Author Charisma Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 Okay, so yes I won't say friendship, although he mentions how much he enjoys our friendship. I guess we haven't spent enough time together to use 'relationship' I don't even know when you can use that word? We've talked a lot together about what we want. He asked me about marriage and children and we talked openly about that. He expressed interest too in wanting all of that.
Trialbyfire Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 It doesn't have to be a discussion about friendship or an exclusive relationship. Why not just ask him how he views you? What is he looking for from you? It will give him the opportunity to open up about it. If he's ambiguous or goes straight to the friendship line, you know you're wasting your time. Guys are terrified of being friend-zoned by women of interest.
Author Charisma Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 He has talked to me on our second outing together about what I wanted and he wanted, he know that I want to get married someday and have children. He talked to me about past things that didn't work out and that he liked a lot of things about me. He asked me what I was looking for in a person and about my past relationship experience. We talked about what makes up a good relationship and he talked about being able to be friends, emotional and physical connection as well.
Trialbyfire Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 That's one of those non-personal discussions of goals in life. I'm talking about the "now". Where do you stand with him, right now.
You'reasian Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Hi gang, I met this man 3 or so months ago and I've enjoyed getting to know him on-line. We had met before in person, but I connected with him again through e-mail. Over the past few months I had many great conversations with him and got to know him (mainly through e-mail and we met 3 times in person so far). Right from the start he always seemed so busy and it seems to be mentioned in all of his e-mails. He said once this project ended he'd have more time and it did and he's still busy. All of this has begun to hurt me, I feel like I'm not a priority, this is just casual and I'm a part-time thing. I've never come out and said this, but I wondered what I should do. I've really enjoyed talking to him, but I wish he'd make time for me. I know if it were the reverse I would clear my plate for sure in a second. I need some help in wording it too, so that I don't sound needy. I value time together in person rather than e-mail as well. Does anyone think I should just end this as well? How unfortunate. When a person is significantly invested in their career, it is next to impossible for them to be around on a regular basis. My suggestion is to mention to him that you'd really like to see him a little more often - don't tell him he has to, just suggest and that this would mean alot to you.
Recommended Posts