confused one Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 ok so i met this guy at work 8 months ago. At first he was really not my type and i never liked him. We talked about our most secretive experiences in life and grew really close. He just got out of a relationship and we were great friends. After spending more and more time together he decided he would come and cook for my family and myself...i was delighted but didn't read into it too much. Anyway he cooked for my family and i invited him round to my place for a second time. Our friendship became physical but still remained on the same emotional level as he explained he didnt want a girlfriend and i acceted that as i didnt have feelings for him anyway. After about a month of this physical friendship he would invite me to his everyday, we would see each other at work and at home we was in each others company 24/7. He introduced me to his family then i started to think he liked me a lot more as he wouldnt want me to go home always wanting me to be around things were great then his ex grilfriend started to call him ask him back and apologise for how she treated him. She went on holiday for a month and asked of they could talk about it when she got back and he agreed. I was hurt because by this point he was like my boyfriend. So i told him if he wanted to be with her i would back off and do my own thing, and he agreed for a bout a week. Then he'd call me up and beg me to hang out with him. So after a while i did as i missed his company and we got on great. He wanted to spend christmas together and his birthday just me and him. Things were great yet again...he would surprise me with gifts hold my hand in public, kiss me on the forehead, cater to my every need always!!! then his ex returned from holiday - he said he felt he should give her a second chance. I was heartbroken how could he do this to me...anyway not wanting to seem desperate i said ok and left with no argument no bad feelings nothing. A week later he called me saying he caught her cheating on him and he was upset could i be there for him...i thought it was so selfish of him to ask ME but wanted to be there for him so told him we could hang out till he got better but only as friends...he agreed...even though i had so much feelings for him i never acted on them...He sat me down and told me that i was his ideal girl i done everything that he'd want his girl to do... and i was how he wanted his girl to be..he talked about us having kids going on holiday together and asked me to move in but i didnt think it was a good idea then a month after "seeing" each other again he told me he thought he wanted to date for a while and be the "single guy" i was devastated...i helped him get back onto his feet making him start his business, motivating him in every way and he was telling me he wanted to see what else was out there...so i told him it was over... Boi i really didnt expect what came next, he started dating and being physical with other women almost immediately he'd call me to tell me about all these other women and how they treated him like a king etc etc...i acted like i wasnt bothered but he knew deep down that i was...i didnt know if i should tell him how i felt because when i did so in the past he would turn the situation around on me and make me seem liek i was making a big dea out of nothin....anyway i still work with him and hes so rude to me, he doesnt call (not that i do either) he flirts endlessly in front on me and he has no respect for me whatsoever...i just dont know how to act around him...i dont let him know whats going on in my life but i miss having him in it...i have never felt more comfortable or had more fun that the time i spent with him...we got on so well...he loved my family and i loved his...we were with each other everyday literally and now he doesnt even want me...i dont make an effort to tell him how i feel coz i feel he would just take advantage of it...i guess im angry that he could treat me so good then switch his personality and feelings around instantly i dont know what he thinks of me now if he misses me or what? I have to work with him and everyone at work loves him hes like some king there and they all tell me about his "girls" not knowing that we were together...it really hurts and he just doesnt understand i have a lot that i need to get off my chest but i dont know how to go about it or if i should even bother and how do i act when were at work? sorry for the long story x
playlislay Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Hunny, he obviously isnt worth it!! He sounds like a manipulative dog! Sorry x
sotired Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Just ignore him. Pretend he doesn't exist. Don't talk to him. Don't look at him. Be professional at work....Just act like he is another coworker. Don't put any emotion into dealing with him. It sounds like he is trying to get you upset...don't give him the satisfaction. I'd be friendly with male coworkers and the female coworkers he flirts with just to show it doesn't bother you.
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