one man's philosophy on relationships and breakups....

[slimjim]

a buddy of mine, who is about 60 years old and has been thru quite a few women and relationships, and married once for 20 years, plus a 10 year divorce-----wrote this to me concerning his philosophy on how relationships come and go.

 

dont know if many will agree, but i think a lot of guys have been there before.....

 

 

Please allow me some time to tell you about women.

Look , the greatest force in the world is not gravity or entropy or radiation. It's PUSSY.

The male animal has been programmed since the beginning of time to value it above all other things.

It's an inalienable right, Life ,Liberty ,the pursuit of happiness and Pussy.

Men throughout History have risked their lives, given up everything, murdered,betrayed their country for what...Pussy.

Unfortunately, God has played a cruel trick on men. He gave the same women who are the best at dispensing pussy the other qualities of domineering, manipulative, ungrateful, lying, never satisfied with who they have, unintelligent, better than all the other women

They will use the word Love easily to control and justify any of their actions and to make the man believe his dick is special. Meantime , his dick is just a link in a large chain of dicks. They will pick up a stanger in a hotel bar at a convention and **** him in their room and rationalize it by saying it never should have happened and I'll never see him again ( think about that one)

Now , once that pussy has been unleashed all logic and reason stops immediately for the man. Then, they are like another person has taken over their lives ,doing things they would never do . And with knowledge that the woman controls `100% of that pussy it causes them to ignore the glaring character flaws staring them in the face.

THen, in the end, after Samson has finished cutting off all his hair, they decide all on their own, by some crazy thought pattern that they want to turn off the spigot.

Now it's all different. The man becomes the #1 *******. And everything you did is now somehow wrong.

And worst of all , all your deepest secrets and most intimate conversations, and weakest flaws are out there for public consumption (and that starts right away). And you become the new victim of all the lies and exagerations that were said about the last "lovers"( excuse me , I mean the guys who ****ed the woman)

Remember , in the end , it's not about companionship or love or spending the rest of your lives together sharing the burdens equally. It's about pussy!

Hey Man, don't give it a second thought .You're dealing with Exhaulted Master on this ****

Welcome to the Team.

 

 

awaiting comments!!!!!hahah

[loser101]

sometimes I am just really glad I am not a man. this is all I can say.

[scootncash]

too bad he never had the opportunity to meet a real lady who has class, elegance, fidelity, grit, spirit, and and honest and genuine love for her man. As for Sampson, yea he got a raw deal and yes there are a lot of women not ladies, out there like that but then you could spin that around because a lot of men out there are like that too.

 

There are real ladies and real gentlemen out there. You are afterall a product of your own choices and you choose to be in the relationship that you are in.

 

Our society today no longer in general honors the gift of love, its thrown around as just a word, a means to an end, a way to get what we selfishly want. Its a shame because God never intended us to be that way. We were created in his image and he gave us heart, soul, and a mind to make our own choices. He gave us the option to do right or to do wrong and sit around making excuses for it all day long.

 

i personally know I am a lady. I do not use it as a gold mine but as a part of me, a special gift between man and woman. Not a lottery ticket, not a way to get a man to buy me things. Not a way to get to the top of the corporate ladder, not a toy but a gift. I guess Im lucky that at my 40's I was lucky enough to realize that and not look so down on man and woman for not knowing or taking responsibilty for what they do.

 

How unfortunate for him and those who still dont know we're not all users and abusers, some of us are actually gifts for those who truly deserve them.

[slimjim]

i agree scootncash.

 

this guy has been seriously hurt before, and has basically given up. but a lot of this rings true for a lot of women out there, especially if you find yourself on the receiving end of a real user. unless something else happens, he will simply go thru countless shallow relationships and never be fulfilled.

 

this of course applies to men also, but i think historically that women have the upper hand at being users. i bet you know a lot of women who are like this--they know how to "divide and conquer", if you get my drift. and this is difficult to see when you are the "usee" in a relationship, because all you see is their seeming pleasure in what you are doing for them, not realizing until its toolate and yu are out a lot of time and most times money, that the user's main focus is not really you, but what have "you" done fo rme lately. they are always looking for greener pasture.

 

dont know what it takes for someone who has been really used to ever get over it totally--maybe lots of time, and maybe being lucky enuf to find someone who has the patience to hang in there in a relationship until that trust can be restored in them--thats very hard to find this day and time.

[hopesndreams]

too bad he never had the opportunity to meet a real lady who has class, elegance, fidelity, grit, spirit, and and honest and genuine love for her man.

 

With his stinky attitude toward women he wouldn't know what a real lady is. I gave up after reading the third p*ssy word.

[carhill]

I like cats

[westernxer]

Pretty shallow, but the nature of getting some is usually just that.

 

I wouldn't ask your friend for help on a term paper. LOL

[scootncash]

I agree that it is so very sad that someone feels this way. But I do also agree he isnt the only man or woman to feel this way. I think anytime someone a human, doesnt matter male or female, is put through the ringer with this type of using, is bound to feel like this.

 

A user hurts the caring people they have hurt regardless if its male or female. Period. I dont think we can really say its more female than male. Although outward appearances seem to point mostly to women.

 

But there are ways to get through it and lessons to be learned. Its a building block to get you to the right person. If you dont learn anything from the disaster and just focus on the pain then you keep choosing the same type of person. You keep getting used. You stay bitter. You hate the opposite sex.

 

You have to learn the lesson from it and bring only the lesson not the baggage from it. Dr. Laura said it best, wherever you go, there you are!

Thats what I see all the time in people that I know who dont learn the lesson and just hang on to the baggage. And wherever they go there they are hanging on to the bitterness while the lesson flew on without them. I certainly for one dont want to go thru life holding on to pain and being miserable and feeling like every single relationship is crap or will be just because a user used me.

 

Hopefully he can meet someone who wont use them and have that lesson in is pocket for a quick reference!

[Woggle]

What he says is true for many women out there. Not all but any woman that is honest with herself knows that these types exist.

[grogster]

For a 60-year old man, he writes like he's 25. I question the author's age. By 60, most guys no longer think or feel in those terms. The real author: probably some 20-something guy besotted with his testosterone and lacking any real understanding about women, relationships and life.

 

Same old; same old.

[Woggle]

For a 60-year old man, he writes like he's 25. I question the author's age. By 60, most guys no longer think or feel in those terms. The real author: probably some 20-something guy besotted with his testosterone and lacking any real understanding about women, relationships and life.

 

Same old; same old.

 

A man is never too old to finally see the truth that is staring him in the face. He has probably dealt with a lifetime of this treatment from women and it finally clicked.

[slimjim]

NO, i personally know this guy and he is 60.

 

i think he is so bitter from his divorce that he has basically written off any meaningful relationship with anyone. he deals in eye candy sometimes, and all the shallowness usually found therein. and they are after his status and money--(eye dr). now he is very young at heart, and is not writing a thesis but a letter to friend that has just gone thru the same thing.

 

he is extremely intelligent, and has interesting views on things. sometimes you wonder if a lot of what he says is not true--this primal need and hunt is what it is all about--long term stuff is the real fluke, especially these days. plus it might be the type of people that he hangs with, which is probably the case. a lot of women hanging around the marina smelling for the money....

 

i dont think there is any hope for him, so i think in his mind its "just get it while you can, and die alone."

[grogster]

NO, i personally know this guy and he is 60.

 

i think he is so bitter from his divorce that he has basically written off any meaningful relationship with anyone. he deals in eye candy sometimes, and all the shallowness usually found therein. and they are after his status and money--(eye dr). now he is very young at heart, and is not writing a thesis but a letter to friend that has just gone thru the same thing.

 

he is extremely intelligent, and has interesting views on things. sometimes you wonder if a lot of what he says is not true--this primal need and hunt is what it is all about--long term stuff is the real fluke, especially these days. plus it might be the type of people that he hangs with, which is probably the case. a lot of women hanging around the marina smelling for the money....

 

i dont think there is any hope for him, so i think in his mind its "just get it while you can, and die alone."

 

OK. Thanks for the clarification. A sad guy--even if he doesn't know it.

[Woggle]

How do you know he is sad. My father has similiar views on women and relationships and he is in the prime of his life.

[2sure]

Guys like that...

What kind of dating pool do you think he had to choose from?

You get what you give.

He could not have had much to offer if throughout his life he attracted/was attracted to the type of women that made him feel this way.

 

A lot depends on where your shopping.