AMM003 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I have been NC for about 3 months. I haven't tried to contact her. She has not tried to contact me as far as I know( I changed or deleted everything that had to do with US-phone number, fcebook, myspce, etc.). LTR for almost 6 years then she broke it off with me for someone else. I sent everything back to her within a week of the break. The dilemma: I have some things of her mom's that I was supposed to sell online. It didn't happen and now I am sitting on 9 or 10 things that belong to her mom. I know where her mom lives(about 2 1/2 hours away) but I don't know the physical address. I do know her mom's phone numbers though. Her mom didn't have anything with our breakup, I am almost positive. And her mom was "alright" with me. One of my good friends says don't do anything and put them in the closet. And wait til they are asked for. My other good friend says call her(the mom) and asked what she wants to be done with them. (i.e send them, donate, trash). I see it as unfinished business but if I call, I definitely don't want it to appear to be an attempt to get back into my ex's life. The way I thought of it was my ex's name doesnt even need to be mentioned because she has nothing to do with this. But just calling her mom can become misconstrued. As it will probably get back to my ex via mom. What do you all think? Sit on the stuff? Or make the call? and why?
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 A few technical questions: What sorts of things - are they valuable? A few CDs, or furniture/antiques?Why were you supposed to be selling them, instead of your ex or her mom? Do you have the computer skills, or...? And the "bigger" question: You said you "sent everything back to her within a week of the break," but that's not the case, because you have these 9 or 10 other things. Why did you hang onto them? Was it inconvenient to return them, did it just not occur to you at the time, or were you hanging on to them thinking/hoping you'd reconcile?
Author AMM003 Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 It doesnt take alot of comp skills to sell on ebaay. But I guess I do, more than those 2. They were xmas knick Knacks(for lack of a better term). They cost actually quite a bit but their resale value is quite small compared to the prices on the boxes they came in. They are really not worth selling but rather giving them to someone else is more of value(if I owned these things). I didnt think of them when I sent my ex's stuff back to her. These items were just sitting in my closet. It was not left out purposely.
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Hmm, I agree with your friend about putting them in the closet for now. I'm guessing the market for Christmas knick-knacks is virtually nil in April. Contacting your ex about them could seem like an excuse to talk to her, and asking her mom about them is just a little weird (even though they are her things). Assume your ex still remembers the items and could ask you about them, or her mother might ask her daughter about the things or her expected money. Put them in the closet, and if it gets to Christmas season and no one's asked you about them, then toss or donate them. (If there's no great financial or sentimental value to them, disposing of them a few months after a breakup is understandable.) Putting things in the closet with a plan for them can be counted as finishing business.
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