate.

She was my friend before she met my wife, but I know where her loyalties lie and that she will be feeding it all back to my wife.

 

Hi.....I hope things feel a little better this morning......Your anger is peaking methinks......Hopefully the light is getting clearer X

 

My reply:

Yes it is clearer, I don't want her back anymore. In her words she has acted despicably, and I have to agree.

Why would I want to be with somebody who treats the one they are supposed to love that way? I deserve better.

Their relationship is founded on deceit and the pain of others, I'll let Karma sort that one out.

The woman I loved has left the building.

 

So did I do right knowing she would get to see it?

Or should I just have ignored it?

 

I just want her GONE......

She's messing with my head, asking me what I'm doing at the weekend so she can go out while I babysit WTF

She must go soon.

 

I actually like this.

[seibert253]

You got it, I hope that will happen really soon.

 

I posted on Facebook (I need to block her) that I'd had a good day, and when I got home she asked me why...I refused to tell her citing that she didn't want to tell me anything about her life.

I wish she just wouldn't talk to me, I must not get angry, and let her do her s**t and I'll do mine.....why is it that when you withdraw they suddenly want to talk?

F*****n bitch is cheating on me why should I have civil conversation.

 

I would tell her that unless she needs to speak about seperation arraingments, or the kids, you have nothing to say to her. Then I would ignore her.

 

It will drive her up the fu#king wall. Trust me.

[KTMRider33]

Well the start of another day.

We talked for ten minutes last night and discussed the logistics of custody, and I would not make any commitments at this stage.

We also discussed filing for divorce, she said she had not considered filing , and I said there is no point prolonging things, she agreed.

With the reply from Pegasus in my head I went on to tell her a few things aout my feelings, but I qualified that I was not trying to make her feel guilty, but that I would not deny my emotions.

I know she is leaving and I accept that, and that the hardest thing to deal with is the kids, and that they will have another man acting in a parental role while they are with her, and that she can reconcile all these issues because it is her choice.

I said I cannot be her friend at the moment.

She played some mind games with me.......I had said when I was angry that I had wanted to slap her, she bought this up and said how did I think it was ok to think that, and I said it was a million miles from acctually doing it and that I would never acctually hit her it was just emotions talking. She said she was just trying to give me her perspective!!!!!

I have been trying to visualise her face when she is talking to me......that STARE, that look that seems full of hatred and sadness.

I don't think I should have talked to her it did not make me feel any better, she is not hearing me, I'm just confirming to her that she is making the right decision to leave me.

She is so far into her delusion that she is making the right decision.

I am a good loving person, I was right for her, we where good together.

For the first time in years I have started to pray....maybe a higher power as the answer.

Wishing you all a better day

[seibert253]

See my last post.

 

You will not get over her until she's gone. The sooner the better. Limit your contact until she's out the door.

 

Do not engage her in any conversation unless its about what I stated earlier. When you are home, ignore her. As far as your concerned, the woman you loved, the mother of your children is dead. Because in a sense, she is. She went into a cocoon, and came out something completely different than she once was.

 

KTM we know you're hurting and you want to heal, want closure, and want to know why this happened.

 

Realistically it doesn't matter why, it just happened. Did you have a part in it, maybe, but it's still uncalled for and selfish on her part. She gave up, you didn't. That's the best you can do.

 

Time to look forward, not behind. What's done is done. As my boss says, It is what it is. Time to be the best father for your children, and the best YOU for you. You will go on, and you will be a better and stronger person in the long run. She will not.

 

Let's look at this. Now you get to do WHATEVER you want, WHEN you want. You don't have discuss things you want to do and get your wife's approval. You can just do it. Want to take off and go to Vegas for a long weekend, gone, see ya later. No approval needed.

Want to buy that nice new set of golf clubs, CHA CHING, done.

Want to go out to a nice fancy resturant with your beautiful 25 year old co-worker, what time can I pick you up my dear.

 

See what I'm saying. Look at the cup being half full, not half empty. You will succeed and you will thrive.

Success is the best revenge.

Peace my friend.

[KTMRider33]

See my last post.

 

You will not get over her until she's gone. The sooner the better. Limit your contact until she's out the door. You're right, it is the next step, it's a big one to take and will hurt but It's got to happen, hopefully she will get the keys to her new place in a few days.

 

Do not engage her in any conversation unless its about what I stated earlier. When you are home, ignore her. As far as your concerned, the woman you loved, the mother of your children is dead. Because in a sense, she is. She went into a cocoon, and came out something completely different than she once was.

Yup she is totally consumed by her new life and her obsession with the new man, she's like a lovesick puppy.

 

KTM we know you're hurting and you want to heal, want closure, and want to know why this happened.

Damn right I'm hurting, more than any time in my life, and I've been through some tough times over the years, the difference here is that I have to cope with this on my own as that special person I relied on for support in the past is the one causing the pain.

I have been amazed at the physical and emotional effect this has had on me......never in my wildest dreams did I think that it would hurt this much!!!!

 

Realistically it doesn't matter why, it just happened. Did you have a part in it, maybe, but it's still uncalled for and selfish on her part. She gave up, you didn't. That's the best you can do.

That's a hard one to deal with, when she's telling you it's your fault because she was unhappy, but I'm realizing that's so much BS.

 

Time to look forward, not behind. What's done is done. As my boss says, It is what it is. Time to be the best father for your children, and the best YOU for you. You will go on, and you will be a better and stronger person in the long run. She will not.

Another one that's hard to do, everything is raw at the moment and it's hard to focus on anything but the pain.

 

Let's look at this. Now you get to do WHATEVER you want, WHEN you want. You don't have discuss things you want to do and get your wife's approval. You can just do it. Want to take off and go to Vegas for a long weekend, gone, see ya later. No approval needed.

Want to buy that nice new set of golf clubs, CHA CHING, done.

Want to go out to a nice fancy restaurant with your beautiful 25 year old co-worker, what time can I pick you up my dear.

Again you're right....I'm not there yet but I will be, I'm sure there will come a time when the penny drops and the sun starts to shine again.

 

See what I'm saying. Look at the cup being half full, not half empty. You will succeed and you will thrive.

Success is the best revenge.

Peace my friend.

At the moment the cup is in bits on the floor, and I'm starting the painful process of gluing it back together.....I believe you're right I want to succeed, mostly for me, but also so she can see I'm not beaten......battered, bruised, and punch drunk, but not beaten.

I need to find a way keep negative thoughts away and keep positive, any techniques for this would be most welcome.

[hopesndreams]

Well the start of another day.

We talked for ten minutes last night and discussed the logistics of custody, and I would not make any commitments at this stage.

 

Smart move. Give yourself time, you are reeling right now.

We also discussed filing for divorce, she said she had not considered filing , and I said there is no point prolonging things, she agreed.

With the reply from Pegasus in my head I went on to tell her a few things aout my feelings, but I qualified that I was not trying to make her feel guilty, but that I would not deny my emotions.

 

She should feel guilt, shame, and remorse without any prompting from you and if she doesn't, that speaks volumes about her character.

 

I know she is leaving and I accept that, and that the hardest thing to deal with is the kids, and that they will have another man acting in a parental role while they are with her, and that she can reconcile all these issues because it is her choice.

 

That other man will not replace you as their father. Chances are he is not going to be around long anyway.

 

I said I cannot be her friend at the moment.

 

Another smart move. It may take years to come to that point, if it ever does.

 

She played some mind games with me.......I had said when I was angry that I had wanted to slap her, she bought this up and said how did I think it was ok to think that, and I said it was a million miles from acctually doing it and that I would never acctually hit her it was just emotions talking. She said she was just trying to give me her perspective!!!!!

 

What's worse than those thoughts are the fact she lied, cheated, deceived, betrayed you and stomped on your heart and destroyed your family. Don't let her twist things to suit her. My H got a slap across the face by me over what he did, his jaw was tough, it didn't break...whereas my heart broke into a million pieces.

 

I have been trying to visualise her face when she is talking to me......that STARE, that look that seems full of hatred and sadness.

I don't think I should have talked to her it did not make me feel any better, she is not hearing me, I'm just confirming to her that she is making the right decision to leave me.

She is so far into her delusion that she is making the right decision.

I am a good loving person, I was right for her, we where good together.

For the first time in years I have started to pray....maybe a higher power as the answer.

Wishing you all a better day

 

Grieve the loss of what she was once. A chapter in your book will soon close and in time it will be put on a shelf to collect dust. New chapters, in a new book, await you. This time you call the shots. Get tough and strong, you will be experiencing incredible lows but there will also be incredible highs.

[KTMRider33]

I got home last night....and my wife told me he was leaving on Tuesday, I fell apart in front of her.

I told her the truth, my truth everything.

That despite all she has said and done I still love her and think I always will, that I feel cheated that I didn't get a chance to fix things........I can't go on but it lasted about an hour.

I know I shouldn't but I said she could always come and talk to me whatever, and that I would listen.

If this new guy treated her badly, then she could come to me...

Please note I did not say I would take her back!!!!!

I said for a while I wished it was me having the affair and making positive choices, but really I didn't want to be her, I didn't want to be her because the shine, and lust would leave her new relationship and then she'd have to face what she had done.

I know none of what I said made any difference, that she wasn't listening, and as soon as I had finished she went for a smoke and I could see her textnig, I assume him, for some reassurance.

But it is the truth, and I will not lie to myself or her, I will not deny how I feel, I will not hide the pain....I will live it and deal with it.

I had to tell her, for me not for her.

It doesn't make it easier, but it is another step.

All the time she tried plattitudes.....You don't get to chose us any more but you do have choices......THANKS, but anything but us is not a choice.

Take it day at a time........If a had a penny for every time I'd heard that one.

It will get easier....Because you've been here have you love?

I know she has to do this, she cannot reverse her course, she as to see this new relationship through otherwise she will never know if it is worth everything she has done.

At mine and my families cost she has to know if she's making the right choice.

I went to see a solicitor today, and she said let things settle down before filing, because if my stbx gets advice that will probably include.....don't move out, get him out, you stay in the house WTF

[Chrome Barracuda]

I got home last night....and my wife told me he was leaving on Tuesday, I fell apart in front of her.

I told her the truth, my truth everything.

That despite all she has said and done I still love her and think I always will, that I feel cheated that I didn't get a chance to fix things........I can't go on but it lasted about an hour.

I know I shouldn't but I said she could always come and talk to me whatever, and that I would listen.

If this new guy treated her badly, then she could come to me...

Please note I did not say I would take her back!!!!!

I said for a while I wished it was me having the affair and making positive choices, but really I didn't want to be her, I didn't want to be her because the shine, and lust would leave her new relationship and then she'd have to face what she had done.

I know none of what I said made any difference, that she wasn't listening, and as soon as I had finished she went for a smoke and I could see her textnig, I assume him, for some reassurance.

But it is the truth, and I will not lie to myself or her, I will not deny how I feel, I will not hide the pain....I will live it and deal with it.

I had to tell her, for me not for her.

It doesn't make it easier, but it is another step.

All the time she tried plattitudes.....You don't get to chose us any more but you do have choices......THANKS, but anything but us is not a choice.

Take it day at a time........If a had a penny for every time I'd heard that one.

It will get easier....Because you've been here have you love?

I know she has to do this, she cannot reverse her course, she as to see this new relationship through otherwise she will never know if it is worth everything she has done.

At mine and my families cost she has to know if she's making the right choice.

I went to see a solicitor today, and she said let things settle down before filing, because if my stbx gets advice that will probably include.....don't move out, get him out, you stay in the house WTF

 

You should stop trying to plaate her and be nice to her, you come off as a a weak guy. You need to detach and keep moving. She isnt listening and doesnt want you anymore. no matter what you say or do, she will continue to bang the new guys until she learns on her own the hard way. because that's what spouses do in affairs. I dont understand why you would ask her to call you if she's having problems in the affair, that's what the OM is for he's there to handle all her emotional needs, financial needs and physical needs.

 

You need to get that through your head that this is the end...

 

You owe her nothing...

 

You are NOT her friend...

 

Your gonna be there still holding the bag waiting fore her to return home like some lovesick puppy instead of making moves to better yourself and get new coochie. dont be a sap. Grieve, work through the pain, move on.

 

Why would you want a woman who could basically rip your heart out to be in your proximity anyway's. I wouldnt want any woman who treated me like crap taking to me in any capacity married or not. I could be cordial after a while but that's it. No more, no less.

[Gowithflow]

I got home last night....and my wife told me he was leaving on Tuesday, I fell apart in front of her.

I told her the truth, my truth everything.

That despite all she has said and done I still love her and think I always will, that I feel cheated that I didn't get a chance to fix things........I can't go on but it lasted about an hour.

I know I shouldn't but I said she could always come and talk to me whatever, and that I would listen.

If this new guy treated her badly, then she could come to me...

Please note I did not say I would take her back!!!!!

I said for a while I wished it was me having the affair and making positive choices, but really I didn't want to be her, I didn't want to be her because the shine, and lust would leave her new relationship and then she'd have to face what she had done.

I know none of what I said made any difference, that she wasn't listening, and as soon as I had finished she went for a smoke and I could see her textnig, I assume him, for some reassurance.

But it is the truth, and I will not lie to myself or her, I will not deny how I feel, I will not hide the pain....I will live it and deal with it.

I had to tell her, for me not for her.

It doesn't make it easier, but it is another step.

All the time she tried plattitudes.....You don't get to chose us any more but you do have choices......THANKS, but anything but us is not a choice.

Take it day at a time........If a had a penny for every time I'd heard that one.

It will get easier....Because you've been here have you love?

I know she has to do this, she cannot reverse her course, she as to see this new relationship through otherwise she will never know if it is worth everything she has done.

At mine and my families cost she has to know if she's making the right choice.

I went to see a solicitor today, and she said let things settle down before filing, because if my stbx gets advice that will probably include.....don't move out, get him out, you stay in the house WTF

 

Your actions are driven by the pain instead of the brain. Let it go for now. As hard as it is. Especially if you ever want her back. Check the emotions. She's feeding off them. She's just twisting your words around anyways and probably telling people you are "acting weird". It's hard. The pain is very real, but also very natural. Read up on it and you will understand why you feel this way.

 

Stay strong. Be patient. be careful who you drag into it as well

[hopesndreams]

You should stop trying to plaate her and be nice to her, you come off as a a weak guy. You need to detach and keep moving. She isnt listening and doesnt want you anymore. no matter what you say or do, she will continue to bang the new guys until she learns on her own the hard way. because that's what spouses do in affairs. I dont understand why you would ask her to call you if she's having problems in the affair, that's what the OM is for he's there to handle all her emotional needs, financial needs and physical needs.

 

I agree with this 100%. No matter how hard that is for you to read and comprehend, keep reading it until it sinks in.

 

When you are deeply in love with someone and they leave you, you must LET GO. You need to think about just you and the kids now. She has no respect for you, and respect precedes love. To be her doormat after doing the worse thing she could do to you is in essence telling her you are weak and pathetic. Show her your strength! The best revenge, the best way for her to WAKE UP is to show her that your life will move on and you will be successful.

 

These are not just some little tips for you from those that have been through what you are going through. These are lessons, learn from our mistakes, we are trying to show you how to have the best possible outcome and save yourself some misery.

 

Go LC---limited contact---under no circumstances repeat your latest performance---your audience isn't listening right now and it's only showing her she is doing the right thing. She may be more receptive down the road but until such time, live for you and when or if she comes crawling back, you'll be strong and ready for what you should do for you.

[KTMRider33]

You are all so right.....I HAVE BEEN A MUG.

Blinded my emotions I have carried on picking at the scab of my dead marriage.

I've just re-read my posts and I do appear to be a total wuss!!!!

I am not by nature weak, physicaly or mentally.....I am a 6'3" 15st ex rugby player, not weak at all, yet I have been! I have been emotionaly driven since this all started, I have lost all perspective due to the mental cruelty I have suffered.......MY WIFE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR FFS

Chrome....you are spot on, why am saying she can call me if she's in trouble.....F**K her let her wallow in her own mess.

Suddenly I have had a moment of clarity.

I know in previous posts I have mentioned manning up, and I've tried to mean it and show it to her, but the last week or so I've lost it.

No more talking, no more Mr nice guy, no small talk, I am not her friend, I am not her lover,.......I am the father of her children, and her X husband, that is it, that is what our relationship consists of only that.

[hopesndreams]

I've just re-read my posts and I do appear to be a total wuss!!!!

 

I don't see a wuss. I see a caring, compassionate man that desperately loves his wife. You were blindsided and in great pain, I feel empathy for your situation.

 

Suddenly I have had a moment of clarity.

 

Grab onto that and don't let go, you will need it for what's coming ahead. When the urge next strikes to go against the right plan, post here instead.

[seibert253]

You are all so right.....I HAVE BEEN A MUG.

Blinded my emotions I have carried on picking at the scab of my dead marriage.

I've just re-read my posts and I do appear to be a total wuss!!!!

I am not by nature weak, physicaly or mentally.....I am a 6'3" 15st ex rugby player, not weak at all, yet I have been! I have been emotionaly driven since this all started, I have lost all perspective due to the mental cruelty I have suffered.......MY WIFE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR FFS

Chrome....you are spot on, why am saying she can call me if she's in trouble.....F**K her let her wallow in her own mess.

Suddenly I have had a moment of clarity.

I know in previous posts I have mentioned manning up, and I've tried to mean it and show it to her, but the last week or so I've lost it.

No more talking, no more Mr nice guy, no small talk, I am not her friend, I am not her lover,.......I am the father of her children, and her X husband, that is it, that is what our relationship consists of only that.

 

KTM the anger light just clicked on. Stick with the above plan and watch how she will respond. She will not know what to do, but of course as usual she will blame everything on you. "Why are you doing this, why are you acting this way, can't we be civil about this, this is why I screwed around on you."

I'm doing this because I see you for what you truely are. I'm acting this way because I will no longer be your dormat. NO, I will no longer be civil about this. No, you lied and screwed around because you are a WHORE. You no longer love me, so I no longer am going to love you.

[Jonesey]

Dude, listen to what these people are saying. I have made the same mistakes as you, my latest was just 3 days ago after almost a month of LC/NC. I cried when I dropped my son off to her, she didn't care. I e-mailed her when I got home saying how much her being with another man hurt me, she didn't care. I then called her 10 minutes after that and asked her how only after a month and a half of being separated again, she could be with someone else. Her answer, "it just happened". I then asked her if she loved him, and she said "yes". Now, my emotions went crazy right then as she was telling me to leave her alone and that she was done talking to me. But, my rational thoughts peered through the clouds right at that moment. I thought to myself " This woman is f-ing crazy. There is no way she can love this guy while dealing with the end of a marriage, the recent news of our son's autism and all the other stuff going on". Her actions are the result of being mentally F'ed and I know in my heart she will eventually lose everything, including this new "love". It is sad to say it but I can't wait for the day that her world comes crashing at her feet and she has little/nothing left. My wife needs this to happen and hopefully it will straighten her out for the sake of our son.

 

Please, take the NC advice and move on with your life. There is a good chance you will get to see her self destruct and be standing there watching her struggle to breathe. Hell, I have had such a hard time breathing for the past few weeks, I can't wait for that moment.

 

Take care and god bless my friend.

[SRV]

Please read redblack's post at the link below, good luck to you!

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t189063/

[KTMRider33]

We said goodbye this morning...I am going away for the weekend and she will be gone when I get back......it's a sad day.

She went out with my friends wife last night, and told her she had been unhappy and would have left me at some stage even if this new guy hadn't come along.....he just sped up the process, as did me finding out.

I suppose I couldn't have expected anything else but self justification.

I AM SO SAD

IT HURTS SO MUCH

IT CAN'T GET ANY WORSE

She cried and said she was sorry about all the pain she had caused me.

I said she could have made different choices.

She agreed.....It's over,I just have to get used to that fact.

Life is brutal sometimes.

I just wish I could get some relief from the pain.

Time to be a man.......although I feel like a little lost boy