Katherine27 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I met a younger guy 6 months ago, I'm 28, he is 22. We were coworkers at a company I no longer work for. I was there for 2 months, him and I became close. We had a very flirtatious friendship, sending sexy text messages, he called me nearly everynight, we took lunch together everyday. But we never got together outside of work. I wanted to see him outside of work, and he told me he really did like me but he couldn't because he had "too much going on" at the time. I know he was still in contact with an ex-girlfriend, but he told me they were no longer together. I think it was one of those situations, where he was in limbo about being with her or vice versa and he didn't want to complicate things with getting involved romantically with me. I ended up leaving that job after 2 months for another job with more money. This guy told me that he did care for me but couldn't take it to the next level "at that time" So after I left I stopped contacting him, because it hurt me. Now after 6 months of no contact, like an idiot, I drunk texted him on Saturday night. He responded back in about 30 seconds. I just said "hey how are u" and he was pretty much texting me all night after that, and asked if he could call me on the phone later that night. I didn't know what time I was going to get in and I was at a bar when this was going on. I didn't end up talking with him on the phone that night. Last night he texted me, telling me he was just thinking about me and wanted to say hello, and he than followed with "I really didn't mean or have the intention of hurting you, if I did.. I just felt like I needed to tell you that" I told him I understood at that time that he had a situation going on and it was ok. He later followed with "I have moved on" I don't really know how to proceed. I liked him, and after a few months, got over it. But now that we are speaking again (thanks to my drunk text) I'm afraid those feelings will return. I know he is young, and maybe this doesn't mean anything. But I'm unsure how to proceed....
loser101 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I think you should talk to him, at least that will stop you wondering about him. Who knows, you may have moved on more than you think anyway. By the way, he sounds reasonably mature for his age, he seems to communicate what's going on rather than lead you on or leave you in the dark
Sam Spade Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Fist, stop drinking so much , second, no big deal. You're a big girl and can make up your own mind and steer this in any direction you want .
wonderifshelikesme Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I don't understand why someone would take the time to write "don't get smashed so often" or whatever that one post said. Well, I was a 22 year old guy not long ago, and that guy actually sounds like my best friend Joey exactly. One thing: he realized perhaps he made a mistake in the past and if he's interested in you he may need to find time. Go for it a little slowly and check his vibe. I'm a very busy person normally but after I found a girl I really liked I could always make time for her. If he never can make time--either he's just not that into you or he's too busy for you and you deserve better anyways. Good luck but I would at least go for it and check it out you know? Keep in mind his maturity level may be a problem and he just may not be quite on your level at times.
Author Katherine27 Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 Stop getting smashed. Why bother even responding, with this garbage? lol
Author Katherine27 Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 I don't understand why someone would take the time to write "don't get smashed so often" or whatever that one post said. Well, I was a 22 year old guy not long ago, and that guy actually sounds like my best friend Joey exactly. One thing: he realized perhaps he made a mistake in the past and if he's interested in you he may need to find time. Go for it a little slowly and check his vibe. I'm a very busy person normally but after I found a girl I really liked I could always make time for her. If he never can make time--either he's just not that into you or he's too busy for you and you deserve better anyways. Good luck but I would at least go for it and check it out you know? Keep in mind his maturity level may be a problem and he just may not be quite on your level at times. I'm worried to come off like I'm "chasing" him.
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