mental_traveller Posted April 26, 2009 Posted April 26, 2009 I agree.. it's NOT the OW fault.. But there is two sides ... the BS and the MP.. If the MP would get a lot of sex... would have fun... had a great emotional connection... he/she would NOT be out there.. So there is always fault on both sides.. Wrong, sometimes MP's get lots of sex, fun, and great emotional connection, but still like variety or excitement and cheat elsewhere too.
MizzBlue72 Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I can only talk as a former OW. I can tell you - it is NOT just the sex. It is SO much more. I blame everyone - YES - EVERYONE for the lack of the relationship. I know that it's not just the MM but the BS also - even if they do not want to look at ANY of their faults. The marriage was more likely broken prior to the A. think about that .... I have been on both sides ... cheated on too. I know how each party is responsible. Open your EYES.
bentnotbroken Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I don't think any BS who has looked at the situation and accepted their parts in marital discord and breakdown, believe that the marriage wasn't perfect before the A. That doesn't mean they should share in the poor decision making choices of the individual to go outside the marriage and expose them to physical, emotional and mental abuse. That honor belongs solely to the cheater.
Reggie Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 I can only talk as a former OW. I can tell you - it is NOT just the sex. It is SO much more. I blame everyone - YES - EVERYONE for the lack of the relationship. I know that it's not just the MM but the BS also - even if they do not want to look at ANY of their faults. The marriage was more likely broken prior to the A. think about that .... I have been on both sides ... cheated on too. I know how each party is responsible. Open your EYES. No, you don't know about each individual situation . And, I highly doubt you even know the truth about your affair partner's a. You NEED to look at it as if the BS plays a role to assuage your guilt.
OWoman Posted April 30, 2009 Posted April 30, 2009 This is true. Many cheaters are adverse to MC and ignore the BS's pleas to address issues in the marriage. Some BSs do this too, and ignore the MM's pleas to address issues in the M.
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