hotgelato Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 We've gone out few times. But they were more like very laid back hanging out sessions. Nothing physical - remember the thread he won't give me a good night hug?!- The other day, I went out clubbing with his friends. There was dancing with him and lots of touching but as soon as he drops me off the car, no hug/no kiss. But he wants to come to my work formal party this weekend as my date. It's not like I asked him to come, i just mentioned it and it just worked out this way. If you are just interested in friendship, would you still do these things with a girl? He introduced me as just a friend to his friends and obviously we have chemistry. Why won't he do anything to me? No physical contact...ugh is it cuz this guy has got no game or just into firendship??? Please help me not waste my time
kdark Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 Like you said, he's either scared or isn't into you like that. Just from what you've stated, I would venture he's just scared of taking it too fast, or he's inexperienced. So... You can either make a move yourself or make it very obvious that you are into him, and give him plenty of opportunities to make his move.
colosseum Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 Like you said, he's either scared or isn't into you like that. Just from what you've stated, I would venture he's just scared of taking it too fast, or he's inexperienced. So... You can either make a move yourself or make it very obvious that you are into him, and give him plenty of opportunities to make his move. My thinking exactly. Most guys would not behave the way your man is if they are not interested in a lady. Sounds to me like he's shy/being unusually careful/inexperienced (or...gay? Maybe?). Guys like this usually need a BIG hint, if not a hit on the head. Just tell him how you feel or ask him to kiss you. I don't know, I remember being pretty clueless when I was younger...not to say I'm any less clueless now but...
Author hotgelato Posted April 24, 2009 Author Posted April 24, 2009 well he is coming out of a very long relationship, which he was in all his college/gradschool life. And I can only guess he is new at dating games. However, that being said, he makes things sound really casual. Like we are really just friends. Ugh, I do not wanna be the one pursuing the kiss. It should come from the guy! But I guess I can only find out if I hinted something more obvious? ps. isn't offering gum/mint a good enough hint?
carhill Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 Well, how is he with others, his friends and family? Is he affectionate? I remember, as a young person, being consistently less affectionate physically, simply because it overwhelmed me. It didn't mean I liked the young lady any less. But, looking back, I respect their perception that it seemed that way to them. Fair enough. I think you're right. He needs to kiss you. Have you made close eye contact with him?
jadelil25 Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 It sounds like he is interested in you but he wants to take things slow and get to know you more before making any moves. He wants to spend time with you and see where it goes and is scared to make a move. He also could be confused on how you feel and what you want. I think the best thing to do is when he comes to the formal party with you, at the end of it when you leave or go home try to give him a hug and a kiss and see how he reacts. Im sure it will be positive and im sure he will be happy that you have made the move. It is the only way you can find out. From what you say all is good but he is a bit unsure and wants to take it slow.
Author hotgelato Posted April 24, 2009 Author Posted April 24, 2009 Is inviting him up for coffee too much after the formal? It is kinda like a prom and he ordered a corsage and such hahaha. A guy wouldnt go through this if he wasn't interested, right? I just wish there was more physical contact... !!
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