I sent the letter, i got this back let me know what you think?

[clare.harry]

Hey Everyone

 

I sent my ex a letter saying everything that i felt in it. I told him i understood why we split up and i wished him well and told him there was no hard feelings and that i hoped that one day we could be friends. I said how i didnt regret being with him because we had so many happy memories and that i was thankful for all the things he had taught me about myself!

Background:- we were together for 2 yrs we have been split for 3 months now he said that he didnt think that he could make me happy anymore and he didnt see a future with the way our relationship was. In other words he wasnt happy anymore!Since then ive kept minimal contact, hes text me a few times saying how much he misses me and how we cant be friends because if he sees me hell want to get back with me ect. I saw him for the first time in 3 months last week and he got really jealous when another bloke showed me some attention. I decided to send him a letter. He text me this back.

Hi Clare, just to say i got your letter yesterday and everytime i read iti havent made it through without crying yet. i hope you go on to better things and hope you know that i stillthink about you a lot we did hav a lot of good times together which i will never forget you taught me things aswell,some of them i am finding out now your gone!now i can reflect about it all aswell!Your Paul

 

I now find myself not knowing what to do, do i text back?This message sounds so final i dont really know what to say. WHat does it mean?????

[Sonic_chaos]

Hi Clare,

 

Sounds to me that he is regretting the decision that he made 3 months ago about not feeling like the relationship was progressing. Specially if he was the one that broke it off, not feeling it. And then he is the one saying that he misses you.. Im guessing you dont want to let him back in? and your done with the relationship from the way you have put it down although i might be reading that wrong?

 

from the txt message. It sounds like he is trying to respect your wishes, or indeed calling your bluff. he made the mistake, wishes he hadnt. But he isnt willing to be come friends again and see if things do indeed blossom again if the relationship wasnt a bad one or a bad break up.. Its a very tough thing to ask to be honest, being friends after being in a meaningfull relationship. And a complete mind F**k at best of times.. The thought of seeing your ex with another guy-girl isnt something i could deal with at all. It would destroy me. like i said especially if you knew she/he was the one you thought you would spend the rest of your life with..

 

In my situ, my ex told me that whatever happens that she would always wanna be my friend, as in someways she still is my best friend. I told her i wanted all or nothing, as the thought of not being able to touch,smell, kiss etc the way i did when we was together would kill me... That didnt go down well. And obviously she said that if i didnt want to be friends she respected that. but at the moment i want to get back with her. So im going to become friends again slowly and hope that spark comes alive for us.

 

You have to weigh up what you want though then work from that...

 

best of luck