BlueEyedGirl Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 This is probably the wrong section but: Does being strong mean being confident and able to use your reason and logic to control your emotions? Or does it mean having your opinions and not backing down even if they are unpopular? Or does being strong mean pursuing a goal persistantly, despite setbacks, being knocked down and getting back up to fight again and again? (I don't mean this when it comes to romance but say education or career goals) Or does being strong means fighting a serious illness or another heavy hardship bravely and not giving up? (I guess last two points are somewhat the same) Is it all of the above? I am curious on defintitions of strong vs weak person..
Athena Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 In my opinion, a strong person has Integrity. This means living up to one's word. In other words their actions match what they say they will do. Also, being a strong person mean having ethics and a moral code which always guides them. It means having the strength of character to do the right thing, even if no one is watching, or if no one will find out. That is the strength to live your life the way you believe you should, the way you know you should. Without the complications of lies, betrayals, and letting other people down. Be your Word.
boldjack Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 BEG, I wpuld echo everything that you and Athena have said and add a couple of my own. Strong is being able to admit to mistakes, even when you are the only one who recognizes them as mistakes. It's not weakness to say your sorry if your remorse is genuine. Being strong is having the ability to look beyond your own wants and desires and respect those of others.
tirralirra Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I agree with Athena 100%, and you too! It sounds SO cheesy to say "believe in yourself," but it's true. Lately, for me, being strong has meant keeping my head up in a very stagnant period of my life and believing that it will get better if I keep trying.
Ariadne Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 (If you ask people what is strong, they are just going to describe how they see themselves )
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 (If you ask people what is strong, they are just going to describe how they see themselves ) You might be on to something there. I guess noone wants to think of themselves as weak. BTW the first thing I think about when someone says "weak men" is those under the thumb, pu$$y whipped guys.
Ariadne Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 BTW the first thing I think about when someone says "weak men" is those under the thumb, pu$$y whipped guys. (Does this mean good luck?)
RecordProducer Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I agree with all the definitions being presented in this thread. I might slightly disagree with your statement that everybody wants to be seen as strong. Maybe men, but not necessarily women. To me, strength means to bounce back emotionally when the emotions don't deserve your attention anymore, to take care of loved ones at your own expense, to fight against laziness and weaknes of character (and lack of will), to endure enormous emotional or physical pain. I guess it does entail over-powering emotions, because I think the more emotional you are the weaker you are. But on the other hand, everyone is sensitive, and the emotional people get it out of their system easily.
luvinlife Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I think Athena and Boldjack have good points. Being strong includes knowing your weaknesses. Confidence is sometimes used as a mask for fear. Many people do this so well that they come off looking strong. It's not always a sign of strength. Not being able to back down on opinions is weakness, not a strength. I don't think that how quickly we are able to bounce back necessarily means strength. However, if we are able to bounce back as a better person, that is strength. Being emotional is not weak. Knowing and understanding your feelings is a strength! I ought to know, I am not good at understanding my feelings. It is perhaps my greatest weakness
voldigicam Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I wouldn't think there'd be a single definition. People aren't just one thing. I tend to be confused and perhaps easily swayed in civilization. But in the wilderness, I notice I simply do what needs to be done. In retrospect, often extremely difficult and demanding things, without thinking about it really. Am I strong or a little wimpy? So it just depends.
Sam Spade Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 There is a huge difference between actually being a strong person and having moments of feeling empowered . My ex though she's a strong person just because she had such moments plus high tolerance for pain . Strong person is one that's accountable and completely in charge of their thoughts, emotions, and life circumstances.
Star Gazer Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Being a strong person comes from within. Like LB said, it's self-actualization. A weak person relies on external validation to feel better about themselves, and points fingers at others when things don't go their way, rather than accepting responsibility.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I think that strength is having the courage to be who YOU are, no matter what anyone else thinks of it.
Trialbyfire Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Strength is only a tool. What matters is having ethical boundaries and using strength and self-discipline to uphold them, regardless of impact to self.
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