SummerLady Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 How do you explain to anyone how someone has this connection with you above all others? Is it a chemistry, a feeling, something that just draws you in, that no one else can match. I know a few people that have never felt this and its something you cannot explain, you have to feel it. Its not just the sex, or the looks, the personality or the company or the situation, its everything and then something a little bit more that pushes it over the edge. You can't reproduce it no matter how hard you try. If you lose it you cannot compare it to others as it will never measure up. Its in a class all on its own. Some call it a completion. Some call it magic, soul mates. This bond is beyond words. Its Heaven:)
Blah Toolz Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 The brain is swirling with all those pleasure inducing chemicals like dopamine, essentially telling you you're in love. I don't like to de-mystify things, because I like to believe in true love as well... but that's why it's so difficult when break-ups occur. Essentially, it's like trying to come off a drug cold turkey. Your brain craves the other person that left you.
EmperorR Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 yep like quitting smoking or getting off a drug or any addiction its hard as hell, but the longer you go the better you feel.
TaraMaiden Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 This is classic... Clinging, grasping, desire, attachment...... Suffering. Ah, I could go on. But it's obvious. _/l\_
Author SummerLady Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 This is classic... Clinging, grasping, desire, attachment...... Suffering. Ah, I could go on. But it's obvious. _/l\_ I actually have no suffering. I am glad I had the experience. If it comes back that is great, if not its not meant to be for whatever reason. I do believe that everything happens for a reason. Love is a gift that is given freely, sometimes it goes away and comes back and sometimes it never comes back. Not sure why, just is the way it is. As they say learning is what you get when you don't get what you want. I have learned...
TaraMaiden Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Actually, we all have suffering. It's called the cycle of Samsara.... But now, I am being pedantic. And that can be very tiresome!! _/l\_
Author SummerLady Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Actually, we all have suffering. It's called the cycle of Samsara.... But now, I am being pedantic. And that can be very tiresome!! _/l\_ I meant to say I have no suffering NOW, I have suffered due to this. Not anymore. I am at peace with it.
Sonic_chaos Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 All the words you described Summerlady are excatly the words i would use.. SOULMATE brings a lump to my throat and is actually making me cry. As i know i did find mine when i met my ex.. she is so beautiful, but only i and her mother and father could see it. i could stare into her beautiful green eyes forever and never get bored of them ever.
TaraMaiden Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Please explain how an ex- can be a 'soulmate'....? This is not accurate. Soulmates can exist, but you both have to believe you are soulmates. Otherwise it is nothing of the kind. Soulmates do not separate. Do they...? _/l\_
Author SummerLady Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Please explain how an ex- can be a 'soulmate'....? This is not accurate. Soulmates can exist, but you both have to believe you are soulmates. Otherwise it is nothing of the kind. Soulmates do not separate. Do they...? _/l\_ Well I guess it depends on who you ask. I think we sometimes miss out on who we should be with due to timing and such, you know life. Sometimes we realize too late we had the one we were meant to be with and if that person has moved on, what can you do. It does not mean that the person does not love you, it just means too little to late, life goes on and we make the best decisions for the time that we make them. I Have never researched the term soul mates but I am sure there are many explanations for your question. Just because the best possible person is there for you does not mean you will end up with them. My opinion. Look around to see that.
Sonic_chaos Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Please explain how an ex- can be a 'soulmate'....? This is not accurate. Soulmates can exist, but you both have to believe you are soulmates. Otherwise it is nothing of the kind. Soulmates do not separate. Do they...? _/l\_ We both believed we was soulmates and still do to be honest. They was some of the parting words when i left her house that day we broke. So if we are soulmates, i still believe we have a chance to make it right. rightly or wrongly i guess.. And i still think in her heart of hearts she wants it to be good again... time will tell. It was nothing but my own fault that ended the relationship due to me messing up my priorities and not putting our relationship first. that would never happen again!! but i also agree with Summerlady, some soulmates can be apart due to wrong time wrong place etc.
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