sadie20 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 hi i need some advice on how to get my ex back. we wasnt going out for long (3 months) when i found out i was pregnant. i was really confused because he said he wanted the baby but couldnt have it cos we havent been together long enough, we hadnt much money, not ready etc. but he always told me he didnt believe in abortion. i started to have strong feelings for my baby and knew it was the wrong thing to do but was so confused that in the end we decided our relationship would be better without a baby. i kept asking him over and over again that we would be ok once i go through with it and everytime he was like yes of course we will be fine.i could see us having a future together. so i went through with it and then he finished with me five days later on facebook saying he changed his mind now he wants to be single. however, 4 weeks later he meets someone else and they been together ever since.not long after that i find out that he was pretending all along, he was gonna finish with me before i told him i was pregnant but kept quiet so id have an abortion. the whole time he was pretending to like me. he has never asked if im ok, never even asked a question what happened in hospital. i have been very depressed ever since, im on anti depressants and see a councillor. i feel very guilty and selfish that i chose him over my baby in the first place, i knew it was the wrong thing but still went through with it and the regret and guilt i feel hurts so much that sometimes i want to die. my question is how do i get him back, so that i didnt have an abortion for no reason? i did it for me and him, not him and his new girlfriend!! i feel so jealous that she has ended up with him when it should of been me. how can i get him back, so that i didnt have an abortion for nothing?? thanks
rainbowbrite Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 dont get him back . hes a major dbag. why would u want someone like that in ur life? and did u purposely get preggo to keep him around? because i dont see why u wouldnt have been more careful
Author sadie20 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Posted April 20, 2009 hey no i didnt do it purposely, we were just stupid. where both to blame for that. i would never do it purposely.
rainbowbrite Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 oh ok. but in that case, this is a hard decision. could u still give up ur child for adoption?
Author sadie20 Posted April 20, 2009 Author Posted April 20, 2009 didnt think about adoption to be honest i was really confused. but i made the wrong decision thats why i got to get my ex back, so i didnt do it for nothing.
Truly Lost Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 You already had the abortion, right? Sweetie, I've been there. It was absolutely the most profound dispair I think I had ever been through. It hurt so bad, that I had thought of suicide. So much so I actually acted on it. It was a real eye opener. I didn't want to kill myself, but I was so unbelievably consumed with guilt and depression I didn't know what to do. I also had no one to talk to because I kept it a secret from almost everyone I knew. This was 12 years ago. It is an experience I will never forget. Please don't do anything stupid. Its not worth it. YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS. I can truly say that this douche bag is not worth the valuable time you gave him. Its best to forget about the pr*ck. Karma is a b*tch. No one should ever disrespect you like that and certainly never diserves the grace of your company. I'm sorry you are hurting, but again it will get better. You will meet someone new and will wonder why you ever wasted time in being hurt over this a**. Just keep moving forward. You'll be ok. Take care.
Author sadie20 Posted April 25, 2009 Author Posted April 25, 2009 Just want to say thankyou so much to "truly lost". What you said about your own experience is exactly how i feel and i just want to say thankyou because i know if you can do it then i can, its just so hard at the moment. Its the worst pain i have ever been through, i definately think there should be more help out there for women that have had an abortion. Thanks alot for your message xxx
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