Curious-One Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Wow i would PAY to see this rofl. It would be funny as hell , seeing him talk trash than get beat up by his gf. I say you can do it playfully but i wouldnt kick his ass or anything because he might call the po po and earn you domestic violence on your record lolz.
boldjack Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Gwestar, Why not make it a demonstration, instead of a confrontation? Take him with you to one of your practices, and let him see what it is that you do. If he wants, show him some falls in the controlled environment of a class. If you start competing against each other, how will you be a loving couple FOR each other ?
TaraMaiden Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 There is a compromise. Tell him to come and watch some of your training sessions, and how you handle other people. Sometimes, some organisations invite non-members to take part, in a non-harmful way, to give students the complete element of surprise. in such disciplines, both pupils are trained in specific moves and defensive gestures, so to a certain degree, there is some choreography. Both pupils are aware of what they can do. In order to hone their disciplinary skills, volunteer members of the public occasionally join classes to aid pupils hone their instincts and free-style, as it were. I must emphasise precisely what the third poster mentioned though. Martial Arts are sports, but they are not games. These are disciplines intended to help the person achieve harmony in both mind and body. The whole point of learning a discipline of this kind well, is to hope to never have to use it in the 'outside world'. It is not some show-off past-time for people to boast about. martial Arts, in the true sense, is precisely that. An Art.
TaraMaiden Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 boldjack, we posted at the same time, virtually. I am in agreement with you! _/l\_
boldjack Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 So it would seem, Tara. Though I am not of your creed, I have always thought well of the followers of the Bodhisat.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Leave him alone... It'll ruin the relationship. I love martial arts myself but even jet li said that him going up against a incredible mma fighter he would have his work cut out for him. because guys like that are brutal so unless you know any ground chokes or armbars then let him say what he wants. You'll love him anyways.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Martial arts isn't just about self-defense. It's also a competitive sport (eg. Muay Thai) and a display art (eg. Tae kwon do). (yes, I sneer at tkd) This is the type of thinking that gets women hurt IRL. Even with years of training, a woman can very rarely hold her own against a man in a physical confrontation. I've been training Muay Thai for many years, have had professional fights and am very competent. I spar full-contact multiple times a week, sometimes against women. But, I know the reality that as a small guy (5'7") I am at an immediate disadvantage versus a bigger, taller opponent and all the training in the world can't erase that advantage. Do you know why there are no aikido champions in free-style martial arts tournaments like the K1? Competitive sports are brutal, and in this case, it isn't about winning or losing, it's about the bf teasing the OP. Well okay, so you train in Muay Thai. But would you actually want to beat someone up just because they provoked you? You should have more self discipline than that.
Bluebird In My Heart Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Any chance he's got a secret submissive side and wants you to whoop his ass because he would find it hot? Who knows!? But that's one of my theories haha, that's what I was thinking, too. I'm 90 lbs. soaking wet, so it matters not how much I train -- if a man wants to hurt me, I'm dead. I can outrun them, though. I'd just play-wrestle him. Choke him out? Chinese throwing stars? He asked for it.
Bejita463 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Martial arts isn't just about self-defense. It's also a competitive sport (eg. Muay Thai) and a display art (eg. Tae kwon do). (yes, I sneer at tkd) Martial arts are also about self control and respect. You appear to be lacking in the latter. Thinking your fighting style is superior to others is a road paved in arrogance that will not lead you anywhere pleasant. If you sneer at any martial art, chances are excellent that the direct cause is a lack of knowledge. If you feel you have to prove yourself by getting into fights or making disparaging remarks about the abilities of others, you demonstrate ignorance and/or insecurity. Not confidence.
Treasa Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 As a female martial artist myself, I say leave it alone. I completely agree with Bejita463. Besides, I don't care how long you've been training in martial arts - there are untrained people out there who COULD hurt you. Don't let years of training in martial arts build up a false confidence that no one could ever take you.
Author GweStar Posted April 21, 2009 Author Posted April 21, 2009 As a female martial artist myself, I say leave it alone. I completely agree with Bejita463. Besides, I don't care how long you've been training in martial arts - there are untrained people out there who COULD hurt you. Don't let years of training in martial arts build up a false confidence that no one could ever take you. I think you have missunderstood me. I do NOT want to hurt my boyfriend at all - just do a playful little aikido demonstration to show that I can throw him down and keep him down. And he has been asking for it for weeks. And I don't have a false confidence that no one could ever take me. I haven't heard a good argument why I shouldn't do a little aikido demo on him - so if he asks again I'll do it.
Trialbyfire Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Go for it GweStar, show him what a man you are!!
Bejita463 Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I do NOT want to hurt my boyfriend at all - just do a playful little aikido demonstration to show that I can throw him down and keep him down. And he has been asking for it for weeks. Wait, is this a demonstration or a competition? The impression I got was that it was a competition.
Els Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Go for it GweStar, show him what a man you are!! Some men like their women ultra-feminine. Some like a bit of spunk in them. Some actually think it hot if their girl can kick ass. I wouldn't venture to guess which he is, but in any case, if he wants her to be all ultra-feminine around him he certainly shouldn't be baiting her to show him what she's got.
Trialbyfire Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Some men like their women ultra-feminine. Some like a bit of spunk in them.I agree up this point. Some actually think it hot if their girl can kick ass. In thought, not in practice, unless he's into women who wear tight rubber suits and whips. I wouldn't venture to guess which he is, but in any case, if he wants her to be all ultra-feminine around him he certainly shouldn't be baiting her to show him what she's got. My honest opinion on this guy, is that he's a moron for doing so. Totally immature.
Enema Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 But would you actually want to beat someone up just because they provoked you? You should have more self discipline than that. No, and nowhere in my post did I say anything of the sort. Shame on you for your ad-hom attack.
Enema Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Martial arts are also about self control and respect. You appear to be lacking in the latter. Thinking your fighting style is superior to others is a road paved in arrogance that will not lead you anywhere pleasant. Respect is earned, not given. After experiencing years of both styles I mentioned I am more than qualified to comment on their effectiveness and uses. If you sneer at any martial art, chances are excellent that the direct cause is a lack of knowledge. If you feel you have to prove yourself by getting into fights or making disparaging remarks about the abilities of others, you demonstrate ignorance and/or insecurity. Not confidence. Nowhere in my post did I say that I feel I have to prove myself by getting into fights, nor did I make disparaging remarks about others. Shame on you for your ad-hom attacks. If you can't attack the post accuracy, attack the poster - is that it?
You'reasian Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I'm of the opinion that Enema is comfortable rolling with guys in her training and would have no problems doing a light, tasteful demonstration of aikido (or another style) on any man who is close enough and comfortable enough to tease her about it - I think Boldjack's suggestion about a class demonstration is best, because its done in a safe environment without ill intentions and is the least threatening for the OP's boyfriend.
Els Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 Wow, Enema, you really need to change that avvie LOL. This is like the third time I've seen someone assume you're female! TBF, I think it all depends on how he says it. He might just be giving her friendly digs because he thinks it's hot to watch a woman do martial arts so he wants to prod her into doing so. Or yes, he could be an immature, insecure jerk. Either way, by obliging him she has nothing to lose. They either have a good time out of it, or she finds him out if he indeed is an immature, insecure jerk. P.S. Quite a lot of men are into women wearing tight rubber suits and holding whips, actually. Much more than they'd admit.
kdark Posted April 21, 2009 Posted April 21, 2009 I think you have missunderstood me. I do NOT want to hurt my boyfriend at all - just do a playful little aikido demonstration to show that I can throw him down and keep him down. And he has been asking for it for weeks. And I don't have a false confidence that no one could ever take me. I haven't heard a good argument why I shouldn't do a little aikido demo on him - so if he asks again I'll do it. I did an aikido demonstration for my girlfriend once. Showed her some movements and wrist grabs, all very basic. It was a lot of fun. The only thing I would worry about is bruising his ego. Just show him nikkyo. He'll never want to have anymore techniques performed on him ever again...
Author GweStar Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 Go for it GweStar, show him what a man you are!! talking about immature: accusing me of being a man just because I'm into martial arts I assure you I'm as feminine as they come
Author GweStar Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 Wait, is this a demonstration or a competition? The impression I got was that it was a competition. As I said - I'll just show him that I can throw him down and keep him there. It's not a competition and I won't hurt him. If he thinks it's hot or fun - that would be great, wouldn't it? And if he can't take it, even though he asked for it, I suppose he is not the right guy for me.
Trialbyfire Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 talking about immature: accusing me of being a man just because I'm into martial arts I assure you I'm as feminine as they come I think it's great when a woman takes up any athletics, especially martial arts. In the past, I've taken a generic form of kick-boxing, for both self-defense and to stay in shape. That has nothing to do with the attitude of wanting to take on your b/f, in a physical demonstration of prowess, due to your b/f jacking with your ego. It's like you're almost gloating about it. What an odd dynamic in a relationship. Men are pound for pound stronger than women. Let's turn this around. IF a woman keeps teasing a man about his strength, should he kick the crap out of her, just to prove his point?
mr.dream merchant Posted April 22, 2009 Posted April 22, 2009 I mean damn, if bustin your man's ass is how far you'd go just to be right then do it and be happy with what little you have to prove by ****ing him up. Jeez, women just want to be right all the time. *rolls eyes*
Author GweStar Posted April 22, 2009 Author Posted April 22, 2009 I think it's great when a woman takes up any athletics, especially martial arts. In the past, I've taken a generic form of kick-boxing, for both self-defense and to stay in shape. That has nothing to do with the attitude of wanting to take on your b/f, in a physical demonstration of prowess, due to your b/f jacking with your ego. It's like you're almost gloating about it. What an odd dynamic in a relationship. Men are pound for pound stronger than women. Let's turn this around. IF a woman keeps teasing a man about his strength, should he kick the crap out of her, just to prove his point? As I've said a couple of times now: - I WILL NOT KICK THE CRAP OUT OF ANYONE!! ESPECIALLY NOT MY BOYFRIEND! For like the fifth time: I'll just show him that I can throw him down and keep him there. I won't hurt him. Now do you understand?
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