Shin0bi1 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Hey guys/gals... Just wanted to throw this out there. It's been awhile since I've been on a real date. I just recently got my divorce finalized and asked this pretty girl out and for some reason I had balls of steel that day lol. Btw, I tried internet online dating and that worked too, prior to asking this girl out, however it was more of a hookup that went on too long and ended badly. Well getting back to the story, she gave me the digits and we set up an agreeable date (despite our hectic schedules) and I put the plan in motion. The big date came after a couple of weeks of asking her for her number and few phone calls in between. I took her to a nice restaurant and bought some concert tickets to see a good live band afterwards. It was like a 6 1/2 hour first date that ended with me kissing her hand, telling her I had a fantastic time, seeing her off to her crib, and then going home to sleep. Okay so what is the problem? Well first of all, I have no idea if we are into each other or not. I have no idea if there is chemistry between us. I had a lot of fun and would like to continue having fun with her but from what I am reading here... people are stating if you don't feel the "magic" on the 1st date or something move on. I'm going to ask her out on another date soon just don't know what to do. I want to keep it low-key since the 1st date was pretty expensive and don't want to feel like I have to top the 1st date with even more extravagant 2nd date. Here is some background info. 1) She is recently separated and going to finalize the divorce in 4-6 weeks. 2) I just got my divorce finalized 4 weeks ago. 3) I think she is older than me, i didnt ask her age. I believe she is 38-40. I am in my early 30's. 4) Felt like a young college kid going on this date with her so I definitely was being myself but mindful to not scare her off haha 5) She told me 15 times that night and the next day she had a really good time with me and loved the food and music event. 6) However she seemed hot/cold all night... kinda threw me off a bit but got used to it. It seemed that I was getting mix signals. 7) She thanked me for being a cool cat and not trying to get all physical with her and thought I was a gentleman and nice guy. 8) Not sure if she is into me or not. Not sure how I feel either. Well thats that! Wish me luck if I can get a 2nd date -Shin0bi1
BobSacamento Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Well if you aren't sure yet then I think it's time for date 2.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I think it's ridiculous to expect "magic" on the 1st date. That puts a lot of pressure on a tiny window of time. There was pretty much zero magic on my first date with my BF. And actually for probably the first half of our second date there wasn't much going. It wasn't until we started cuddling on the couch on the second half of the 2nd date that I started to like him. Go on a second date...no pressure.
Joker77 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Be very cautious. My last girlfriend had recently gotten divorced. Apparently she had been wanting to date me for a long time and I had no idea. She finalized her divorce in February of last year and we started dating in June. Turns out, she has divorced twice and was a complete flake.
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