delajoonal Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 ok, so dh/stbxh, left 7 days ago, i kicked him out for the 3rd and final time... NO NC what so ever... this time...the last 2 times, after about a week, he would call me with some lame excuse...can't even remember them now, so that is how stupid the reasons were for HIM CALLING ME... so, i just get 3 calls from him... finally i answer, WHAT? he says, that i his brother, now mind you these are 40 year old men, says that i called/emailed him ( the brother) something about me and the dh and putting HIM in the middle of this situation, etc etc etc... OK, SO, i have NEVER EVER called his brother, i don't even KNOW his brothers email address.... SO, in your opinions...what the H*** is really going ON????? it was so stupid...LOL anyway, i was nice, calm voice, no yelling, no name calling, NO nothing..it was like any other business call... so, what is HE, stbxh, doing? any opinion, etc...maybe should i just NOT answer next time? i figured after calling my cell and the house one after the other relentlessly, it must have been important? we still have SO MUCH legal crap to do, etc..so i thought well, i better answer and not act scorned etc... ok..thoughts..PLEASE:o
sotired Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 He is just looking for an excuse to talk to you. He may be afraid you have been saying things to his brother and is just fishing around to see if you did. I hope you are doing better! You seem like a really sweet person and I hope you are able to get rid of him fast and move on with your life.
Ronni_W Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Best guess? -- you guys have started your same old pattern of his lame excuses to contact you, and you taking him back. Other option is to start your side of the legal crap, or call him and ask him when he'll be ready to get-together with you and do whatever needs to be done jointly, to end your marriage. Hugs. Separation/divorce is definitely not for the faint of heart...it just sucks the big one. Best of luck.
PWSX3 Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 i figured after calling my cell and the house one after the other relentlessly, it must have been important? If it's important he can leave a message.....If he doesn't leave a message it's not important.... Good thing about caller ID, let him leave a message then you can decide if "YOU" want to call him back.......
Author delajoonal Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 thank you everyone for your advice and opinions... i think you ARE right.. ronni...you are right, stbxh is starting that same ol' pattern, the call, then he comes back etc... BUT... this time, i said before he could hang up.. "hey, before you go, can we get together in a week or so? i have spoke with my legal team and we are ready to start and/or recipcate any divorce papers you want to give us....so if you want to let me know via email that would be great, so we can just get this started, along with some other legal stuff, i.e. propery, etc..." so the BIG difference THIS TIME...i brought up the D, and said I and my legal team are ready..so let's do this..MAN!...LOL thank you all again so much..i just knew you all would steer me in the right direction;) i knew he was up to something...BUT just wanted to run it by you all first to make sure... gosh, that was a hard thing to do...but i was so happy when i hung up i did a jig of joy and then my work out..i was so pumped that I decided this time that I AM READY for the divorce, etc...LOL have a great night all and thank you again:love:
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