Agyeman Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 OK. I know for a fact she's attracted to me, but I still don't know the level of attraction. We've been on a few casual meetups/dates (ie. meeting up for drinks/lunch/sports event). Been seeing her on & off for more than a few months - I know for a fact she's still single. Initially, she done the chasing, which was nice.....but it's got to the stage now where I'm doing so much of the chasing it's actually becoming depressing, cos I genuinely do like the girl. She recently contacted me on facebook apologising for not being in touch, due to some dramas with her job (I know this is 100% true). So.....last week I decide to call her to arrange a date...called her twice that week, but the calls went straight to answerphone, she does acknowledge one of the missed calls though, after I contacted her through facebook to say I've been trying to call her, her excuse/reason is that she went straight out to meet friends after work. She just seems REALLY busy to me, she has sooo many girlfriends it's ridiculous....she must see them every evening of the week!...add to that, she goes to University part time also. I facebook her again to say that I'll call her on Sunday, which I did. So I call her Sunday to hopefully arrange a date, she picks up, seems genuinely pleased to hear my voice - she even has a sweet nickname for me, we talk for about a minute - then she says shes at her girlfriends house watching a movie. I didnt feel it was appropiate to ask the girl out when her girlfriends are all listening in, that would just seem embarrassing to her & me. She says she'll call me back later, when she's left her friends.....but then I say Im going out to a club with poor phone signal in a minute, so wont be able to take her call. We say our goodbyes. Now, I seriously dont know when to call this girl!! She just seems stupidly busy.....and I dont wanna come across as an harrasser.....although many still believe men should do all the chasing. She's a regular facebook user...I could ask her out through that, but thats just way too impersonal for my liking. Now, when I called her on the Sunday, she did say she'd call me back after the movie, so does that leave the ball in her court, so to speak. I'm very tempted to call her again, but have so far resisted the temptation. So I guess the simple question is, how do guys go about contacting/organising dates with girls who just seem way too busy ? I'd really like a girls opinion on this also. Is she possibly dating other guys ? Im real confused.
moman Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 She just not that interested. If she was interested, she would make time. Stop calling her and see how she reacts.
Joker77 Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Moman hit the nail right on the head. I am currently dealing with a girl who is the same way. If they like you enough, they will make time for you no matter how busy they are. Let it be and let her make the next move. If she doesn't, then you know it's time to move on.
alphamale Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 So I guess the simple question is, how do guys go about contacting/organising dates with girls who just seem way too busy ? I'd really like a girls opinion on this also. no one is that busy. many use it as an excuse to get rid of people they are not into... but, when "the one" comes along all of a sudden their schedule clears up. funny how that works, innit?
Author Agyeman Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 Thanks guys for you replies. You guys are right (although I was denial), if someone likes you enough, they'll find time in a busy schedule to contact. In the same way that I found time to contact her. I'll just wait & see what she does now (if anything), then it'll be time to move on. Thanks for your honest answers once again!
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