andy2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 my gf 25 left on 23 March this year and told me thru email that she wants space to check her heart/feeling about me. she called once and said she missed me on 1 April. After that she never called me, no emails, no text. Then I had some business to do in my home country. Now I am back and feel too lonely and I have just sent an email to her. I have told her to come back to me .. How long I should wait for her etc etc. We have been together for more than 3.5 years. No problems at all. We had many plans etc. I do not get any clue why she has gone? any guy... Job problem or something else.... Now she has switched off her phone. During my absence she has come to my room and taken her all belongings back with her. In this country I have no relations but only she. I do not understand what is meaning of these steps ? What should I do.....? how long should I wait.... ?
Author andy2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 some of my friend said to find out new girl, which will help me to forget her, but I am not agree because I really love her. I can wait ....also she might be thinking If I lover her then I can wait....but how long :-( such case happened with anyone ?
DJMarky Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 I feel sorry for you dude. Is there a time limit that you are going to wait? Dude, you got to start moving on now, it isn't going to help being left in limbo. If she left without an explanation, and is not answering your calls, then she has little respect for you. You should go on a few dates, talk to other girls, move on with your life and by the time you find a girl you are interested in and she still hasn't contacted you, then it is safe to say it's over. I feel for you bro!
bluechocolate Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 I do not understand what is meaning of these steps ? 3.5 years is a fair amount of time to invest with someone. She owes you an fuller explanation but as one is not forthcoming you have to go on her actions, which are: she has called you once & not attempted to contact you againshe has turned her phone offshe has taken back all of her belongingsRight now the meaning seems pretty clear to me & without further clarification from her you have to assume the worst. such case happened with anyone ? The "I need some space" thing is as popular on these boards as is the topic of pornography.
Author andy2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 Is there a time limit that you are going to wait? I do not know why I feel that she doesn't have new guy. She is struggling with her job, bcoz she is an ambitious girl. I think I should give her another 2 weeks, and I will keep NC. After that I will assume it over. 3.5 years is a fair amount of time to invest with someone. She owes you an fuller explanation. Yes I do need clear explanation for the future, otherwise I will keep thinking of what went wrong throughout of my life. Atleast I can improve myself if any. Now I 've lost all trust on girls. I do not want to try any girl for love....just for social and body need I can do....I am agree with DJMarky that she is not respecting me.....
SummerLady Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 I do not understand what is meaning of these steps ? 3.5 years is a fair amount of time to invest with someone. She owes you an fuller explanation but as one is not forthcoming you have to go on her actions, which are: she has called you once & not attempted to contact you againshe has turned her phone offshe has taken back all of her belongingsRight now the meaning seems pretty clear to me & without further clarification from her you have to assume the worst. such case happened with anyone ? The "I need some space" thing is as popular on these boards as is the topic of pornography. That happen to a friend of mine and it turned out there was someone else. Breaking up with someone for someone else does not go over big in the break up speech so many leave it out or just run. The person I know got the, this is not working out speech with some details, he knew something was up. They were together for 6 years. He found out in about 2 weeks and not by her that she was involved with another guy. To this day he does not know how long they dated but my guess is that she was cheating for a while as she soon became engaged to him when the divorce was final.....
Chinook Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 Now I 've lost all trust on girls. I do not want to try any girl for love....just for social and body need I can do....I am agree with DJMarky that she is not respecting me.....woah! You went out with ONE girl. You were involved in a relationship with ONE girl. You were then exposed to a breakup with ONE girl. This does not mean that ONE girl is EXACTLY like all others. Sure... take some time out. Sure... go out dating casually. But please don't buy into the bitter 'women are crap and they're all the same' BS because it just isn't true (ladies, the same applies for blokes too). You will grieve this loss because you cared for her and that's as it should be. If you hadn't cared, it wouldn't matter. But you did. Sooner or later though, you will be ready to move on and you will be ready to love again. Maybe not in the same way.... but who would want it the same way anyhow...?! Next time around things wont be better or more, they will be just different. That's how it happens. Have faith in yourself. Don't become bitter just because one person didn't respect you enough to end things appropriately.
Author andy2009 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Posted April 23, 2009 I do not know she has another relationship, but I do know that one day she will regret, but it would be too late. I invested 3.5 years and everything was perfect that's why I afraid to see another girl. Some post in here said that Young girls are idiots. Since I am not in my home country, it is better for me to move to my home country or third country. But please don't buy into the bitter 'women are crap and they're all the same' BS because it just isn't true (ladies, the same applies for blokes too). You will grieve this loss because you cared for her and that's as it should be. If you hadn't cared, it wouldn't matter. But you did. Sooner or later though, you will be ready to move on and you will be ready to love again. Maybe not in the same way.... but who would want it the same way anyhow...?! Next time around things wont be better or more, they will be just different. That's how it happens. Have faith in yourself. Don't become bitter just because one person didn't respect you enough to end things appropriately. Thank you for wise words. give me strength. Now I feel better, concentrating on my work.
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