TaraMaiden Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Well, now, if it's any help - so are we....! _/l\_
Author dreamergrl Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 Me too, I had it wrote out, but apparently something happened to all but that statement.
northstar1 Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Looks like you edited it after you wrote it, did you delete it by accident?
Trialbyfire Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Laptops have keys that are so close together and all kinds of wonky shortcuts. Sometimes a combination of keys or hitting the wrong keys, will wipe out sections of your post. While laptops are handy and a necessity for business, they are a complete pain in my derriere!
amymarieca Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 No, you were doing well. Super-man does good. Sorry, I'm a jerk!
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Looks like you edited it after you wrote it, did you delete it by accident? Yeah I did edit something, so I must have did something to delete almost all of it. Laptops have keys that are so close together and all kinds of wonky shortcuts. Sometimes a combination of keys or hitting the wrong keys, will wipe out sections of your post. While laptops are handy and a necessity for business, they are a complete pain in my derriere! LOL and I'm on a desk top. Okay, so I got an email from bf's female roomie who clearly wanted to hook up with bf. She now is telling me how obvious it is to her that bf cares about me blah blah blah, and I shouldn't worry because she has a man (first I ever heard of this), and how I better not voice my opinions (I tell bf what I think of this girl and situation, she doesn't like it) because if I ever come down there to see him, well she can make things hell, because everyone he knows down there now is because of her. What, so did she try something, get rejected, and this is her way of dealing? I was on the phone with him yesterday, not the happiest of conversations, because there's been lack of conversation since late last week, a lot of lacking of conversation on his part. I didn't get the email until after I spoke to him. Oh here's a fun update, male friend that my bf decided it was okay with to hang out with tells me at the end of the day he'd like to try dating again.
Island Girl Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Did you tell your boyfriend about the e-mail? Has he said anything about the roommate? (she is a real pice of work BTW - UGH!)
carhill Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Hmm, drama magnet Male friends whom you've dated and had sex with are ex'es for the purposes of being "friends". Assume they want to get their noodle wet with you again. I know very few who wouldn't. Sorry. BF's roomie.... piece of work. He hasn't moved out, why? I'd make that job #1 if I were him. Have they ever had sex/romance? Personally, I'd likely take a vacation from the whole dynamic, but I'm not feeling at my best today, so take that FWIW.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Did you tell your boyfriend about the e-mail? Has he said anything about the roommate? (she is a real pice of work BTW - UGH!) Well I could hear her in the background when we talked on the phone, and he said "there is nothing between me and her". I haven't talked to him since, but I plan on forwarding it. This is mostly it, edited for name reasons... Also, she likes to make things out to be more then what they are. I talk to bf about how I feel about this girl, it's my right. Thankfully he's getting a cell down there this weekend. But I mean, wtf.... I never even heard anything about a bf on her part, and before he left, she told everyone one that bf will make his own choice what he wants. i really dont want to step in your drama but its a bit rediculous you are his gf you two are together so stop freaking out there is absolutly nothing between me n (bf) he is all yours but what i do have a problem with is when he tells you he has to go let him go its my money and minutes thank you im not trying to be a bitch but **** how is he suppose to better him self if your constintly screaming at him and another thing if i hear you talk **** about me one more time while your talking to him on my phone i wont let him use it to talk to you cuz im doing yall a favor and you dont need to talk **** you dont know me or ne thing about me so just chill and b cool dont be physco that will just run him off im trying to help your situation so your not so stressed out again (bf) is your man i have a man that (bf) met last night so no worries just chill and stop talking **** your to old for the high school bull**** and so am i so just let it go and you will be much happier person!!! (bf) loves you and you know that so dont hurt him ok he is a good friend and just relax and stop the drama please!!! i dont want to hate you before i know you specially if you might move down here to that will just make life hell cuz this is my turf and everyone (bf) knows is cuz of me and it wouldnt be much fun for you when you come down here if you wanna f*ck with me now for no reason so calm sown stay cool and we will get along just fine im sorry i just dont like it when ppl who dont know me talk **** bout me and im sure your the same
Trialbyfire Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Not only is she a piece of work but also, not the brightest spark in the pile. Just forward him the email and ask him "So, what gives? Can you plse take care of this issue? It's really nothing to do with me and everything to do with drama. Thanks. xoxo".
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Hmm, drama magnet Male friends whom you've dated and had sex with are ex'es for the purposes of being "friends". Assume they want to get their noodle wet with you again. I know very few who wouldn't. Sorry. Agreed, But what if I didn't sleep with him and he wants to see me again? BF's roomie.... piece of work. He hasn't moved out, why? I'd make that job #1 if I were him. Have they ever had sex/romance? Personally, I'd likely take a vacation from the whole dynamic, but I'm not feeling at my best today, so take that FWIW. They dated when they were in highschool. He says he hates staying with her, but it's the 'easiest' option for him. Heck, I've heard more sh*t talking from him about her, then what I say (sometimes I try to blow off some steam because the situation gets me angry at times). I'm seriously considering putting him on the back burner, and try to have some good stress free times for now.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Not only is she a piece of work but also, not the brightest spark in the pile. Just forward him the email and ask him "So, what gives? Can you plse take care of this issue? It's really nothing to do with me and everything to do with drama. Thanks. xoxo". I feel like I lost a few brain cells trying to read her email. I get the feeling she's trying to pull some sneaky. Last week she was trying to get him to sign a year lease with her.
carhill Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Agreed, But what if I didn't sleep with him and he wants to see me again? If you otherwise find him attractive, I'd see him as an alternative to Mr. I'm still living with my high school ex-girlfriend/psycho b!tch from hell Seriously
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Did I mention psycho girl has a daughter, and since bf wont sign a lease, they are going to go stay with her mother for a few months. Seriously, this is all way more then I signed on for. I even tried to tell him maybe we should end it, but he laughed and was like you don't mean that, I know you don't.
carhill Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Another clueless twit. Silence sandwich spoils all laughs
Island Girl Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Agreed, But what if I didn't sleep with him and he wants to see me again? In most cases -- MOST -- a guy friend would sleep with the girl if given the opportunity. Of course if he has morals and a girlfriend it is null and void until he is single again. They dated when they were in highschool. He says he hates staying with her, but it's the 'easiest' option for him. Heck, I've heard more sh*t talking from him about her, then what I say (sometimes I try to blow off some steam because the situation gets me angry at times). Personally I wouldn't listen to the "sh*t talking" from him about her. I'd tell him to DO something about it PRONTO. And about it being the "easiest" option -- my attitude would be "well, how about I make it really 'easy' for you and just remove myself from the f'd up situation. If you can get your crap together, call me. If I am still available and still interested, we'll talk then." If he called, the first thing out of my mouth would be, "your circumstances have changed?" and if the answer was no I'd say "then we still have nothing to talk about" and I'd hang up. Seriously. Life is too short and there are too many men - good men - out there who don't have these 'issues'. I'm seriously considering putting him on the back burner, and try to have some good stress free times for now. I think you can infer from the above that I'd agree with this. I declare my life a "drama free zone". I mean life has extraordinary circumstances and hardships without this kind of stuff which is controllable and self-fueled.
Island Girl Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Did I mention psycho girl has a daughter, and since bf wont sign a lease, they are going to go stay with her mother for a few months. Seriously, this is all way more then I signed on for. I even tried to tell him maybe we should end it, but he laughed and was like you don't mean that, I know you don't. "My bf lives with his crazy illiterate ex and her mother" Ugh. I don't think so.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 In most cases -- MOST -- a guy friend would sleep with the girl if given the opportunity. Of course if he has morals and a girlfriend it is null and void until he is single again. I'm confused, I'm talking about the guy friend I hung out with that now wants to date me again. Personally I wouldn't listen to the "sh*t talking" from him about her. I'd tell him to DO something about it PRONTO. Well I plan on forwarding the email to him, but I'll probably talk to him on the phone before he even reads it. And about it being the "easiest" option -- my attitude would be "well, how about I make it really 'easy' for you and just remove myself from the f'd up situation. If you can get your crap together, call me. If I am still available and still interested, we'll talk then." If he called, the first thing out of my mouth would be, "your circumstances have changed?" and if the answer was no I'd say "then we still have nothing to talk about" and I'd hang up. I agree that this may be what I need to do, but at the same time, it feels hard to do it. I mean I try and I get "you don't mean that". I have this bond with him where he's not just a bf to me, he's a friend to. It's hard to put all that behind me, even though I don't deserve all the bull. Seriously. Life is too short and there are too many men - good men - out there who don't have these 'issues'. I think you can infer from the above that I'd agree with this. I declare my life a "drama free zone". I mean life has extraordinary circumstances and hardships without this kind of stuff which is controllable and self-fueled. Agreed as well. I keep doing the what ifs in my head. Ya know, like is this the best option. Do I dare even hang out with the male friend anymore. Should I try to stick it out. And I write them like statements, because that's what they are to me, because I can't figure out the answers. "My bf lives with his crazy illiterate ex and her mother" Ugh. I don't think so. Eh trust me, when I heard this, I almost peed my pants. First she tries to get him into a year lease, now he's going into the family. It's bad enough it's him, her, and her daughter there, now put her mommy into the picture. I keep envisioning family dinner time. I was like, and just how are the sleeping arrangements going to work here.. "Oh I'll be on the couch just like I am right now". :rolleyes:
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Also, I feel like it's wrong that I'm thinking this, but I can't help but to wonder about the guy friend. My mind seriously is like going nuts. It took me three hours to fall asleep last night. I actually really enjoyed my time with guy friend. Strangely enough, we went to the zoo, like the first time we ever went out. I had a blast, and had no worries. I need some female friends, but that's not working out too well either.
carhill Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Warning: Healthy guy friend (I'm assuming here) may, after a few interactions and when you're thinking you want that sexual tension/irritation stuff, come off as boring in light of recent experiences.
Author dreamergrl Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 Warning: Healthy guy friend (I'm assuming here) may, after a few interactions and when you're thinking you want that sexual tension/irritation stuff, come off as boring in light of recent experiences. Is it healthy, if he wants to date me again? Either way, I welcome less drama right now. I had a blast without in on Saturday!
Island Girl Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 I'm confused, I'm talking about the guy friend I hung out with that now wants to date me again. Yes, I know. It seemed you were confused about him wanting to date you again. You should assume any guy who is your friend whether you used to date or not would sleep with you given the opportunity. And if you did used to date and he is still around you can bet he has unresolved feelings. There is the very rare exception of course. And in your case he is not the exception but the rule. Well I plan on forwarding the email to him, but I'll probably talk to him on the phone before he even reads it. I wouldn't talk. The most I'd say is, "did you get the e-mail?" and if he had, "how are you going to handle the drama filled situation?" If he had no answer I'd say, "well I suggest you call me when you have figured it out". I agree that this may be what I need to do, but at the same time, it feels hard to do it. I mean I try and I get "you don't mean that". I have this bond with him where he's not just a bf to me, he's a friend to. It's hard to put all that behind me, even though I don't deserve all the bull. Okay. He'll get that you mean it when you do mean it and there are no "talks", etc. In my mind - a person who is a friend should treat me as a friend. That means they don't subject me to drama and psychotic exes on a regular basis. As far as him saying, "you don't mean that" - I would say, "oh really? So what you are saying is you have so little regard for me and our relationship that you would have me be a part of this whole 'Jerry Springer' bullsh*t and that you don't see ANY problem with that? I am telling you there is a problem. It is severe and intolerable. You need to deal with it and I do not need to be around until it is resolved." Agreed as well. I keep doing the what ifs in my head. Ya know, like is this the best option. Do I dare even hang out with the male friend anymore. Should I try to stick it out. And I write them like statements, because that's what they are to me, because I can't figure out the answers. I know. I am like the Ultimate B*tch. But I have never been in situations like this because I don't deal with them. They are dealt with by the person responsible for the mess or I am not around. I just do not have time for the endless circular drama. I'd break it off and then have fun dating the other guy. The friend. At this point your bf has become undesireable. Until he has a backbone and can handle his crap as an adult, it is pointless to waste time on him. He can't even see how ludicrous it is to put you in this kind of position? He is supposed to be cherishing you and enhancing your life not making being in a relationship with him a CHORE. You haven't been together very long and you certainly aren't married. Eh trust me, when I heard this, I almost peed my pants. First she tries to get him into a year lease, now he's going into the family. It's bad enough it's him, her, and her daughter there, now put her mommy into the picture. I keep envisioning family dinner time. I was like, and just how are the sleeping arrangements going to work here.. "Oh I'll be on the couch just like I am right now". :rolleyes: And did you say, "I know if I was living with my ex-boyfriend and his dad it would not be okay with YOU. And that is even if I had my own room with a lock on the door! But you expect ME to be acceptant of this and 'oooh you're sleeping on the couch'?!!!! Yeah, I think you do not understand --so let me explain it clearly -- you aren't dating a doormat! If you expect me to be okay with this you are insane."
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