mlh5046 Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Ex gf who dumped me texts and said hey you wanna get lunch this week. I totally ignored it, I am smarter than that. She also had been seeing another dorkus malorkus since the break up. We go to the same school and actually live in adjacent buildings, luckily I haven't seen her in over a month and haven't even tried to contact her in 2 months. We broke up in January. I have been doing great, right after the breakup I was in bad shape as I also had mono at the time, but now I am content. I do not hold a grudge because I was an immature bf, but she broke up with me in a classless way, I felt. How do I act when I see her next? because I will. I would not want to totally ex-communicate her from my life but to even communicate with her without knowing her intentions would seem tricky. I do not even want a relationship right now and I know I owe her nothing, but at the same time we dated for over 2 years and had a lot of good things together. Anyone have an idea of her intentions? and if she contacts me again do I just keep ignoring her? PS her intentions are what is really confusing me because we had a previous lunch date for 2 months ago and she cancelled. I think she knows I don't care anymore and it pisses her off, but she might be just trying to dispell her guilt who knows. Im rambling sorry guys.
boldjack Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 5046, don't reply to any texts, e-mails or phone calls. If you meet, be polite talk about generic things like classes, or the weather and MAKE IT SHORT. She dumped you and is now trying to assuage her guilt. Don't be her PATSY, above all don't get into any discussions about your past relationship, and ignore her as much as possible.
sunshinegirl Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 "dorkus malorkus" = I love it Who knows what she wants. Why don't you ask?
Author mlh5046 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 well basically from my point of view if I act interested in any way she would view it as winning. I will not let her get the upper hand. I mean how many times should she contact me that would warrant a response on my part?
Chinook Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 well basically from my point of view if I act interested in any way she would view it as winning. I will not let her get the upper hand. I mean how many times should she contact me that would warrant a response on my part?Um, the fact that you're the one posting on a relationship site and she's not sitting around worrying about it, means she's already won. She holds the power not you. Your only hope is to simply not respond and move on. If you didn't want her back or its not an issue, you wouldn't be posting. The fact is, she contacted you to see whether she could dangle you on her string. Your only decision now is to decide whether to respond to her pulling, or not.
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