As I said I would.

[Ickle]

I met a marvellous man in my first year of university. We shared over two magical wonderful and magical years together. He was my all. I went to grad school and left our town and left us. Quite out of the blue I realised when we were apart I no longer missed him, had a tummy vault without him, which is when I left him. I then hung him by a rope and tugged when I had nothing to say but needed to hear his silence. I kissed him without intention of us being together. Because I was finding me, losing him, forgetting us, hoping he would forgive me. I missed him, I deserved to, and now, almost two years later, as he has a girlfriend and has a life sorted, I wonder if we should “be” again. If I wasn’t myself, and I was instead an observer who cared for him, I would tell him not to go back to me.

 

These are, if you are there, my thoughts.

 

With you I was happy. The story of us set our world spinning fast, faster than ever, speeding so fast we fell into heaven. Then I fell from the sky. Two years later I was destructive and overwhelmed by all that you were for me, all that you gave to me, all that you left of yourself. For all the days we have been apart not a single has passed without a thought of you.

 

I am sorry I didn’t love you enough, sorry something stopped me sorting us out, sorry I didn’t give us another go, sorry I didn’t tell you earlier.

 

Years later I still think of you. Wonder what I did. Why I did. Why I didn’t. I miss you. I should.

 

I have seen you since. Should you, if you wanted to, come back to me, back to where I cannot promise it will be different where I cannot promise it will work or be better, where nothing is stable, where hope caution and dreams are thrown to wolves then perhaps in the summer you would like to go out on a date.

 

We now have different dreams. We are older. Almost different people. This is not a promise.

 

This might be the worst idea in the world. Join me if you have no expectations except of honesty and friendship.

 

And apologies if this is less than you hoped it would be.

[2sure]

Send it if you like - although the fact that you didnt contact him until he was in a committed relationship wont be lost on him. Especially since he may ny now have realize that when you moved away, you wanted to both have him and not at the same time.

 

Its common for exes to turn up out of the blue once they hear you are seriously involved with someone else.

 

If he is in fact serious about the woman in his life now - he may share your letter with her.

 

If he isnt, maybe he will call you for a date.

It seems worth the risk, its just a date with an ex.

[sugarmomma]

I would send it especially sine the only expectation is honesty and friendship. I hope it works out for you. Seems so sincere.

[SummerLady]

I met a marvellous man in my first year of university. We shared over two magical wonderful and magical years together. He was my all. I went to grad school and left our town and left us. Quite out of the blue I realised when we were apart I no longer missed him, had a tummy vault without him, which is when I left him. I then hung him by a rope and tugged when I had nothing to say but needed to hear his silence. I kissed him without intention of us being together. Because I was finding me, losing him, forgetting us, hoping he would forgive me. I missed him, I deserved to, and now, almost two years later, as he has a girlfriend and has a life sorted, I wonder if we should “be” again. If I wasn’t myself, and I was instead an observer who cared for him, I would tell him not to go back to me.

 

These are, if you are there, my thoughts.

 

With you I was happy. The story of us set our world spinning fast, faster than ever, speeding so fast we fell into heaven. Then I fell from the sky. Two years later I was destructive and overwhelmed by all that you were for me, all that you gave to me, all that you left of yourself. For all the days we have been apart not a single has passed without a thought of you.

 

I am sorry I didn’t love you enough, sorry something stopped me sorting us out, sorry I didn’t give us another go, sorry I didn’t tell you earlier.

 

Years later I still think of you. Wonder what I did. Why I did. Why I didn’t. I miss you. I should.

 

I have seen you since. Should you, if you wanted to, come back to me, back to where I cannot promise it will be different where I cannot promise it will work or be better, where nothing is stable, where hope caution and dreams are thrown to wolves then perhaps in the summer you would like to go out on a date.

 

We now have different dreams. We are older. Almost different people. This is not a promise.

 

This might be the worst idea in the world. Join me if you have no expectations except of honesty and friendship.

 

And apologies if this is less than you hoped it would be.

 

I would send it. I hear what you are saying. BUT when you go back to former relationships its almost impossible to not have some kind of agenda or expectation. I told my ex the same thing; I have no expectations, I just want to meet up and see where this goes. I know he knows where this will go if we meet up, its almost impossible not think this. When 2 people have clicked in the past I think most of the time they will click in the future. If not at least you know. I would want to know.

[Lucky_One]

What's a "tummy vault"?

 

I wouldn't send that. It's awfully flowery and stilted for nearly all men. They like practical, fixable, to the point prose that is understandable without having to read between the lines.

 

He has a girlfriend. If you want to send a short and simple email telling him that you are sorry if you ever hurt him but you still think of him fondly, or if you want to ask him for coffee and tell him that in person, that is one thing. But what you wrote here is awfully pushy and over-the-top to send an XBF who has a GF.

[mental_traveller]

If I wasn’t myself, and I was instead an observer who cared for him, I would tell him not to go back to me.

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There's your answer.

[CaliGuy]

There's your answer.

 

Agreed! She took him for granted once, odds are pretty good she will do it again a second time.

 

If they both get back together, I highly suggest couples counseling to make sure that they have set aside the issues that can destroy the relationship a second time.