What would you do? Found something that didnt check out right.

[confused05]

Ok so me and my ex have been having some issues for the last year just disagreements here and there no cheating. or anything like that but just some arguments etc. ( together for 5 years )

 

So a few weeks ago maybe a week or 2 before we break up i start seeing this random phone # on our cell bill, Up and down the bill lots of texts. I asked her and she said she wasnt sure cause all her #s are in the phone by name.

 

Anyhow i didn't pursue it.. I had an idea but didnt pursue it. So we get into a decent fight 100% on my part i got a little drunk and yelled at her. ( its happened before ) i dont drink much def not an alchaholic.

 

So the next day she tells me im done im moving back home. I told you if this happens again i would be moving home and you never believed me.

 

So we both have our email address's setup on our cell phones and they also come to the central computer in our house. Well while broken up we never changed that and she must of forgot it comes to the PC.

 

She sends a pic to this 201 # that says nice body with a pic of her at the beach .

 

The reply comes back and says from Brian xxx : Very Nice so i text her nice body?

 

Whos Brian? she says some guy hes just some guy.

 

So i cant resist and i say are you seeing him like wtf what do you mean some guy. Shes like kinda hes nice to me he says nice things to me he likes seeing me. ( all things she says i stopped doing ) I did get a little selfish just didnt realize it till now.

 

What would you think? She said she met him at her job ( shes a massouse ) he left his number at the front desk and she texted him when we started getting bad.

 

Now since i though she needed time I found out. She says i was gonna tell you if it turned into somethoing.

 

She says im sorry i dont want to hurt you im also scared to make the wrong decision. Take a chance with a new guy or throw away the last 5 years with you, your great family our place etc ( i own the condo but we were gonna get engaged soon )

 

So i say I thought you needed time to think about us, You cant do that with another guy around it has to be with me and u alone not with baggage.

 

I dunno what to think I told her its not up for debate or discussion if you dont stop the **** with him im done 100% and wont even be willing to work at anything. I can stand being broken up with and you needing time but another guy in the picture is just going to cloud your mind from thinking about us..

 

 

What would you guys do I love her to death and dont wanna cheat myself but also hate to loose the love of my life.

 

She still texts me i miss you and wants to see me this wed for breakfeast.

 

Im just looking for some advice! Thanks LS

[hopesndreams]

I dunno what to think I told her its not up for debate or discussion if you dont stop the **** with him im done 100% and wont even be willing to work at anything. I can stand being broken up with and you needing time but another guy in the picture is just going to cloud your mind from thinking about us..

 

You are dead right about this and she had you as a back-up plan if things didn't work out with this new guy! She is wise to you knowing about him now and chances are she will now hide him from you and still string you along until she has her plans firmly in place.

 

Let us know how breakfast goes.

[confused05]

She called me this morning to vent she is on vacation with her family and she was upset about a check that bounced. When I talked to her last she said she would see me wed for breakfeast that she wanted some time to her self now she says, ( she will be home from florida tom 8am ) I planned on seeing you sunday.

 

Im thinking we will see how Sunday goes and if the relationship stuff comes up I will tell her you have X amount of time to let me know what you wanna do.

You either take a chance with me to help improve our relationship which i would bend over backwards to be fair and make it work. Or you take a chance with him

and loose me forever. Either way you have make a decision soon if you dont than im not working towards any resolution and it will be done for good.

 

I am not going to be walked all over or strung along or be a " Backup Plan " Now the time to SH|T or get off the pot. If you choose me great but you will have to erase

him from your life no phone #s no texts no nothing back to me and you 100%

 

Would I be out of place? Or do you think there is a better way of going about it I want to be firm but not come across like I am threatening. BUt in a way i am as in you have to make a decision. And make it soon.

[Chinook]

Um, no offence but she's already dumped you, she's just pratting about now until you let go. She's not in the process of making any decision because if she was, she'd be right there and she'd let you know about it. She's trying the new guy on for size, sure she is. Why oh why would you let someone dump you...? Walk away from your relationship...? See other guys....? And then still want her back...? Also, if that number showed up on your bill weeks before she dumped you, she knew exactly what she was doing and she wanted you to find it out. She wanted you to end things so she didn't have to but as it is, the argument ensued and she walked away. She's not coming back mate. And FYI, you're already being walked all over.

[hopesndreams]

You need to do and say what you feel is right and then whatever outcome this relationship has, whether it fails or succeeds, you will know that you tried your best to get it back on track without having any regrets.

 

BUt in a way i am as in you have to make a decision. And make it soon.

 

You be the one to make the decision. If you don't hear what you want to hear from her, end it. I think you already know what the right thing to do is.

[confused05]

Hopes,

 

THX i will let you know how it goes