jia10july Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 now this guy met him five months ago….hes a wonderful person and extremely decent….we both met through common frnz and my friend gave my number to him since I am single n he’s also single so we both exchanged numbers….till now we both are friends and very close to each other….we both like each other like crazy… he told me everything about his ex-gf the in second month ..he says they both are now friends…..its been 3years of his break up with her…they are still in contact with each other ….n talk to each other on a daily basis n message each other daily…(what kinda break up is this?*anxious*)n I am really jealous…. now his ex came over to her place last to last month, he told me….few days back I met him n I saw few pictures of both of them in his phone…which he did not hide n told me honestly that when she came to my place we had clicked them….i got so damn jealous…(n he also said that my ex is so SWEET n praised about her ,why does he say all this??? either to make me jealous or what ?but if he will say all this he should know the consequences also)… He knows he wants to be with me..….. but all these things releated to his ex confuses me like hell….now I am very confused as to whether I should go out with him or not because I don’t know whether he is over his ex or not….because it does not seem that he will stop talking to his ex-gf if we both start dating ,and I surely can not take that crap of him talking to his ex… I love him a lot intrinsically he also knows that….. its realy hard for me to kick him out of my life, and he also loves me,we both know that… now I don’t understand if he wants to date me then why the hell does he need to mention his ex so many times and all that which I mentioned above…n whether he will change after we date or not I don’t know…since I am a very simple and innocent girl I don’t understand how to put this thing infront of him…(now the thing running in my mind is if for instance I date him whether I should ask all this after dating? or should I ask him now as in right now we are friends so should I ask him now? ) or whether I should stop talking to him?..
Bejita463 Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 I still consider the first real girlfriend I ever had to be a close friend now. After we broke up, there was a clear understanding that we were not and would never again be more than friends. I even managed to remain on friendly terms with my ex-wife despite the divorce, though I don't speak to her or have any desire to do so. The point is that while I could be wrong, the impression I get is that you are making something out of nothing. It doesn't even sound to me like this guy is trying to hide anything from you.
voldigicam Posted April 20, 2009 Posted April 20, 2009 Bringing up exes isn't really polite. I would make that clear. He can do that on his own time, without talking to you about it. It's like sexual techniques - never ask where he learned this or that!
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