ratingsguy Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Hi everyone, I'm currently in a LDR, although this isn't an LDR question. I'm in Philly and she's in Boston. We've been dating for about 2 months and are seeing each other fairly often (3 out of every 4 weekends so far). I think our feelings for each other are pretty strong. We talk on the phone every day, at least a couple of times a day. So things are going well. Anyway, she's flying out to the west coast on Wednesday to visit her sister, and she plans to be there until Sunday. She did make a joke about surprising her out there... forgot exactly what she said, but it was along the lines of "wouldn't it be funny if..." Now I think I want to do it! I haven't met or talked with her sister yet, but I know how to contact her. I think it would be really cool to surprise her by flying out and meeting her Friday night, and then flying home the next day (I have to be back in town on Sunday). This way I don't compromise too much time with her and her sister. Plus, I could rent a car and get a hotel (or at least offer) so I don't put her sister out. I think the look of shock on my GF's face when she sees me out there would be absolutely priceless! So my question is... considering everything I said, is this a dumb idea? Cost isn't an issue... I can afford the flight, car, hotel, etc. But does anyone think she would be freaked out if I did something like this? Or would she love me forever? How would you feel?
MissConduct Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I don't see the point? you can see her whenever you like if you plan it, why cut in on the sisterly weekend and make this about you again?
TaraMaiden Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I think it would be a very good idea! This is a very touching and affectionate thing to do, and if she has said it would be funny if.... I think she would like that. If she had said - "oh, but don't you dare.....!" then maybe you would have to think again. You say you can contact her sister. Perhaps it would also be wise to liaise with her and get her impression on the situation..... Good luck. I hope you do it. We do too little for loved ones on impulse. This would be a wonderful gesture! if she says no, then you can surprise me instead if you like! (joke!!) _/l\_
carhill Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Romance and mileage runs. Yum... OP, I've done this with varying degrees of success. Keep it light and smile no matter what happens. Life's about living
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I wouldn't do it. Why not just plan something for later for just the two of you? A romantic weekend getaway. I would think it's kind of strange that I planned a trip to go see my sister and my BF popped up out of nowhere. She may have just had you on the brain when she was thinking of the trip and that's where the "wouldn't it be funny..." comment came from. I just think with her planning to go see her sister, the timing is a bit off on this one. If this was like a business trip, or something, that would be different.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I would think it inappropriate for the occasion. If you really want to surprise her, you should drop in on her at her school. At least then you can surprise her with chocolate and flowers without feeling like a 3rd wheel around her sister.
Author ratingsguy Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 Thanks for the advice so far. I guess I should clarify something... she's actually out there on business and her sister coincidentially lives in the same town. So she's not going out there primarily to see her sister, but will spend time with her since they so seldom see one another. The way I look at it, she'll see her every night, so if I pop in one night I don't think it would be an intrusion. Of course I would ask my GF's sister first to be sure. What do you think?
carhill Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I think, if she likes you, she'll be flattered; if she doesn't, I hope you can accept with a smile that result. The remainder depends on whether she likes surprises and spontaneity or is a planner. The latter type personality might present a hurdle, but, again, if she likes you, it's surmountable.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Thanks for the advice so far. I guess I should clarify something... she's actually out there on business and her sister coincidentially lives in the same town. So she's not going out there primarily to see her sister, but will spend time with her since they so seldom see one another. The way I look at it, she'll see her every night, so if I pop in one night I don't think it would be an intrusion. Of course I would ask my GF's sister first to be sure. What do you think? Well, that does seem a little better. How long is she going to be out there?
Art_Critic Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I think that if you know the sister well enough to call her and let her know then it should go over okay with your GF.. If you don't really know the sister then she might think it a bit odd but by the sounds of it you do know the sister well enough..
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