Goatsbreath Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Ok, well the breakup was around Christmas 2008 and I'm still suffering with this. It has become better. I still have days but the intensity of everything has settled a bit but I keep having dreams. The last two days I dreamed I ran into her and her new boyfriend or whatever he is, not sure.... Supposedly he was married but separated and trying to reconcile with his wife. I don't know where that's at or if my ex is still messing around with him. I have not spoken with her for about a month now. I admit, seems I was the one to always initiate contact, she never does and I think she feels guilt when she speaks to me so she would rather just avoid it. I know I just am better off not talking. Each time I do I fall back and I can tell by my actions. So now I'm on a month and really its the longest I have made it. Our last conversation was way more civil then I sometimes think she deserves. I know if I blew up at her I would just play that over and over in my head and question it so I went with civil. I feel better but really these dreams are killing me. Last night I dreamed I ran into her and her new guy at a bowling ally but it was like the start of the breakup. In the dream I was still with her and I approached them and grabbed her hand away from his as they were holding hands. Then I just remember asking and asking, why, how you could do this etc... This stuff is really getting old. I cant talk to anyone about it because family and friends are over it and think I should be 2. I can sense a just forget about her, you are done with her attitude when I mention it at all. Just needed to vent
Truly Lost Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I'm almost at 4 months in my break up with my ex. I'm not pining for him, but I'm still feeling sad about our split. I tear up from time to time. I think I feel more lonely for someone then anything else. I've gone on dates with other people since him and even had a fling with someone, but since I'm not exclusive with anyone yet, I am still sad about the break up. I know once I do meet someone who is serious about being with me, my ex will be nothing more than a distant memory. I'm glad in many ways that I'm not with my ex because things I didn't see about him then, I can clearly see now. He wasn't in love with me. It's getting to this point, that sucks. I don't want to be miserable or sad. I want to be happy and start looking towards the future. Meeting someone is never easy and it takes time. I'm really scared of rejection, because that is apart of dating. But I feel confident that I will meet someone, just hope it will be sooner than later and the process to get to that point is as painless as possible. I'm sure you will meet someone new, but you have to make it happen. Good luck.
jessicasilver Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 awww i feel the same its been 2months now and i still have my moments and i still dream about him i guess it means we still think about them!! i also cant talk to anyone about it, they all think im over it but i know im not. i have my good days when i realise i dont need him but then i have my bad days everything goes wrong and i think about him, i still cry myself to sleep sometimes because i miss him so much. the last time i spoke to him was last week, i thought i was over him and agreed to be his friend like an idiot (biggest mistake) now im just back to step one again!! really no contact is the way to go!!! 4 months isnt a long time hun, especially if you havent spoken for a month only, you just have to keep the no contact thing going until eventually the dreams, feelings, thoughts and love will fade....only the memories will remain!!!
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