Author redfathom Posted April 27, 2009 Author Posted April 27, 2009 Eve, no you have not offended. Yes if my condition was passed on to my child they would indeed need to have the surgery I had...The scary thing about the surgery is that it's a treatment, not a cure, and sometimes need to be repeated, and most times is not successful at getting rid of any or all of the symptoms. Lovie, yes, we should have discussed them and we did, but I was 18 and really hadn't thought about it. I just assumed it would be something we would eventually do, because that's part of being married. I know I am not ready to have kids, now. The question is if I ever will be. If I was to get pregnant now, a month ago I would have said I would seriously consider abortion. Now, knowing how important it is to my husband, I would probrably keep the baby and spend the next nine months preparing myself...
Quinch Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I'm approaching 37, still childless and likely to remain that way. Sometimes I think I might like to be a father one day and I'm sure that, if I don't, there will be times when I regret it. But I'm equally convinced that, if I do, there will be times when I regret it. It's much easier to regret not having kids than to regret having them when it's too late.
pandagirl Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I think the only reason to have kids, is because you 100% want them. No one is ever really "ready" to have a kid -- it's pretty much diving into unknown territory for everyone -- but I truly believe you have to at least possess the *desire* to have them. I've always known that I wanted kids from a very young age. I've always like kids and enjoyed being around them, but last year my brother has baby twins, and the way I instinctually loved them was pretty overwhelming. Then again, I know of some people who weren't that into kids, had them on accident, and love them just the same. The only difference was they had to emotionally catch up and adjust to having a child in their life, but eventually they got there. So I don't know. It can go either way, but I think you should only have kids if you feel like you want to be a mom or dad.
sb129 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Redfathom- if you don't want kids, then you don't need to be ashamed of that, although I can see how it could be a possible future bone of contention if your husband DOES want them. (as someone said, its an issue that is a good idea to address prior to marriage). Sure, some people change their minds. I was never particularly bothered about it until I met my H and knew for sure that we would be a good team together if we had a family. We also were older and had done alot of "selfish" stuff, and felt ready. (we are having our first one in October) The prospect of it is both terrifying and exciting. One of the great things about it is it was the best news we could give my dad before he died, and its something that is keeping my mum going- we are having a child for US too, but through all the recent grief and trauma in our family, it seems like the right thing to do even more than ever now. Whatever your thoughts are, they are yours, and thats your prerogative.
boldjack Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 RF, For God'ssake don't. They are a pain in the a**. They eat everything that isn't nailed down, they cause more trouble than a troop of baboons, they get every illness except Ebola, and they have all the gratitude of a mako shark. Never have KIDS!!!
sb129 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 RF, For God'ssake don't. They are a pain in the a**. They eat everything that isn't nailed down, they cause more trouble than a troop of baboons, they get every illness except Ebola, and they have all the gratitude of a mako shark. Never have KIDS!!! Bad day with the offspring Boldjack?
boldjack Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Just the usual, the two youngest came home from college this weekend last. Drank all of my beer, ate 3 weeks worth of food, and left off 8 tons of dirty laundry. Kids, you can't live with em, can't move to Morocco. They're like locusts.
boldjack Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I just hope that the "Wonderbaby', is a girl. Girls aren't as dirty, they eat less, and are WAY better behaved.:D
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