musicmaker5177 Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 My fiance and I seperated about a month ago. We were together 3 years and it was great. I've never felt such passion and love for someone and got the same from her. We loved each other to no end. She has a daughter that I took in as my own and love very much as well. I always knew she was never happy with herself but always managed to make her happy on the outside. She is very insecure about herself and that makes for a difficult relationship. We didn't have a huge argument or anything to break up. She decided it was time to "Find Herself". Without any warning, she made it clear that she wanted to do this for herself and nothing else. She says she still loves me very much and would like to see us together again one day if she can work out her own issues with herself. She doesn't want to talk so much anymore or really have much contact with me. I went from having a wonderful family to having nothing in an instant. I can't stop thinking about her and her daughter and how much I miss them. How do I deal with a situation like this? I'm afraid she will just make a new life for herself and I will just become a memory to her instead of the person she wants to make memories with.
Chinook Posted April 25, 2009 Posted April 25, 2009 Sorry but the 'I need to do this for myself' line usually equates to having someone else waiting in the wings. I've seen this so many times on Loveshack it's so transparent now. You can't make her come back and she doesn't want you to contact her because she would have to be faced with what she has done. The best you can do is learn to cope with things in your own way. Seek out one of Caliguy's posts and click on the links in his signature to help you out with how to cope. Also seek out 'no foolin's' guide for the long walk.
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