IzzyRocks Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Hey, I am hoping someone can help me here or give me their opinion. I have had a friendship with a male for over a year. Not a conventional friendship but an online one. We have/had (?) alot in common. We spoke daily for a few months. Our chats were always good fun and he provided some light relief when I was going through a rough patch in my life. One day he said he wished there was something he could do to help me in my situation. And I was appreciative of having someone who seemed to care. He eventually confided in me about his childhood. We have lived similar lives and both have the same outlook on life. It was nice to have such an adult conversation with him and not be totally jokey and random all of the time. I told him I cared about him and offered if he ever needed to let off steam that I was always happy to listen. Our conversations sometimes were about maybe meeting up one day ( we live in different Countries). And did at times, after a while get flirty. I did and do find him physically attractive but that isnt the issue here. Since he opened up and confided in me our conversations got a little awkward. He seemed more distant. Then some days he would open up again and tell me about other aspects of his life. Now recently he has been totally distant. He comes online to talk but rarely speaks. He is the kind of person who usually speaks his mind and wont hold back if he's annoyed etc. But he also seems to back away and then come back. He doesnt seem to be able to handle talking about his feelings unless its on his terms. So i feel reluctant to ask him why he is being so cold. I have a full and active life and have plenty of 'real life friends' but I really did think alot about him. Its not about me wanting anything else from him other than a friendship. Why do people open up and then back away?. Should I just leave him to make contact in his own time or just forget about him and stop all contact?. By the way I am in 32 and he is 26..so we're not exactly kids! Thanks Isobel x
sugarmomma Posted April 27, 2009 Posted April 27, 2009 Men hav a tendency to do that to see if we're gonna get all needy and clingy. Give him space and let him come back on his own. They always do. Trust me I am way older than you.
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