patty2 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 So recently I have become quite an attractive guy, all through high school girls wanted nothing to do with me. I have since lost weight, and some seriously hot girls actively flirt with me, and get hard crushes on me. But I am quite inexperienced... I'm trying lol. This girl is one of those really skinny, blonde, just plain hot girls in class. And well I'm pretty sure she likes me. I often catch her looking back at me(I sit behind and over from her). Whenever I am passing her in the halls during break, she always begins looking at me, then she sorta pushes her purse up or whatever. So today I walk into class, and she is sitting in the row right next to my row, like it seems she was trying to sit closer to me. She usually sits against the wall. So she was a lot closer to me, and I definitely caught her looking at me 3-4 times, one time I caught her looking at me she sorta all of a sudden snapped back and acted like she was stretching her back or whatever. So the break comes, she's stays sitting where she is, as do I. She is typing away on her phone, I ask her what phone she has, and here is where the weird part comes in. All she does is keeping staring at the phone, and tells me in a fairly normal voice exactly what it is, and says nothing else. So I just got up and walked out to go buy a book I needed. I come back for second half of class, and she doesn't look at me at all. LOL I have no idea what to think, does this girl even like me? Is she really shy? Or is she playing hard to get?
xpaperxcutx Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 So all through high school girls ignore you. Now that you're in college and had become very attractive, you're llying low and waiting for the girl to make the first moves? I don't understand why you're even questioning her motives. Whether she's shy or not, I would think you have the nerves to go up to her, introduce yourself and ask her for her number.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Well...let me just say...that if I was in a class and was that close to a guy I REALLY liked, I would try to play it chill. Which would mean that I'd probably come off a little cold when I was actually just nervous as hell. You never really know if it's the brush-off or pure nervousness until you talk to her more. Try talking to her about the class...ask her about her other classes...ask what she does for fun...share a funny story. If she continues to be cold, then I'd chalk it up to "not interested." But if a guy were to REALLY try talking to me, even as shy as I can be, I would warm a little more and actually look at the guy. But I'd also say - for me - what works in the guy's favor is that I'm a mad blusher. That would be a big hint that I liked him. LOL
xpaperxcutx Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I would like to add that since you imply you're inexperienced, that is reason enough for you to get accustomed to dating. And dating is about taking making yourself known to girls you're attracted to and asking them out.
Author patty2 Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 Well...let me just say...that if I was in a class and was that close to a guy I REALLY liked, I would try to play it chill. Which would mean that I'd probably come off a little cold when I was actually just nervous as hell. You never really know if it's the brush-off or pure nervousness until you talk to her more. Try talking to her about the class...ask her about her other classes...ask what she does for fun...share a funny story. If she continues to be cold, then I'd chalk it up to "not interested." But if a guy were to REALLY try talking to me, even as shy as I can be, I would warm a little more and actually look at the guy. But I'd also say - for me - what works in the guy's favor is that I'm a mad blusher. That would be a big hint that I liked him. LOL So do you think it sounds like she is nervous and that is why she did not even look at me? I mean I have been around some pretty shy girls that were totally into me and they would basically be beaming if I talked to them.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 So do you think it sounds like she is nervous and that is why she did not even look at me? I mean I have been around some pretty shy girls that were totally into me and they would basically be beaming if I talked to them. Well, to reiterate what I already said: You never really know if it's the brush-off or pure nervousness until you talk to her more. Nobody here has a magic crystal ball to say for sure what she's thinking/feeling. I was only presenting the possibility that it COULD be shyness because I could see myself acting the same way. Not everybody is going to react to emotion the same way. I certainly wouldn't be grinning like an idiot just because "he" was talking to me. With such a short interaction, I'd be avoiding his gaze because I'd be afraid that he could see how much I liked him and I'd have no idea if he felt the same way. So just try talking to her more - you'll get your answer.
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