lonelypiscesguy Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 My definition of officially getting over someone is when you can remember that you didn't think of her/him the day before or a couple of days ago. Three and a half weeks and I still think about her everyday. What do you think? How would you describe your benchmark for finally healing?
Ruby Slippers Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 For me, when I actually begin to entertain the thought of being with someone else seriously, I know I'm through the worst of it.
Groovy Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 A lot of that depends on how long you were with the person, what your plans were and what ended it all. For example, a man whose has kids with his wife who cheats 10 years down the road and he walks in on it is probably going to talk a long time to heal. But someone dating a few months and never had future plans and has less invested or broke up over just differences in lifestyle, etc is going to talk less time. I think it also depends on individual attitude and resilience. I don't want to be with someone who does not want to give me their all and vice versa, plain and simple. I move on.... I do not know what happened in your last relationship. All I know is there is no timeline. I finally feel like healing has started and it's been 5 months for me. I had plans to marry that person and they hurt me purposefully with jealousy and control issues so it has taken me a bit longer than anyone else I've been with. Just keep in mind that if you feel sad for more than 6 months and it's affecting your life (job, friends, etc) than you are clinically depressed and may want to seek help. And if your thinking of hurting yourself you need help right away. If your just down and out a month after a break up I would not be concerned.
Author lonelypiscesguy Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 Oh, don't get me wrong, Groovy, I am ALMOST over her, really I was simply curious what other folks consider their benchmark for getting over someone, but I truly appreciate the concern.
Author lonelypiscesguy Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 There is no "benchmark", my only point:) Fair enough.
alphamale Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 What do you think? How would you describe your benchmark for finally healing? when you WANT to go and have sex with other people
sultry33 Posted April 23, 2009 Posted April 23, 2009 How do you know exactly when you truly start the healing process? For me it was when i could date again without it feeling weird.. when i didnt think about him when i could easily talk about him without tears welling up and when i realised I DESERVE BETTER takes time x
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