should i really be disappointed am i over reacting?

[deepthinker]

i dont know what to think at this point...my boyfriend went to a bacholer party with his friend.. And called me today and i asked him if he had fun...and he said yes and told me the stripers where funny because they took his friends uncles shirt off and started hitting him real hard in the nipple witch is pretty funny....i am a very easy going person and i did not mind him going at all...i was fine with it until he went on telling me what ealse happend and he told me the strippers dance all over everyone that i was kinda ok with its part of the show but then when he told me the stripper took off his belt and was smaking him with it..that made me feel very uneasy...it might not seem like a big deal but just thinking about him setting back and letting a nasty stripper undress him...i said nicly gosh im sorry but i would not let a stripper dance all over me and then try to undress me..and he said well i couldnt just say no because everyone in the room would have called me a fag....i dont know can anyone tell me if im over reacting?...i dont hate him or intend on breaking up with him... IM just very toreup over it..

[GroupFitness]

Can you pinpoint what exactly you are uneasy about? I mean what exactly bothers you about it? Do you think he cheated? Are you jealous?

[deepthinker]

Thank you for your opinon!!!!!

[deepthinker]

well...what makes me so uneasy about it is that he said well i couldn't say no or everyone in the room would have called me a fag!! OK say he was out with a bunch of guy friends and some random chick came up to him and was trying to make out with him...would he do it because he is afraid of what all of his guy friends think or will he push her away not caring what they think for my sake?...

[GroupFitness]

1. How old is he?

 

2. Did you ask him if he was really interested in the lapdance or if he only did it so his friends wouldn't make fun of him. OR is it a mixture of both?

[angie2443]

i dont know what to think at this point...my boyfriend went to a bacholer party with his friend.. And called me today and i asked him if he had fun...and he said yes and told me the stripers where funny because they took his friends uncles shirt off and started hitting him real hard in the nipple witch is pretty funny....i am a very easy going person and i did not mind him going at all...i was fine with it until he went on telling me what ealse happend and he told me the strippers dance all over everyone that i was kinda ok with its part of the show but then when he told me the stripper took off his belt and was smaking him with it..that made me feel very uneasy...it might not seem like a big deal but just thinking about him setting back and letting a nasty stripper undress him...i said nicly gosh im sorry but i would not let a stripper dance all over me and then try to undress me..and he said well i couldnt just say no because everyone in the room would have called me a fag....i dont know can anyone tell me if im over reacting?...i dont hate him or intend on breaking up with him... IM just very toreup over it..

 

It doesn't really matter what others think. It matters what you think. It obviously bothered you. Understand the reasons why, and then make your decisions from there.